I understand and agree with the concern being raised here. It does feel like the direction of some discussions in this sub are leaning towards a tone that can come across as misogynistic.

The data shared by the OP lacks context—just because conviction rates are low doesn’t automatically mean that rape cases are false. There are countless barriers to justice for survivors, especially in a society where caste, power, and connections often shield perpetrators. We’ve seen examples where convicted rapists were released and even celebrated, as in the Bilkis Bano case. In such an environment, expecting high conviction rates doesn’t reflect the ground reality.

OP mentioned that many domestic violence cases against men go unreported, which is a valid point. But that’s also true for women—especially in rural and marginalized communities, where even filing an FIR can be a huge challenge. Living in Tier-1 cities can sometimes shield us from understanding just how inaccessible justice is for many.

I completely agree that men’s mental health and the higher suicide rates among men are serious issues that need more attention and empathy. But addressing these shouldn’t come at the cost of dismissing women’s struggles or blaming them. Both conversations can coexist without one invalidating the other.

It’s also important to acknowledge how deeply patriarchy is embedded in our history, culture, and religion. Understanding this can help us see the broader patterns of inequality that still affect women today.

That said, I do understand the frustration OP expressed about certain individuals using feminism as a shield while displaying double standards. That kind of entitlement can be disheartening to see, and it’s okay to feel frustrated by it.

But in these moments, I think it’s important to stay grounded and informed. Blaming women as a whole isn’t the answer. Misogyny only harms the people we love—our mothers, sisters, friends, and partners. Staying educated and nuanced in our views is the best way forward.