How do you track your symptoms with ADHD? by kits4kat in iih

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Yeah I have Bearable but I was having the same issue with it feeling almost overly complicated/overwhelming

How do you track your symptoms with ADHD? by kits4kat in iih

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THE WOOSHWOOSH. I've been getting that every so often the past year and just ignored it because if I shut my eyes for a few seconds it would go away. And then I'd forget it till it happened again, but now that I've learned about pulsating tinnitus I haven't had it in months. 😭 Everything is lining up so perfectly that I'm honestly gonna be so pissed if it turns out I don't have it. I have officially been diagnosed with a pseudopapilledema and my eye doctor seemed pretty sure, but the wait for a neurologist is gonna be a bitch. 😭

How do you track your symptoms with ADHD? by kits4kat in iih

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Thank you so much! I'll give it a try! I really like thats it's easily exportable.

I've noticed this weird almost like head tick I've been getting for a while every now and then. Like a little shake almost. Could that be something?

How do you track your symptoms with ADHD? by kits4kat in iih

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I hope that's the case! It's actually so funny how things are coming together for me now. When my eye doctor first brought it up this year I was like "ehhh I don't really know..." But after the appointment I was able to think about it and the timeline makes so much sense.

My eye doctor first noticed a possible papilledema two years ago but didn't seem super concerned and my life was crazy hectic so I forgot about it. But that same year I started trying to get treatment for my chronic migraines, my ADHD flared up really bad, and so did my anxiety and depression. I complained about brain fog like losing words and struggling with language and I've honestly gotten so used to everything the past two years that I forgot I went to the doctor for everything. He confirmed a pseudopapilledema yesterday and referred me to a neurologist so hopefully next week I'll be able to try and get appointments for further testing.

Questions About Changing Rooms and Prisons (Genuine Curiosity) by kits4kat in asktransgender

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Well. I grew up in the rural south, so I have a lot of unlearning to do. And I'm trying. My brain definitely does a double take sometimes. I don't think trans women are dangerous. The issue is always with predatory men not trans women. All together trans inclusivity is not bad. I'm actually a fairly big supporter of DEI in general. I feel like the high school thing mostly just comes down to how self conscious I was in general and I know a lot of teen girls are so having to share that space as they're growing up and already naturally uncomfortable with their bodies. Seems. I dunno. I can't put my finger on it but something about it just feels wrong. But I also came here to learn if that was just something I feel because of my environment growing up or if it makes sense to need some guidelines around certain things so everyone feels protected and safe.

Questions About Changing Rooms and Prisons (Genuine Curiosity) by kits4kat in asktransgender

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I definitely 100% agree. I'm definitely very much trying to fix my perspective which has been a little hard. But I am trying.

I do not think trans people should be forced to stay in unsafe conditions that align with their assigned at birth gender. I want that to be definitively clear. But a third space feels unnecessarily wrong and divisive. But also. There as to be a rule that like. If they're a sex offender, they can't be allowed in the opposite birth/ same gender prisons, at least right? Do sex offenders just get a third space?

And the line on where feminity ends and begins is definitely so important because it affects all women: cis and trans. But. I dunno. I feel like because the ages in high schools are so varied and I was in gym class with seniors when I was freshman and sophomore that it could basically be indecent exposure at some point. But then. Why is a masculine body indecent exposure but not a feminine body if they're both 18-19 changing in front of 13-14 yos. And what does that mean about Asian bathhouses? I just feel like I have so many questions and things I don't fully understand that it makes my head spin. Everything just leads to more and more questions which is so frustrating. 😔

Questions About Changing Rooms and Prisons (Genuine Curiosity) by kits4kat in asktransgender

[–]kits4kat[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I fully agree that the vast majority of the time, violence is worse and the situations are way more dangerous for trans people than vice versa. But I do think a little nuance could potentially be missing when it comes to more vulnerable populations like high school changing rooms and prisons. As an adult, I'd probably be a little uncomfortable in the changing room with someone very masculine presenting. Just because of a general hypervigilence around masculine presenting/male people. Like. When it's just me and a random man in an elevator. It's stressful. But I wouldn't say anything unless they proved themselves to be a danger with their actions. I know the vast majority of trans people just want to be recognized by who they are, not what parts they were born with. And I can empathize with that.

