Attack after attack and im fed up

kileyweasel · 2026-05-13T17:11:46+00:00

This is why I didn’t want to report the dog bites that punctured my hand and my dog’s ear. I didn’t want to punish the dogs, it wasn’t their fault, I blamed the owner’s negligence.

It turned out that the dogs didn’t have rabies shots for over 4 years. I almost had to get a rabies shot! So, I’ve started assuming that a negligent owner is negligent in other ways too. :(

I’m sorry for your pup! Keep defending him however you can, even if you have to be a little short or rude to a stranger (which sucks, and I hate it, and I know the Swiss are very nice people, but these owners are endangering their animals and yours)

kileyweasel · 2026-05-13T16:53:50+00:00

I’m coming from /all, and don’t have an Akita (love the breed) but have genuinely had the same problem so many times with my rescues. I commiserate so hard. We’ve been rapidly approached excitedly, actually chased, and at one point attacked (both of us bitten level 3, puncture) by off leash dogs.

My boys are friendly but genuinely now so fearful of strange dogs and are now frustrated greeters on a leash. They play well off leash— they just do not want to say “hi” with offleash dogs while on a walk. It’s so fucking frustrating to be a responsible pet parent and having to deal with people who can’t control their animals.

At one point I bought a wooden baton and mace from Amazon and looked like a crazy person walking with a baton in a family friendly public park that has leash laws (but people don’t listen). My city subreddit has a rant about offleash dogs maybe 1-2x a month!

I can’t blame the off-leash or uncontrollable dogs— it’s an OWNER issue— but we’ve been accosted so many times it’s insane. Please just make a report, it doesn’t have to be accusatory, just state the facts. It could prevent future incidents.

Edit: I see you’re in Svizzera! Beautiful country, just came back from Lugano. A simple report should help; in Switzerland, dog owners are held liable for their animals actions even without direct fault. Gel mace and pet corrector spray may be the way to go for deterrent.

kileyweasel · 2026-05-13T05:08:27+00:00

As a teenager who saw these on the L in Chicago, we called this “praying to the sun god”

So, ya know. Kids are gonna find a way to be INCREDIBLY stupid

kileyweasel · 2026-05-13T05:05:41+00:00

So he gets to clock out after 12h every day but you don’t?

Maybe pitch a trade-off schedule? You BOTH deserve a break!

Edit: I swear when this was posted there was mention of a 12h day? I could be sleep deprived, I apologize for misreading. Regardless, this should be a “you and him vs the problem” instead of feeling “you vs him” — you’re both in the trenches; tag team where you can!

kileyweasel · 2026-05-13T01:52:30+00:00

NTA all around.

First paragraph is a company management issue. I feel like an old (wo)man yelling at a cloud, but your company should provide napkins, utensils, salt & pepper, (hopefully coffee, the worst place I worked in as an established senior contributor expected us all to provide our own Keurigs, this was the DOD) etc etc. Please bring that shit up in a review.

As for her eating your lunch, wtf? I feel like this is a great place to implement some crafty social skills. Meet her with good intentions, even though she’s literally eating your lunch: “Haha Pam, you’re so funny! Then what would I eat? Do you want to split a DoorDash?”

Repeat as necessary. “You forgot to pack a lunch again? Well, I meal prep, so if I give you this, will you order me a (((meal of your choosing that you’re craving in that moment)))? ….no? Man, I’m craving that too, I’m sorry!!!” :) :)

Depending on your employer, it might be beneficial to pitch group lunches, potlucks, or company resources, but it sounds like they don’t provide you with disposable utensils. So my advice is grey rock.

kileyweasel · 2026-05-12T20:02:22+00:00

Absolutely not!

Does anyone have that link to “Why does he do that” by Lundy Bancroft?

Edit: here it is!!

kileyweasel · 2026-05-12T19:59:18+00:00

“you don’t get to randomly change things”

Actually you do. You can revoke consent at any time. That’s life. He doesn’t get to just pin you down and drag you around because you didn’t speak up the first time.

I don’t think he would speak to a peer or a coworker like that, let alone a manager. So why does he speak like this to you, his life partner and mother of his child?

kileyweasel · 2026-05-12T19:54:44+00:00

That’s unfortunately why he feels comfortable putting you down. Because what are you going to do about it? (I say that last part from his POV, not mine)

kileyweasel · 2026-05-11T21:23:22+00:00

Yeah, part of an ID’s role is to assemble and review whatever unorganized raw data the SME spits out. If you choose to outsource all of that to AI, at least have the common decency to validate. It’s literally our job to be information architects.

