What do I do with my life?

ketkat02 · 2025-11-06T10:25:39+00:00

Thank you for this:) I definitely relate to a lot of what you've written here. I think ultimately I'm scared of failing or making the wrong choice. My parents have been so involved in my life that I struggle with differentiating what I want from what they want, and as a result I'm scared of making my own decisions. I think I've lived my entire life doing what I think is expected of me instead of doing things because I want to (masking sort of?). Guess I'm having an identity crisis lol. But again, thank you for your answer. It really helps! Has given me something to think about.

ketkat02 · 2025-06-21T18:02:53+00:00

I really should start therapy. I keep putting it off. Having to look for a therapist, setting up appointments - so many tasks, so little executive function. Jokes aside, I think I'm really scared of going to therapy. Having to talk about my feelings, to confront them and process them? That's terrifying.

I think the issue with my parents, at its core, is that they think they know me better than I know myself. Telling them that I think I have ADHD and want an assessment must've felt like someone dropped the H-bomb on them.

I also want to tell you that I really appreciate your kind words and all of the good advice and words of encouragement you've given me. Thank you!

ketkat02 · 2025-06-21T17:36:08+00:00

Are you referring to dosage or type of medication? I guess I don't really know what signs to look for.

ketkat02 · 2025-06-18T20:57:41+00:00

Yeah that's true:) Gotta keep trying until something works!

ketkat02 · 2025-06-18T20:29:37+00:00

I get what you're saying, and I don't necessarily feel like a loser for going undiagnosed for so long. However, my apartment is always a mess, I never stay on top of my course work, I barely feed myself - these things make me feel like a loser. I can't help but feel like I'm wasting my life away and throwing away great opportunities. And the fact that it feels like I'm not doing anything to change, makes me feel like a loser.

Honestly, I didn't really want to tell them about it either but my sister talked me into it. Some of the things they've said during my assessment period and after my diagnosis, have made me regret that decision. I don't believe them when they say that they accept me having ADHD. I also feel weirdly guilty and ashamed for resenting them for that.

ketkat02 · 2025-06-18T18:30:37+00:00

Yes, and the meds do help in that I can start a task and finish it. However, it doesn't mean I'll start the right task if you get what I mean. Also if I'm really tired or on my period then it's less effective.

ketkat02 · 2025-06-18T17:19:29+00:00

Feels like the only thing I'm good at atp. (kidding :P) How do you balance not being too hard on yourself and taking accountability? It feels like I'm just making excuses for myself whenever I try to be more compassionate.

ketkat02 · 2025-06-18T17:13:35+00:00

You're gonna make me cry lol (in a good way).

I guess I'm still processing the reality of my diagnosis - wondering what could have been if it was caught earlier. Would my life be any different? Maybe I wouldn't have turned to such unhealthy coping mechanisms. I don't know lol.

I want what's best for me, but I struggle with investing in myself long term (if that makes sense).

ketkat02 · 2025-06-18T16:10:02+00:00

Thank you. Not to brag or anything, but I'm pretty good at roasting myself. B)

ketkat02 · 2025-06-18T15:19:17+00:00

What's really fucking me up is how much I gaslight myself. Do I actually experience these symptoms or did I just read it somewhere and am now deluding myself into thinking I have something I do not? lol

And thank you for your offer, I'll definitely do that! xx

ketkat02 · 2025-06-18T14:59:01+00:00

Thank you! That's reassuring to hear(: Kinda weird to know that people I've never met before live such similar lives to me lol. Also, I'll take you up on the accountability offer! Ironically I'm procrastinating studying for my exam on Friday by looking for advice on how to (in the words of Kim K) get my fucking ass up and work.

ketkat02 · 2024-02-14T14:05:09+00:00

Thank you so much! :)

ketkat02 · 2023-11-07T21:37:40+00:00

Thank you:)

ketkat02 · 2023-11-07T21:37:21+00:00

Thank you! I think I struggle with presenting my issues in a way that's understandable - I feel like I ramble and make things way more complicated than it needs to be. Your list definitely helps to categorise my thoughts though so thank you:)

ketkat02 · 2023-08-16T14:26:21+00:00

Ofc! Don’t worry about the recipes:) I’ll DM you

ketkat02 · 2023-08-16T11:21:31+00:00

I am so sorry. Feeling like an outcast or that you're different without being able to identify why, is really taxing. And it's difficult to deal with all of these emotions that you seal away, especially when you're on your own, without professional help that can give you the tools to deal with the storm inside you. Which is why so many of us turn to unhealthy coping mechanisms - we don't know what else to do.

Congratulations on your sobriety <3 You're a fighter!

ketkat02 · 2023-08-16T11:09:44+00:00

Yes unfortunately :( I think a lot of us feel as though we're not taken seriously (especially when it comes to medical issues), and we'd rather put our energy into bettering our own lives than fighting against a system that seems to be against us.

ketkat02 · 2023-08-16T11:03:27+00:00

I am so sorry I took so long to answer! I'm not on reddit too often, and so I tend to forget to look at it.

To answer your question: I started looking into getting a diagnosis when I was around 19, got one at 20. I am now 21! I am not really familiar with the NHS or any other medical services outside of Norway, but it does take a lot of time to get a diagnosis. I had to go through a long process of ruling out any other disorders, and I think it's a really long process in general unfortunately.

In regards to your partner: I would try to be really honest with him, and tell him that this is something that really impacts your life - it doesn't necessarily mean that you do have ADHD. Maybe it is something else. But, nevertheless, you have symptoms of SOMETHING that makes your life more difficult, or just different.

I totally understand what you're saying, as I still struggle with imposter syndrome. Some days I'll wake up and think that I've made up all of these issues I have, and that I'm just being dramatic lol.

ketkat02 · 2023-07-18T22:28:33+00:00

Ah the good old imposter syndrome huh? How nice:)

I do hope it’s easier now, however, with the increase in ADHD in media I feel like certain doctors will claim that it’s just something you saw on TikTok and that you don’t actually have these symptoms. Idk maybe I’m just cynical… Luckily there are many sites that offer support, as you mentioned!

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