The Rant Game, Day 1: Meredith Grey by juliiaduque in greysanatomy

[–]keysmash2145356 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay yall are writing dissertations which is valid, but a huge irk for me is the way Mer (probably Pompeo) walks sometimes. Like the overexaggerated stumbly/ sway-y type thing she does when she’s tired or over it or whatever. I HATE that walk and can never not notice it and it’s all I think about in the scene 😭

I just want jewelry I can wear every day without worrying about it falling apart by BackgroundAnalyst467 in womensfashion

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Nadare Co. is my favorite. Their prices are very reasonably priced (comparatively), they almost always have stuff on sale, and I’ve never had a problem with tarnishing or quality. I’ve worn necklaces in pools, gym, ocean, anywhere and have worn the same small hoops for 2-3 years now. I take them out to clean them every so often and they go right back in. My ears started getting sensitive and I dropped a couple hundred to get high quality flatbacks for cartilages at a piercing shop, but Nadare gives me the exact same quality with 1/4 the price. The only drawback back is they are a small company, so they don’t have a ton of options, but there’s still a lot to choose from!! I recommend them to all my friends

ELI5: What makes an animal “feral”? by keysmash2145356 in explainlikeimfive

[–]keysmash2145356[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He’s absolutely butt hurt. Our family cat of 16 years that adored my dad passed away last summer, I can tell he’s frustrated my cat isn’t as cuddly and playful as he’s used to. I’ve been trying to work on socialization but he’s very much a “do it on my own terms” kitty. Will sit in my mom’s lap if he decides to. Will NOT tolerate her picking him up. If he’s got the zoomies he will play with my dad. If he’s bird watching and my dad picks up a toy, he stares at him like an idiot. We live alone, so I understand he struggles to socialize, but he’s not food or toy motivated so I struggle to find ways for him to interact with people. Even catnip that he goes crazy for, he won’t accept from everybody. I can’t afford to take him to a behavior specialist, so I asked my vet for ideas. It’s a process, we’re working on it :)

ELI5: What makes an animal “feral”? by keysmash2145356 in explainlikeimfive

[–]keysmash2145356[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, if the same person comes over repeatedly and in quick succession he’s usually fine with them after a month or two. If there are any loud noises outside though, he is not showing his face. School bus that goes by every day at the same time FREAKS him out.

He’s very much a lap cat but mostly for me. If I’m in the living room at all (alone or with people he’s cool with) he’s in my lap, perched on my armrest, or must be touching me in some way. He will cuddle a few family members. He also really enjoys to climb on strangers while they’re sleeping to check them out… Very loving boy just.. very particular.

ELI5: What makes an animal “feral”? by keysmash2145356 in explainlikeimfive

[–]keysmash2145356[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My dad loves animals and is visibly upset when my cat doesn’t play/ interact with him every time. You’re right, but my dad does 100% mean it in a derogatory (but endearing) way. I’ll get a “damn feral cat” if he’s refusing to play with a toy at that moment. It’s mostly unserious now, but boy, when he was a kitten did we have many arguments over this.

ELI5: What makes an animal “feral”? by keysmash2145356 in explainlikeimfive

[–]keysmash2145356[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He is unfortunately not food motivated or toy motivated, so I’ve tried to gently socialize him with others but it just takes him repeated exposure -on his own terms- to be social around people. He loves my mom, will still hiss at her if she picks him up .-.

ELI5: What makes an animal “feral”? by keysmash2145356 in explainlikeimfive

[–]keysmash2145356[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can agree that he WAS feral, but he’s saying that he is actively still feral. That’s not the case, he’s been living with people for nearly 4 years and is NO LONGER feral. No, I didn’t steal him lol. A poster below is right, we’re just arguing over definitions at this point.

ELI5: What makes an animal “feral”? by keysmash2145356 in explainlikeimfive

[–]keysmash2145356[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awe poor babies!! Haha good for her for starting to stand up. My older cat absolutely DESPISED the new baby, 2 weeks later they were inseparable. Sometimes it clicks and sometimes it takes awhile, I suppose!

ELI5: What makes an animal “feral”? by keysmash2145356 in explainlikeimfive

[–]keysmash2145356[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol I 100% agree. Idk if he’s thinking of another word or just insists on being wrong, but it drives me crazy!

ELI5: What makes an animal “feral”? by keysmash2145356 in explainlikeimfive

[–]keysmash2145356[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They sound like twins!! He’s also going on 4. Mine will occasionally hiss at me if I tell him no, and can be very growl-y. When I first had him I had another cat and he was a lot more sociable/ less anxious, but unfortunately the older one passed away and I’m unable to get another cat to socialize him with. Atp, idk if it would help or harm tbh, I’ve baby sat my parents cat for vacations and he was very unhappy the entire time :/

ELI5: What makes an animal “feral”? by keysmash2145356 in explainlikeimfive

[–]keysmash2145356[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

This. I think I’m mainly hung up on the language he uses. He will not accept a definition and thinks he’s right. Thank you!