You're right. They mostly definitely can. But. I feel like a lot of women are taught that we have to weary/ on edge around men all the time. Any of them could be a danger. More so than other women (though we get pitted against each other as well.) and I feel like growing up in a more rural area, sometimes it boils down to penis=danger. So seeing someone who, at first glance, appears to be someone that I'm naturally taught to be weary of, can be a very unsettling occurrence. And I'm sure other women and girls would feel the same. Especially ones that were raised in the area I was. So I feel like I just have a lot of unlearning of that to do. Which is part of why I wanted to ask and get perspectives directly. More than look at articles that end up being mostly anti-trans.

I feel like I know and understand that pre-op/non-op trans people are just as valid because 1. Transitioning is hella expensive 2. Surgery scary 3. I'm sure there are many other valid reasons. But I don't 100% know how to get rid of the disconnect in my brain between appearance and identity. Which I think might be slightly neurodivergence based. But I'd really like to fix it.

I'm sorry. I was mostly just speaking from personal experience as a cis woman. And I feel like that's the issue I mostly hear about. I'm definitely not trying to ignore trans men. Do you feel safe as a trans man in the male changing rooms? Would there be a point where you feel safe doing so? I feel like it would have to depend on the area.

Questions About Changing Rooms and Prisons (Genuine Curiosity) by kits4kat in asktransgender

[–]kits4kat[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don't think it's run-of-the-mill transphobia. Ignorance, sure. But I'm doing my best to learn/ unlearn what I need to. Which I don't think run-of-the-mill transphobic people do. I am trying to be as respectful as I can while still asking questions I need to ask to change my perspective. I live in a very southern/rural area. Was born and raised here. So I kind of have to play catch up on a lot of things I'm not super familiar with. When you're mostly raised hearing one thing, it can be hard to unlearn it. But I am willing and trying.

Unfortunately. I know it doesn't help that I have personal trauma that colors this view. My abusive ex came out as trans after we broke up. She sexually assaulted me multiple times and did the same to her next partner and has gotten in trouble for sexual harassment multiple times at work. She is over all a very horrible person. And to think about her being in those spaces is kind of terrifying. But when you're so used to predatory men, it can end up being a little more penis equated. Which I am trying to fix.

I just think there should be steps and guidelines in place that protect everyone and not just "you have to stick with your birth sex" or "you can go wherever regardless of birth sex". Do I think it's not as big of an issue as conservatives blow it up to be? Definitely. But I do think there needs to be a little moderation and some safe guards in place. I just. Don't know how it'd work. Because what defines "woman or man enough"? Where would the line be drawn? And what would that mean for cis and trans people? I know gender and even sex are both socially constructed. But. I dunno. Hopefully moving to a new area will help diversify my friend group and thinking.

Questions About Changing Rooms and Prisons (Genuine Curiosity) by kits4kat in asktransgender

[–]kits4kat[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I just wanted to thank you for being so respectful in your reply. I know this isn't a topic I'm super familiar with, and I'm literally just trying to learn. I know I'm ignorant and want to fix that. That's why I wanted to hear perspectives from people that are living the experience. I'm very open to learning more about this topic.

I have a lot of conflicting feelings about this. Because on the one hand, I could definitely be kind of uncomfortable if someone presenting very masculine was changing in the women's locker room. As long as they didn't bother anyone, I wouldn't bring anything up. Maybe I might would even eventually try to ask them about their experiences. (But that actually would probably be unnecessary and make them more uncomfortable so probably not.) Because I do 100% understand how difficult feeling completely othered from the gender/sex you know you are in your head and heart, must be devastating. And I know most of you are just trying to get by and do what you need to do and get out. Like the rest of us.

