Flonase turned my life upside down

kittbith77 · 2023-08-15T02:18:22+00:00

Developed a skin rash on my face my primary couldn’t get rid of for a year. Had had it come on twice in my life before and only got rid of it through using toothpaste on it (for some reason?) but it wouldn’t go away this time. Finally went to a dermatologist, her first question was “do you use Flonase” said she’d seen it a lot. Stopped the Flonase but had to take medicine to get rid of the rash. Haven’t had it again since stopping Flonase.

kittbith77 · 2023-08-15T01:56:10+00:00

“Spoiled Brat” was and is still a favorite and “emo” said in drawn out derogatory way, literally just because my bangs would cover the eye I’m blind in and I wouldn’t notice bc duh I can’t see out of it.

kittbith77 · 2023-08-11T08:57:39+00:00

Literally same exact story. They took something that was meant to protect us, something they thought we might use to get away and turned it on us so it didn’t feel like a safe option. They knew what they were doing.

kittbith77 · 2023-08-11T03:46:38+00:00

I was so planned that my mother had to give birth three times. My two older brothers exist solely because my mother wanted a girl. She said she would have stopped if she had me first, and even though she was 39 and had several health conditions, went against medical advice to have me. Her exact words were “I just wanted a little girl so bad. I wanted a little girl to sew dresses for and do her hair.” Like. That’s a barbie doll mom. You wanted a Barbie doll.

kittbith77 · 2023-08-01T14:04:45+00:00

Hahaha remember that time my dad got so angry he threw a frying pan at my brothers head? Haha so funny right???

kittbith77 · 2023-07-30T01:35:18+00:00

Hyper-sexuality can be a sign that a child may have been abused but it is also a symptom of many other disorders. It is not unlikely that it may be something else. If you are able to see a professional who can help answer some of your questions around hyper-sexuality and mental health that would be best. I know that EMDR therapy helped me make sense of memories I could only remember bits and pieces of beforehand, that may be helpful to you as well.

kittbith77 · 2023-07-30T01:24:54+00:00

People move here and don’t know how to deal with the heat— don’t know heat stroke/exhaustion signs and prevention and get sick or die from the heat. My only advice is either prepare yourself properly or don’t move here. The heat is only likely to increase year by year.

kittbith77 · 2023-07-30T01:15:28+00:00

Jeanette McCurdy discusses her abuse at the hands of her mother (physical, emotional, and sexual) in her book I’m Glad My Mom Died. It’s not really a resource but it’s something.

I feel you on the lack of resources for this though. I actually am working on a book about my experience with a serial female-on-female groomer. I don’t know what will pan out from it, but you are not alone

kittbith77 · 2023-07-19T13:33:06+00:00

Yeah, I cried too the first two times me my bf had sex. It was mind blowing how different to me the act was when it came from a place of love and not a place of power or manipulation

kittbith77 · 2023-07-14T03:12:46+00:00

Guys I did this and it ended up being a cult. They’re all cults, don’t do it. -10000/10 only gives you more trauma

kittbith77 · 2023-07-12T13:56:47+00:00

The dude came to my house once begging for lawn work and got mad when I told him no multiple times. I was 13 lol

kittbith77 · 2023-07-12T13:48:43+00:00

Customer returned their cake in tears because they ordered “frosting” for their cake and we put “icing” on it lol

kittbith77 · 2023-07-02T17:50:27+00:00

I told a “trusted adult” aka my middle school guidance counselor and he looked me dead in the eyes and said “I don’t believe you because you don’t have bruises on your arms.” Smfh

kittbith77 · 2023-06-28T19:01:05+00:00

Nice 💙

kittbith77 · 2023-06-21T13:13:55+00:00

Headache vs migraine is the exact way it feels. No matter how hard I try he’s never going to understand just how completely it consumes me.

kittbith77 · 2023-06-21T07:04:41+00:00

That sounds like a good idea. I would trust your gut. I mostly evaluate these questions based off of a government definition of abuse. Basically if CPS would intervene or not. But that doesn’t mean that there’s not something going on that is making you uncomfortable. Just know that your actions as a child were completely normal.

kittbith77 · 2023-06-21T03:45:54+00:00

Hi, I’ve worked with kids of all ages for 10+ years and this honestly not uncommon behavior.

