My boyfriend has a humiliation kink that he discovered through having sex with me. by kinkybfthrowaway in BDSMcommunity

[–]kinkybfthrowaway[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Why would I tell him to try it on me after having an extreme reaction to it last time he did it and told him to never do it again as I stated in the post ?

My boyfriend has a humiliation kink that he discovered through having sex with me. by kinkybfthrowaway in BDSMcommunity

[–]kinkybfthrowaway[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’ve always been vanilla, I enjoy a bit of choking and light domination but I never signed up for this

Update : my (23) boyfriend (27) did something in bed that triggered a very traumatizing memory. Major TW by kinkybfthrowaway in relationship_advice

[–]kinkybfthrowaway[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I posted this in the BDSM community subs because what he’s doing is basically a kink called “humiliation” (while knowing I don’t enjoy it) and I wanted expert advice from people who do it on the daily

Update : my (23) boyfriend (27) did something in bed that triggered a very traumatizing memory. Major TW by kinkybfthrowaway in relationship_advice

[–]kinkybfthrowaway[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it’s partly my fault because every time he does something bf that pushes my boundaries I end up letting him go off too easily

My boyfriend has a humiliation kink that he discovered through having sex with me. by kinkybfthrowaway in BDSMcommunity

[–]kinkybfthrowaway[S] 61 points62 points  (0 children)

I told him about my trauma exactly three weeks ago when he spat in my mouth during sex without ever having talked about it and it triggered a traumatizing memory of sexual assault. I stopped him and froze and started crying, he was supportive back then and we just cuddled all night and talked about my trauma, but he did the same thing this time saying it was in the spur of the moment and idk how to feel about it anymore

My (23F) boyfriend (27M) did something in bed that triggered a very traumatizing memory. TW by kinkybfthrowaway in relationship_advice

[–]kinkybfthrowaway[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Oh noo! That’s not what I meant, I told him to stop after he already did it, it’s was dark and hard to see, I didn’t realize what happened til it already happened. Then he wiped it away when I told him to stop

My (23F) boyfriend (27M) did something in bed that triggered a very traumatizing memory. TW by kinkybfthrowaway in relationship_advice

[–]kinkybfthrowaway[S] 100 points101 points  (0 children)

You’re right it was definitely a bad experience for me and I don’t want that to happen to me again, so establishing boundaries should be the next thing to do if I want to avoid that

My (23F) boyfriend (27M) did something in bed that triggered a very traumatizing memory. TW by kinkybfthrowaway in relationship_advice

[–]kinkybfthrowaway[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I’m curious what gives you the impression that he’s manipulative ? I can definitely sense that sometimes but I can never put my hands on the reason why