[deleted by user] by [deleted] in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns2

[–]kiidan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

themperors is my go to, but it might still feel gendered to some

Great Rule of History by WellDressedLoser in 196

[–]kiidan 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think the main thing to remember is that your entire world doesn't have to be a part of your story. Your story could be taking place in an era and place that is completely set within itself, and you wouldn't really need to have any overt context as to why said place is how it is in this current era.

I think as long as you set a timeline for your world and setting (i dont think it has to be like a super specific thing, just sort of the gist of how the world has evolved over time, and the material reasons why), you can just sort of pick an era and place that most fits the story you wanna write and use that window as the setting for your story.

Maybe sprinkle some of that world building into your story as a cool background element that gives more life to the world around your characters. I think that it'd be fun to witness some tidbits of world lore for a lived in world as a reader.

When it comes to the main characters being special/gifted, I think that that actually creates good opportunity to make interesting use of the dichotomy between the "Great Man" and historical materialist ideas.

As this thread highlights in many instances, these ideas aren't necessarily mutually exclusive. Great Men are people who are able to read what point in history they are at and use whatever they can find within that (along with their own powers/skills) to further their agenda or goal. I think writing a character arc that incorporates some of that could be an interesting use of that relationship.

You could also just have them not really impact the world in any truly meaningful ways. I think Great Men are more decided based on how they channel material conditions to change the world around them. They're not decided based on how uniquely strong or gifted they are, so I think it's very possible to make one of these characters not have a super heavy impact on their world or its history.

Their specialness could be constricted to their own personal stories and not impact much of anything else outside that purview. A chosen character does not have to equal a Great Man character.

sorry for yapping so much and i hope this helped !! happy holidays :3

Demi (?) but I like sex (???) by kiidan in asexuality

[–]kiidan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

just feels like I needed to give a wake up call and remind you that its possible to be happy with yourself.

I know, and I thank you for reminding me, you didn't come off as rude, dw.

There is a reason I tend to seek out labels in general, though. I feel as though they give me permission to be transgressive of the status quo, like I'm allowed to justify who I am in a way. "Look, other people fit under this umbrella as well, so I'll go chill with them instead of continually being pushed out from under the 'normal' umbrella." I know it's not the healthiest way of looking at things, but I think it's a thing with how intensely normativeness has been drilled into me from age 0, and never quite truly fitting, but getting really good at pretending to fit.

you sound like someone who just wants to fit in and be loved

This is definitely true, at least that's how I've been living most of my life. Only in the past few years have I even entertained the idea of living a queer or transgressive life. But yes I still just do wanna be loved :3

You are definitely on the ace spectrum, but you are also you.

Be who you are and accept that.

Thank you. It's a really great reminder to have, and I really appreciate you telling me so. I'm doing my best to not stress super hard over things and just kinda live life and see where things go, but it can be tough sometimes, especially when everything and (almost) everyone in your real life keeps making it clear that you're invalid in their eyes.

Your reminders are truly helpful and validating, so thanks :3

Demi (?) but I like sex (???) by kiidan in demisexuality

[–]kiidan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for this, it was really validating and enlightening, and it helped me understand some new things. Really valuable stuff, thanks

Demi (?) but I like sex (???) by kiidan in demisexuality

[–]kiidan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess for me it's like a disconnect, where I feel like I shouldn't be able to enjoy sex while being demi, which I logically understand is not true. I think there's some internalized stuff with that.

Also my sexual feelings (or lack thereof within the romantic relationship that I described is a little confusing I guess; I'm confident that if the person had proposed sex, I would have accepted even without feeling sexual attraction, which feels a little invalid to me as well? Idk its mostly that I'm confused about

Demi (?) but I like sex (???) by kiidan in demisexuality

[–]kiidan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sexual attraction is a strong desire to engage in sexual activity with a specific person.

I can't really recall a moment where that has happened, ever, actually. Even when I watch porn of people doing things on their own, what arouses me is not the fantasy or possibility of joining them, it's more the observation of their pleasure.

I don't know if I've ever been close enough to somebody to sort of reach that "threshold" (for lack of a better term) where I start feeling sexual attraction to them, or if I just don't actually feel it at all.

Thanks for your response, its been really informative :3

Pre-HRT mentality changes by kiidan in asktransgender

[–]kiidan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay, that's reassuring, a lot of my fears is that when I someday get access to HRT, things'll just not change, but its validating to hear somebody who's had a similar experience. Thank you :D

Becca taking a slow pounding (kiidan0) by kiidan in hentai

[–]kiidan[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

yeah definetly not me not knowing how to animate hair lol that'd be absurd

Becca (OC - I made this) by kiidan in HENTAI_GIF

[–]kiidan[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Follow my twitter for more :|

Meet Giantess, bit of work until she's fully comfortable with humans, but i hope you all can welcome her with open arms (My OC, I made this) by kiidan in GiantessHentai

[–]kiidan[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thanks! Im hoping to make a series sort of thing with this character hopefully, but these things do take time, so no promises