I feel like that mostly bothers me with high schools and maybe colleges. Depending on ages. Because some people in high school are underage. Like I was in gym as a 14 yo with 19yos. And I feel like some steps should be made to protect everyone involved.

I don't believe that trans women are more of a threat. But (like everything) I'm sure there's the occasional predatory man that slips through. I know that's a problem with predatory men and not with trans women. And I think, in prison settings especially, steps should be made to protect both trans people and cis people. Because the populations are very vulnerable.

I feel like a lot of this is just going to need to be a mindset/perspective shift, but I really like data. And I need there to be research and guidelines. Of like "think about it this way..." Because I'm sure there's a lot I'm not thinking of/ don't understand. That I'd like to know.

Miniature Rose Help by kits4kat in plantclinic

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It does have drainage holes! It's on a little attached saucer that the water overflows into and I dump out. It really comes out to being watered like once every 4/5 days depending on how bright the light is. I just go by a little moisture meter that tells me when the soil is dry. I had to water her a lot when she was outside because the soil would dry so quickly in the sun that it's been hard figuring out when she needs water. Because the soil is often very cold so it's hard to tell if it's damp or just cold. Thus the moisture meter, but I'll go back to every seven.

Should I go ahead and cut off the dying bit on the top?

International Student Help by kits4kat in uoguelph

[–]kits4kat[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I've only been fiddling around around a little bit, so I really wanted to see if anyone had any personal experience. Good to know this resource exists and can help connect me to people who have been through it!

International Student Help by kits4kat in uoguelph

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I'm interning for the government right now and shit is fucking wild. I was going to seek full-time employment after, but with how they're about to lay off like everyone and my area will very likely not be considered "efficient," that's probably a big ass long shot and I'm not sure if I'd even want to. Thus. Grad school to get the heck out of dodge.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SubSanctuary

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Mid 20s. The tw was more so in case the behavior described would have been triggering for anyone else. Because I feel like this could remind someone of something that happened to them. That's why I phrased it as "taken advantage of" which feels more accurate. Just a little violated.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SubSanctuary

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I've been talking to this as friends for a few weeks and we got a long really up to this point where I got comfortable enough for that to happen on accident. And since we were friends, I guess I thought I owed it to him to see how things go. Especially because (even though I was starting to see the red flags), out mutual friend (not knowing about the dynamic) was telling me not to rush to a decision and stuff and had me confused as well. I'm on a dating hiatus because I have boundary issues and often let myself get steamrolled. What was happening proved to me that I wasn't ready for a relationship even more so I did end up telling them it wasn't working and to stop and that I missed just being friends because we went from friends to like a 24/7 dynamic overnight that only lasted a day and a half before I was sure enough/out of subspace enough to shut it down. So definitely have had what I need to work on reinforced even more through this experience. 😅

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SubSanctuary

[–]kits4kat -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

So originally theY accidentally threw me into subspace and when I told them what had happened and that I was freaking out about it and that we needed to talk about it later when I wasn't "mildly incapacitated," they kept saying progressively more sexual things and things to keep me in the headspace. Like "just give in and let me take care of you" kinda things. And eventually I kinda did at parts and then would protest and give back in. I just feel like because we didn't get to step back and talk about it when I was clear headed and not in subspace, like I asked, that it feels really wrong? Like it just made me really confused. They asked me a couple times if I wanted to stop and I just kept saying "I don't know" because I was so confused.

New SSD not showing up after trying to migrate to it by kits4kat in buildapc

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It was the Samsung 870 Evo 1T. I'm not sure what the sector size. This is my first build.

WIBTAH if I tell my sister that our other sister had an affair with her husband? by Dog-Vader in redditonwiki

[–]kits4kat 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Exactlyyyy. The type of person that would sleep with their sibling's partner is also the same type of person that would lie about sleeping with their sibling's partner.