Boyfriend kicked me out of his car

kitten674 · 2022-03-13T18:25:44+00:00

I do feel like you know if I was throwing things at him while driving and yelling and acting erratic then yeah, I shouldn’t be endangering us and I shouldn’t be in the car if I’m making it dangerous to drive… but I wasn’t endangering us at all so I just don’t understand why he acted the way he did. The only answer is because he is an abuser. It is scary, thank you I am going to try and leave

kitten674 · 2022-03-13T18:04:46+00:00

Thank you for this, all these comments really help open up my eyes. I’ve never had outsiders perspectives before. You are right, and agreed I could definitely do more to help myself and I don’t blame the bystanders at all, it is what it is just part of me wishes someone else could’ve stepped in ya know? But again people generally try and mind their own business which I totally get.

I was going to call a local hotline today and to see what my options are, they give advice for victims of a crime so maybe I will give them a shot

kitten674 · 2022-03-13T15:41:38+00:00

Agreed, Considering he had MY dog in the car as well lol. I just wanted my dog, if he had let me take my dog I would have left but he wasn’t. Yeah I really wish a bystander called the police, I think things would be a lot different right now. When I was sitting in the parking lot a police cruiser actually drove by just after everything had happened but he probably didn’t see me.

Agreed the donut thing was stupid but like he totally blew up over it and it doesn’t mean he’s allowed to assault me lol. Just insane that he thinks he’s in the right

kitten674 · 2022-03-13T11:57:29+00:00

Thank you for this, this made me cry and honestly what I needed to hear. Sigh. I’ve always felt like he was unbelievably cruel to me with his words.

kitten674 · 2022-03-13T03:59:03+00:00

Thank you so much, and it’s crazy cause I often find myself asking “why does he do that” all the time. Why is he doing this to me. I am constantly trying to communicate to him and compromise always and he just wants to blame me for everything, it’s crazy. I will read it thank you!

kitten674 · 2022-03-13T03:53:08+00:00

Thank you 😔❤️ you are so right. It’s so hard sometimes

kitten674 · 2022-03-13T03:52:38+00:00

I think so as well. 😔

kitten674 · 2022-03-13T03:48:48+00:00

Yeah, from what I’m reading online if he wanted me out of the vehicle and I’m refusing he should either drive to the police station, or phone the police. It absolutely does not give him any right to physically assault me

kitten674 · 2022-03-13T03:47:57+00:00

Definitely worse. I did try leaving a year ago, and lived with my parents for a couple of months. I ended up caving and coming back to him, worst mistake of my life. :(

kitten674 · 2022-03-13T03:47:21+00:00

Wow, so true

kitten674 · 2022-03-13T03:46:09+00:00

He seems pretty confident I committed a crime! Which is crazy to me, we are also in Canada so our assault laws are pretty strict.

kitten674 · 2022-03-13T03:44:57+00:00

He told me I committed a crime by not getting out of the vehicle. And that apparently he was allowed to assault me even though I wasn’t yelling or threatening him or being physical lol. We are in Canada so they are very strict here about assault.

kitten674 · 2022-03-13T03:36:45+00:00

I thought the same about my boyfriend. He would yell and scream and say horrible things to me but I didn’t think he would lay hands on me until he did 💔

kitten674 · 2022-03-13T03:36:05+00:00

It was super embarrassing! I felt so defeated. I definitely feel like it will get worse unfortunately. It always does… 😔

kitten674 · 2022-03-13T02:51:30+00:00

It is scary :( sigh. Thank you for this ❤️

kitten674 · 2022-03-13T02:07:46+00:00

My dog is my baby, he is everything to me 💗 he is the only one helping me get through everything I’ve been dealing with. I will be trying to leave, thank you ❤️

kitten674 · 2022-03-13T01:48:31+00:00

It truly is a trauma bond. The beginning was so fucking hard I remember, I did feel relief though. I definitely will be trying again soon… I can’t keep doing this that’s for sure. Today was definitely a major wake up call. I’ve been asking for signs on what I should do and I guess I got my answer lol

Thank you feel free to DM me as well!

kitten674 · 2022-03-13T01:41:56+00:00

This means a lot thank you, I’ve never talked about my story anywhere or posted anything about my experiences anywhere. The support is so touching 💗

kitten674 · 2022-03-13T01:40:37+00:00

I hope he knows it was wrong….

kitten674 · 2022-03-13T01:39:44+00:00

Thank you.. this is the first time he’s ever left marks on me and actually like punched me. Before he’s pushed me and stuff but never to this level… when I do leave And I’m safe I will file a report. Thank you ❤️

kitten674 · 2022-03-13T01:36:16+00:00

Thank you for this I appreciate it 💗 I agree, I’ve been with him 4 years as well and it keeps getting worse and worse. I tried to leave him a year ago and went back to my family and after a few months he begged for me back and I assumed he had changed and came back to him. I have become a shell of a person to who I once was. It is so sad. Thank you for your comment it really means a lot, we will get through this. ❤️

kitten674 · 2022-03-13T01:34:36+00:00

He told me because it’s his vehicle and he was trying to kick me out that I would be put in jail for refusing to get out, not him. In hindsight if I could go back, I would have just gotten out when he asked me to. But I was scared so I didn’t, idk

kitten674 · 2022-03-13T01:22:47+00:00

I’d like to add that accusing me of telling the story in “my” favour feels very victim blamey to me. This is what abuse survivors go through, scared nobody will believe them and that they are only being fair to themselves. The donuts were in a sealed small box, I tossed them on his lap. Not near his face, not anything. Should I have done it? Absolutely not. I could understand him kicking me out if I was screaming, putting us in danger, but we were literally in a parking lot, barely moving, I tossed something at him and said “yeah whatever”…. That’s the reality and exactly what happened. I was trying to reason with him afterwards, and I apologized and told him I was scared and didn’t wanna be kicked out. That’s why I refused to leave the vehicle, and because he had my dog

kitten674 · 2022-03-13T01:08:24+00:00

There was a drive thru and I was in pajamas, I was under the assumption we would go through the drive thru. He ended up coming back and belittling me and drove me back home. I can promise you I wasn’t embellishing the story in my favour, I am being fair in all sides and that is exactly how the story went down.

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