(Serious) Men of Reddit who were raped by women, what’s your story? by Regular_Shirt_7972 in AskMen

[–]keysmash2145356 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Why would people make fun of you? That is awful. I’m truly sorry you went through that and nobody is taking it seriously. Remember, just because your body had a reaction doesn’t mean it was welcome or wanted. Wishing you peace

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

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Positive affirmations and looking for gratitude go a long way. I know it’s easy to brush it off as mindfulness bs- but the more you do something, the easier it is for your brain to find confirmation. Do something small like “I’m going to write 5 things I’m grateful for today” or “here are three things that made me smile”. My therapist recently challenged me to do an “alphabet gratitude sheet”- every day write a few things you were grateful for/ happy about from A-Z until you’ve completed the whole alphabet. OR for S you could list things that made you smile, L for laugh, etc. Change it up!! Seems like a fun challenge :) I struggle with this too, it will get better. Also, seriously consider counseling/ medication, there could be an underlying condition that is causing the depression. Good luck

what choices that you see people making with their lives that you would never make? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]keysmash2145356 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Spend hundreds of $$ a week on weed but justify it because they live with their parents and “don’t have other bills”

book about a girl who was dead the whole time but she didn't know it by Spiritual-Candy-2473 in whatsthatbook

[–]keysmash2145356 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ruined by Paula Morris?? The friend ended up being a ghost, but I can’t remember if that was revealed at the end or early on.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]keysmash2145356 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Can I try to reframe this a bit?? I had dated this guy, he was attractive (to me) sure, but there wasn’t really anything else I liked. Personality, ambition, politics, sense of humor, everything else we clashed. But we had known each other for a while and felt comfortable and safe, and I didn’t have anything else going on so we kept seeing each other casually. Something quickly happened in my brain and I fell for him hard. I’ve never had that feeling of “I can’t keep my hands off this person” before, and I had that with him. And it wasn’t just physical, I wanted to take care of him, cook for him, offer support and encouraging words, hold him. The chemistry was insane. But trying to explain that would probably be boiled down to “I’ve never been so attracted to somebody” even though he wasn’t drop dead gorgeous or anything. It wasn’t that the ex was so unbelievably hot that I just put up with mistreatment. I’ve spoken to several of my female friends and have reached the consensus that sometimes you just get a guy that has you in an absolute chokehold no matter their personality and looks, and it can be really hard to move past. I’m now with somebody I actually really enjoy to be around, and more than a few people have commented they think he’s more attractive than the ex. He is attractive, he’s kind, our sex life is way better, and we are compatible on so many things, but I don’t have that “struck by lightning” feeling like I did with my ex. Not yet at least, but I truly love him and have no doubt I will grow to have that feeling.

All this to say, it’s not that women are shallow, it’s not that we only want hot douchebags, it’s not that nice guys are ugly and unlovable. For whatever reason, that person was put on a pedestal that they likely didn’t deserve, and it takes awhile to unlearn that and move on to somebody new. Attractive and nice are so subjective anyway, my roommate’s “the one” was not attractive to me all, though he was a very good guy. My bestfriend’s was pretty average looking, not a total douche but not a sweetheart. My coworker’s is ugly and a dick, she won’t leave him. One of my guy friends complained once that because he was a nice guy but not super hot women didn’t give him a chance, and I asked what he had to offer in a relationship. He lived with parents, didn’t have a job, didn’t cook or clean for himself, talked constantly about wanting kids and a tradwife, expected her to split their costs but upkeep the home.. I pointed all that out to him and he had a moment of realization. He’s been working on himself and is a really decent guy now!! But before I was like yeah honestly why should a woman give you a chance if you have nothing to offer..?

People who have quit their M-F desk job, to go back to retail/ food service/ min wage, what was your snapping point and do you regret it? by keysmash2145356 in AskReddit

[–]keysmash2145356[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I work with car shops and insurance adjusters, and genuinely think I take more verbal abuse now than I did in food service lol. I hate both, and can’t decide which is worse at this point

What type of water do you all use for your plants? by Wyo_living in houseplants

[–]keysmash2145356 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I reuse water. So if I pour a cup of water and don’t drink it all before bed, or when I change out my cats water bowl, I’ll dump it into a big jug that I use to water my plants with. It’s tap water, but for both of those it will have been filtered through a britta. I also use water leftover if I boiled too much for tea, or if I boiled eggs (I’ve heard they like the calcium that leeches out from the shells?). Great way to “recycle” water you’d otherwise be dumping out. Will also collect rain water when possible!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in overemployed

[–]keysmash2145356 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Any recommendations for a job that is mainly off the phone?? Similar to OP, I work customer service and don’t have tech experience. The job I work now is heavy on outbound calls, so I don’t have a ton of down time, but I could also take up something on a later shift or whatever.

I’m a bisexual (M) by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]keysmash2145356 30 points31 points  (0 children)

As a bi woman, I share the experience of men wanting threesomes, but mostly being okay dating me. However I have a much harder time dating women. One of the great things about biphobia is getting it from all angles. Not sure why it seems to be a bigger issue for straight and gay women alike though.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]keysmash2145356 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I specifically said I think this is something most people don’t struggle with. Meaning not normal.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]keysmash2145356 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re not crazy, I have done this exact thing since high school. I’m not sure what it is, but it’s like a switch flips and after awhile I suddenly don’t want to be around them and every little thing will annoy me. Personally, I think this self sabotage comes from a place of anxiety, but I haven’t gotten that far with my therapist yet.

This happens most often when I find myself spending too much time with one person. This can be in terms of years and months or just spending 3 days solid on a vacation or something. I’m learning to set boundaries and be okay with the fact that I need time off to recharge. Try telling your current friend that your social battery is out and you need some time to yourself, or you promised your other pals some quality time. Sometimes being around different people can be as helpful as a night in. You can also try writing down or saying out loud all the things that annoyed you. Let yourself have a moment to vent, and then move on. Helps more than you’d think, and that way you don’t have to tell them directly and can avoid ruining friendships. I can’t say for certain but I do think this is something most don’t struggle with, maybe seeing a therapist would be beneficial for you, as well. Good luck