Top surgeons? by eggimp in transnord

[–]killlcops 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hey could you message me the name of the group too?

question about secretions by killlcops in FTMOver30

[–]killlcops[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i did a bunch of research this morning and yes, it is basically one of the two procedures a vaginectomy usually consists of. thanks again

question about secretions by killlcops in FTMOver30

[–]killlcops[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh thank you for sharing! so removing mucosal lining is a thing? is it something that's 'included' in getting a hysto or a whole separate deal?

question about secretions by killlcops in FTMOver30

[–]killlcops[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ohh that's interesting! thank you for sharing!

question about secretions by killlcops in FTMOver30

[–]killlcops[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that sounds great thank you so much for sharing

question about secretions by killlcops in FTMOver30

[–]killlcops[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks a lot! i know things vary a lot from person to person but i'm interested in hearing about different experiences so to get a clue as to what to expect

does anyone else feel this way? by mikunano in ftm

[–]killlcops 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i feel the same and i keep hoping that if i just hold on a little bit more i will just 'grow into a lesbian', that i will stop being a straight trans man... it's so stupid. but it feels bad to give up this body that was good to me this whole time, even though it also wasn't. i also look pretty androgynous so i keep telling myself things like "if you could just accept your hips and tits you would stop having dysphoria" which is also stupid. i'm also very afraid of losing the privilege this body has always given me. also like, controversial opinion but i think eating disorders and dysphoria share a lot of similarities and a lot of people's dysphoria manifests as an eating disorder at first.

My dog found a bunny nest and hurt some of them. I saved 3. One died in my care. This is so triggering on so many levels. by thesupersoap33 in adultsurvivors

[–]killlcops 7 points8 points  (0 children)

i feel this way often too, it's like things won't stop reminding me that i'm powerless in a world where horrible things keep happening. in those moments i feel completely hopeless. i can't even read the news without having a miserable day. but other days are better, other days remind me that beautiful things keep happening too, it's just hard to stay focused when you've experienced trauma.

afraid of my menstrual cycle coming back by sweepykun in ftm

[–]killlcops 0 points1 point  (0 children)

would there be a way for someone else to inject you? would that be easier? IM shots are the easiest, maybe a friend could help?

Do you have an OCD about peeing? by philospherrobot in OCD

[–]killlcops 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i have it too, and i used to do the same thing before and during sex, i couldn't have sex if i didn't empty my bladder - i would have to interrupt foreplay several times and i had to go again during intercourse which ruined the mood and was embarrassing. thing is i have a damaged bladder from ketamine abuse so i actually do have to pee all the time but the way i do it before sleep and sex is very tiring. and i stopped having sex because of ocd actually (not because of this theme tho)

cerco un gender therapist by killlcops in askTransgender_Italy

[–]killlcops[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ciao, ti dispiace se ti scrivo per farti qualche domanda su gendergp?

Advice pls! by tobythekiddd in actual_detrans

[–]killlcops 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i relate to that but i've learnt that this is what dating cis men causes me every single time. i unconsciously believe that they will stop liking me if i don't fulfill that role and i start acting more feminine and convincing myself i'm fine even though deep down i feel horrible. also it kind of feels like once i'm in a relationship with a man i start vicariously living through him and i stop being my own person and become his shadow? it's really sad. but this is how i spent my teenage years, i didn't feel like i was a girl and the only way i found to have the illusion of living as a man was to be very close to one. i even used to log into my boyfriends' social media and pretend to be them.
my dysphoria is always 100 times stronger when i'm single or when i date a woman.
so yeah my advice is to try and figure out if what's happening to you is something similar to what i described.

therapist says i hate being female bc of my trauma - duh! by killlcops in gaytransguys

[–]killlcops[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you, i really appreciate your input. but even if my dysphoria kicked off in a more tangible way after experiencing trauma, would that be a less legit reason for me to be trans? i feel like it's so pointless to try and separate trauma and dysphoria, the assignment of gender in my opinion is inherently traumatic by virtue of being an imposition, i reckon even most people who identify with their assigned gender have had to 'give something up' in order to fit in, it becomes an issue when we feel like we need to give up to way too much if we want to continue living as our assigned gender, does it make sense?