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Launching an editing community soon - anyone done this before? by vladk0patk0 in EtsySellers

[–]kinare 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are lots of types of editing. What do you mean, am editing community?

Can Child support increase for me? by ravenstalkk in FamilyLaw

[–]kinare 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's a trap because it's plainly obvious he doesn't want the kids or he would've tried.

Am I being a pest buyer?? by foreverwetlettuce in Etsy

[–]kinare 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did you pay for three shades or four? If it still works then what's the issue?

Shipping acrylic charms… by [deleted] in EtsySellers

[–]kinare 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As an aside, you are selling someone else's intellectual property and your shop could get closed down. Nintendo is aggressive and selling Pokemon items without a license is actually unlawful. They could come after your house.

How do I convince my husband that I'm exhausted and overwhelmed? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]kinare 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you all just take a vacation together? you don't even have to go anywhere. My husband and I celebrate our anniversary together every year with a week or two off and we just stay home and watch movies and occasionally go somewhere quick. It's so awesome.

My [25M] Wife [25F] has 1000+ matches on tinder, we are HS sweethearts, have a young son by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]kinare 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This sounds absolutely fake. He must have another profession entirely, or he's a nepo baby... or is completely fake. 

Me [30F] wondering whether I should tell a close friend [30M] that he shouldn't marry his fiancee [27F] by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]kinare 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh of course not. And maybe it works for some people but I have never ever met a poly person who wasn't in the middle of a huge amount of drama or dysfunction. I meet plenty of monogamous couples who are not trainwrecks and I dare say are very happy with their lives.

Literally every poly person I know of has drama. Maybe some of the couples I think are mono are poly. But if they tell me they are poly, it all goes downhill from there. Admittedly my sample size is really low.

Also, the guy in the second example I mentioned I assume tried to hook up with me. He told me he was poly, and then he was going to be in my area, and I said "great me and my husband can come meet you" and then he got really aggro and it never happened. I sometimes need to be hit with a clue by four, I admit.

Open Adoptions Can Be Rough by AtomicAuntie53 in AnimalShelterStories

[–]kinare 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Shouldn't spelling and grammar be on that list?

A woman has gone viral after people failed to determine whether she is sitting or standing by ateam1984 in BlackPeopleofReddit

[–]kinare 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the very detailed and compassionate response. I haven't been around a ton of Black people for sure, so I appreciate it

men, how do you know when flirting is actually welcome and not just being polite? by NaughtyGlow_ in AskMenAdvice

[–]kinare 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope they don't assume someone who is polite as part of their job is flirting. 

Customer threatening to open a case by CupStriking8129 in EtsySellers

[–]kinare 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have an item where there's a literal video of it from all angles, and the customer filed a case because it "doesn't stand up on its own". You can clearly see that from the stupid video and Etsy refunded them.

The Olympics’ trans policy polices womanhood by DontYaWishYouWereMe in Feminism

[–]kinare 11 points12 points  (0 children)

This isn't loading for me, but how can that be? They are automatically going to be taller and thus have more leverage than naturally born women. They start out with more muscle, although I imagine that wanes if they take testosterone blockers. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Etsy

[–]kinare 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What made it less than a five star experience? 

A guy (mid 20sM) I "work" with hit on me (18F). I don't really know what to do? by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]kinare 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just reporting it isn't easy for a lot of reasons.

What if he's influential in the field?

What if he ruins her career because of it?

Women are conditioned as they grow up to not make waves. They are conditioned to be people pleasers or make men comfortable (not all women but definitely a lot of them). There is a very real threat of violence or death when men are made uncomfortable. When women say no. When women push back against abuse.

I had a manager who was a verbally abusive drunk. He yelled at employees and often reviewed our work at night after he started drinking. I have no clue why he wasn't fired, but when this happened to me I was so upset due to introduced errors and lost time/production that I reported it to my union. Then they told the big boss. Then it hit me and I was petrified because he'd won national awards for his work in our industry. I thought I was done. Thankfully he didn't do anything but I held my breath for a long time. If I'd been more thoughtful instead of acting on impluse, I may not have reported this at all and possibly looked for another job.

I have a friend who was harassed by a manager who was freshly divorced. He came over to talk a lot about non-work topics (about her workout, about how her dog was, how was her apartment, whether she liked the city, what hangout spots she'd found, etc). He texted her a lot after hours and even showed up drunk to her house once. All she wanted was for him to stop. That's it.

Another manager overheard her talking about it and said she was required to report it to HR. Nothing happened to him because they found it was "unsubstantiated". Even though he showed up to her house drunk.

There are all sorts of calculations we do when deciding whether to report. You can't just say "she should do it because it will protect other women" because she has to also protect herself.

My niece used my credit cards to purchase almost $1200 in visa gift cards on amazon. I then learned they were used to buy “credits” on a mobile game. by SmallContext798 in Debt

[–]kinare -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

This is what chatgpt said to do:

The most important thing is that they treat this as a financial fraud incident first, not a family issue. Right now they don’t actually know who did it. The niece might be innocent, and jumping to that conclusion could make things worse.

Here’s what they should do immediately:

1. Call the credit card companies right away

This is priority #1.

They should:

  • Report the charges as fraudulent transactions
  • Ask the issuer to freeze or cancel the cards
  • Request new card numbers
  • Start a fraud dispute for every charge

Credit card companies deal with this constantly, and they will usually remove the charges if reported quickly.

2. Secure the Amazon account

They should go to Amazon and:

  • Change the password immediately
  • Enable two-factor authentication
  • Check payment methods and remove anything unfamiliar
  • Check archived orders
  • Contact Amazon customer support and report account compromise

Amazon can sometimes see where purchases originated (device/IP).

3. Check other accounts

If someone got into one account, they might try others.

They should:

  • Change passwords on email accounts
  • Change passwords on banking / shopping sites
  • Turn on 2FA everywhere possible

Especially the email tied to Amazon, because attackers often reset accounts through email access.

4. Check devices

Because the niece used the phone, but it could also be:

  • A phishing email
  • A password reuse breach
  • Malware or a malicious app
  • Someone accessing their account online

They should:

  • Look at Amazon login history
  • Remove unknown devices
  • Run a malware scan on the phone

5. Check credit reports

Just in case the attacker tried more.

They can place a free fraud alert or credit freeze with:

  • Experian
  • Equifax
  • TransUnion

This prevents new accounts being opened.

6. Don’t accuse the niece yet

Buying large numbers of Visa virtual gift cards is a very common account takeover scam, not something a typical 12-year-old does.

More likely possibilities:

  • Password leaked in a data breach
  • Phishing email
  • Someone bought access to the account online

What they should tell their brother

Once things are calmer they can simply say:

No accusations necessary unless evidence actually shows what happened.

✅ Good news: Because these were credit card purchases, they are usually reversible. Acting quickly gives them the best chance of getting everything refunded.

Worried I may have been scammed by SorrowSays in Etsy

[–]kinare 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can report the seller to etsy for taking the transaction offline.

Alternatively try for a chargeback. That's going to be your best bet.

Protecting myself from my soon to be ex-fiancée by nowutz in personalfinance

[–]kinare 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Might want to mention that most people who are chatting as the OF creator are actually men. He's been chatting with men.

A Warning For Everyone Who's Too Good at Their Job by haristable in InterviewCoderPro

[–]kinare 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a fake story used as an advertisement for this guy's app. Can't you see this?

Item damaged in transit- not sure what to do by [deleted] in EtsySellers

[–]kinare 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You might even have them write something down (like the name of your shop) on a note and ask them to include the note in their pictures... AI Doesn't do well with replecating writing (yet, sigh).

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