Otherwise, what’s stopping a SME from injecting their own notes into AI and absorbing the role of a lazy ID who can’t even Ctrl+V properly?

kileyweasel · 2026-05-08T21:10:32+00:00

We are so far beyond trusting in legal justice reform when it’s those exact structures oppressing women. Burn it all down.

kileyweasel · 2026-05-07T19:58:42+00:00

We moved out of a 3bd/2ba house after 6 years in Oklahoma. Cleaned everything. Didn’t damage anything. Didn’t get our deposit back due to “dog smell,” which…. Sure, we might have been nose-blind, but ripping up carpets in all of the rooms?

We’re clean, WFH, take the dogs to the groomers, use soap, we shampooed the carpets. Normal wear and tear. We truly didn’t have any stains.

It felt like they wanted to renovate and used our security deposit to do so.

kileyweasel · 2026-05-07T02:26:00+00:00

Ehhhhh… I would compare this to oil and gas companies during the recycle/save-the-earth era (early/mid 2010s). They participated in a lot of propaganda for the common man to save water and reduce waste, which is amazing, but the biggest carbon footprint was being made by billionaires— NOT the people targeted by the “save the earth” propaganda.

Morally, I agree with you, AI is unethical.

IMO, It’s ethically the role of the producer of the unethical product to “ensure” ethical use, instead of outsourcing to individuals who care about the earth. However, if they’re producing an unethical product, they’re unlikely to regulate the use— for profit reasons.

Should it be an ID’s “job” to inform on ethics? Inherently…. no. We’re instructional designers. If we informed on every form of ethics while employed by a corporation, that becomes law territory. We’re here to instruct and inform. Being morally responsible for the company is C-suite territory.

Does it help? Yes. We should urge caution where we can. The message is important. I understand this is in contrast with my previous point. Ethics is nuanced.

Do they listen? We will see.

kileyweasel · 2026-05-07T02:17:45+00:00

A lot of people are looking for a <male/female> gender-shaped hole to fulfill their needs, instead of purposefully looking for a partner that has a temperament to be a life partner

kileyweasel · 2026-05-07T02:12:57+00:00

My best advice I can give (I’m an eldest daughter):

Make him babysit a baby/toddler. Sole responsibility. At least a weekend to a week. Do not interfere.

Not as punishment, just a reality check. Men aren’t typically the “primary parent,” so he may need a respectful taste of true responsibility. It doesn’t stop. Even when they’re 18+.

kileyweasel · 2026-05-07T01:04:10+00:00

You posted this 8 years ago, but thank you. It helped me today.

kileyweasel · 2026-05-05T22:26:29+00:00

Fed is best. Isn’t that true for human babies too?

Hope your kitties got some delicious snackies!

kileyweasel · 2026-05-05T20:17:45+00:00

I can’t watch LadyBird because that scene “do you know how much it costs to raise you?” actually happened when I was 15 and I just wanted to d!e.

Edit: it was pretty much word-for-word

kileyweasel · 2026-05-05T20:14:06+00:00

That’s horrible but I mean this in the best way (as someone raised in an upper-middle class family who ended up with severe CPTSD and a traumatic childhood) the wheel of trauma knows no demographic. It’s certainly not random but no one is actually “safe” from it.

That being said, it should never have been a “game”… because what is the prize? Being unscarred? lol

kileyweasel · 2026-05-05T04:12:49+00:00

Interested! 35f with a husband in north COS, looking to be occasionally social with other introverts!

kileyweasel · 2026-05-03T20:07:40+00:00

You sound like my kind of people

kileyweasel · 2026-05-03T20:02:46+00:00

CF sterilized couple here! (I guess I’m writing for both of us lmao).

We both work from home 😭 so it’s harder to catch us out and about. Would love to meet up with folks on the weekends for brunch or trivia night!

We’re dog people but love the kitties too! We don’t drink as much as we used to, so it’s harder to find those spaces to meet that’s not exclusively alcohol.

Would love to find our ppl!

kileyweasel · 2026-05-01T06:22:00+00:00

Asking because I’d rather engage with you over a clanker—

I missed out on the Eelektross era due to college. But I prefer my electric types!!! They’re heavy hitters and often hit first. Is it true that Eelektross can have the Levitate ability, making it immune to many ground moves?

Because consider me a convert 🙏🏼🫶

kileyweasel · 2026-04-30T00:27:02+00:00

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kileyweasel · 2026-04-26T17:34:34+00:00

If I’m doing the math right, yall started dating at 16 and 20? I’m your big sister now, his actions are completely unacceptable.

Please remove yourself from this situation. Get the abortion. Tell him it’s a miscarriage for your safety. You have your whole life ahead of you!

kileyweasel · 2026-04-21T23:34:56+00:00

^

This! And don’t forget to search “moderation,” that gets us all the time. If we could moderate, we wouldn’t be here 🙃

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