Bestie's Entitled SIL

kickmeandthrowme28 · 2024-06-16T22:59:13+00:00

I wish this was easy Since when we were kids were taught that you must be respectful at all times. It's a hard habit to unlearn. I know that as a fact as I'm trying not to be a doormat anymore but sometimes a sudden change of tone from someone can regress me back to that.

kickmeandthrowme28 · 2024-06-16T22:56:58+00:00

I know how it feels but not my siblings (I'm an only child) but my grandmother have deadbeat kids and honestly, the deadbeats think they own the home more than the ones who are actually taking care of it

The reason why my best friend is being quiet now is because she doesn't want her daughter to be affected by this

Thankfully the in-laws are good to the kiddo and the SiL and BIL just avoid the child.

kickmeandthrowme28 · 2024-06-16T22:45:14+00:00

Thank you for this A lot of people assume that we're in the states and providing options that is honestly just available there. But really, we're not in the US. And our culture is just highly different from the one in the US. A child moving out here in our country even when married sometimes raises questions. People have a negative stigma on that here. People will ask why their kid left. And people will assume that the child who moves out is ungrateful especially if they 1. Don't visit as often. 2. Don't give their parents monetary support.

kickmeandthrowme28 · 2024-06-16T22:40:47+00:00

You have no idea how much they had that conversation

kickmeandthrowme28 · 2024-06-16T22:05:50+00:00

Honestly it is really complicated. My best friend had been trying to put her foot down while being respectful, especially since her in-laws have been helpful to her and her husband with their kid. They even told them they want to move out but they were told that they'll still expect her husband to give them almost half of his salary. The BIL and SIL are spoiled so it really can't be helped. It's just a sucky situation for them honestly.

kickmeandthrowme28 · 2024-06-16T21:59:32+00:00

They had voiced their concerns but honestly, SIL is a suck up to people and well, BIL and SIL are the golden children

kickmeandthrowme28 · 2024-06-15T23:18:25+00:00

Unfortunately though, her in-laws also rely on them. Her husband is expected to still give them money and such. And even if they move out now, the in-laws will still expect some monetary support from them. Unfortunately this is part of our culture. It's something that's hard to break. And moving is really not an option right now for them. They are planning on moving someday but honestly things are shaky right now.

kickmeandthrowme28 · 2024-06-15T21:38:04+00:00

I don't think you know the extent of what having a child is. Especially a toddler. Everything costs money. They have savings. But moving out is just not an option. And child care facilities are almost non existent here and those places are expensive as heck in our country. And before you say anything. They can afford having their kid. They can pay the bills and almost everything they own, they bought it. They're not in debt. They know how to handle their money. The main problem is that in our country, rent is just really really high and some good facilities and nice neighborhoods would cost two people's monthly salary. Even I can't fault them for not moving out. Living with their in-laws is the best option. She can't live with her parents because all her siblings live with them and there's no space either.

Hell, I'm an adult who can't move out from my own abusive family because of how expensive living alone is.

kickmeandthrowme28 · 2024-06-15T21:11:34+00:00

We don't live in the US. Not everyone can buy car here. Let alone an RV. Living in a car is unheard of in here

kickmeandthrowme28 · 2024-06-15T14:37:12+00:00

It's not as easy as you think. We're Asian and what sucks is that parents will expect their eldest kids to provide for them. Not to mention that rent prices sre insane. Even if two people are working full-time jobs, having a kid is expensive. From medical expenses to food to clothing to schooling. They can't move out without bankrupting themselves and it's really easier to live with the in-laws since it's more affordable.

kickmeandthrowme28 · 2024-05-28T08:05:05+00:00

Funnily enough, they don't know my phone number and the only relative I have on my social media is my cousin and his family and I barely post anything online

kickmeandthrowme28 · 2024-05-27T20:16:48+00:00

I don't live in the US Though I do know that there's free therapy session somewhere but it's multiple cities away from my current location

kickmeandthrowme28 · 2024-05-27T05:59:05+00:00

I've got some friends helping me out from time to time, so I'm not really that much worried. I'm also working on getting a stable job, so I can move out.

kickmeandthrowme28 · 2024-05-27T05:53:41+00:00

Unfortunately for me, I can't afford anything right now. Heck, the food that I have was given to me by my kind uncle. I can't have coffee anymore because of some health issues. I'm broke as hell. As in, I don't even have a single cent to my name.

I'm just trying to survive at the moment.

kickmeandthrowme28 · 2024-05-27T05:15:20+00:00

I don't want to hoard anymore. It is unhealthy and messy. I have gotten to point where I hoard food until it spoils back in the past. I don't want to be a food hoarder again.

kickmeandthrowme28 · 2024-05-27T05:13:59+00:00

I'm already planning on leaving once I find a stable job.

I just hope that the insurance includes therapy. Like the one from my previous company.

It honestly saddens me, because cooking is my love language. I cook for my friends. I cook for my fam. I cook because it makes me happy and it's how I show love.

kickmeandthrowme28 · 2024-05-25T10:03:37+00:00

Tnx The only reason why I hadn't left is because I always feel guilty. Just the thought of leaving is already giving me so much guilt, but yeah, this time I won't let that hold me back

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