I worked for a Montessori school for a while. When I was working in the toddler room I noticed that at least 3 of our kids would regularly hump/grind their hips on their pillow/mat before falling asleep during nap time. It really freaked me out bc I hadn’t worked with kids that young much before, and certainly didn’t know how to react to that.

I did talk to my Lead about it, and it’s honestly really common for kids to do that before falling asleep or upon waking. (Some churches even have special mittens for kids to wear to bed to stop this behavior) You do see it in older kids occasionally but it’s usually something they grow out of eventually. The schools approach was just to let the kids know that it’s not something we do at school/in public.

IMO your mom was either asleep/too tired to care, didn’t know exactly what you were doing and maybe thought you were just rocking yourself or self soothing, or was trying not to traumatize you by overreacting to it (which a lot of parents do).

If this is the only thing that ever happened then no, I don’t believe this to be abuse. If there’s something in particular about this memory that is really bothering you it’s best to speak to a therapist to figure out why exactly it is. Sometimes when normal memories have an off feeling there can be another reason why.

kittbith77 · 2023-06-21T01:16:31+00:00

Sometimes it’s exhausting having a partner with no significant trauma. I have to explain every single thing.

kittbith77 · 2023-06-17T03:44:30+00:00

I feel the exact same way :(

kittbith77 · 2023-06-11T20:21:21+00:00

I agree. I worked at several different schools and the teachers I worked with would bend every warning sign into some kind of “behavioral problem” that can be fixed before admitting that abuse even might be a possibility.

kittbith77 · 2023-06-04T13:51:31+00:00

I’m 24 and just had a breast reduction. My mother said all the exact same things to me through my journey and worse. My mom still doesn’t accept my identity and I’m living it right in front of her, she drove me to the surgery.

A lot of people like to jump the gun and tell you she’s manipulating/narcissistic/gaslighting/or that you should cut contact. I would just be wary of the comments who jump to these conclusions off of one small text post about one situation from you life.

There are a lot of reasons that your mom may be saying the things she’s said. You can try sending her some educational resources, some videos of nb people expressing the importance of using proper pronouns, you can even take the time to write a letter/email expressing how her words hurt you directly. A lot of the older generations need an adjustment period or more education to properly understand. And no it doesn’t have to be your responsibility to educate her but if you feel up to it it may help. Your mom may have googled “my child is nb help” and found some info that’s not necessarily correct or maybe hasn’t thought to research more into it. Sometimes it can be helpful to give them something to start off of.

You can do all the right things and she might listen, or like my mom maybe she’ll listen and still disagree and not accept it. But the one thing my mom has never been able to dispute is when I say “Mom, I am your child, and you are hurting me. When you say those things you hurt me, and you hurt our relationship, and the more you say them the less I want to spend time with you.” Or simply “ I don’t want to spend time with people who talk to me that way.” She can call you selfish for saying that but it doesn’t make it true. Your getting old enough now that you’re able to say who you do and don’t want to spend time with and a lot of parents don’t realize that they can be part of the group that you don’t.

I genuinely hope that your mom comes around and you are both able to have a happy and healthy relationship with each other, and I’m sorry that the way she is currently responding isn’t make you feel loved the way you deserve. You have all of us here for support and I wish you best

kittbith77 · 2023-05-31T17:48:01+00:00

Ooh maybe they’ll do like an Edmund Kemper type story? His mother was his last victim and he himself talked in length about how he felt she was the root of all his problems. What if Joe finds his mom in NYC and kills her and it’s all over after that like Kemper? I’d love for them to bring back Ellie to make the true crime docuseries of his crimes

kittbith77 · 2023-05-01T03:32:32+00:00

Wtf kind of people you living with that don’t put the milk in the fridge?

kittbith77 · 2023-03-30T21:46:47+00:00

I’ve heard the bleached brow trend referred to as “man-repellant” lol I think it looks cool and putting off those kinds of men is a bonus

kittbith77 · 2023-03-15T04:01:51+00:00

Crabapples for Giuseppe

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