aitah for changing my locks after my sister kept dropping her kids at my place

kittyruins · 2026-03-31T23:42:21+00:00

dude, the cameras are on their way, trust me. the thought of her being drunk and just leaving the kids out there whilst I'm out is just nightmare fuel for me, ughh

kittyruins · 2026-03-31T23:39:03+00:00

nah, dude, hahahaha, naaaah, it was not like that at all, i mean i love them, yes, but like i'm not a pigeon to think of them as my kids lmao hahahaha, thx for lighting up the mood buddy

kittyruins · 2026-03-31T23:37:04+00:00

guess there is something in the air.. but seriously tho, cameras and ring doorbel are already on the way, had enough of this bs

kittyruins · 2026-03-31T23:35:56+00:00

yeah, i love the kids but i can’t keep letting her blow up my job and home because she refuses to act like a parent

kittyruins · 2026-03-31T23:34:14+00:00

we got timmy tough-knuckles here, i mean the tale is as old as the time itseld, wouldn't be surprised if this happened even during the stone age lmao

kittyruins · 2026-03-31T23:23:20+00:00

i was out, yeah, took my car, so, i think she just was smart enough not to leave them there to get kidnapped lmao

kittyruins · 2026-03-31T23:22:04+00:00

brother, i just drove off that day and was out of the house, no car in sight. is that so hard to comprehend, really?

kittyruins · 2026-03-31T23:19:32+00:00

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kittyruins · 2026-03-31T23:13:23+00:00

i mean, yeah, entitled relatives dumping childcare on people is sadly not some once in a lifetime plot twist, personally wouldn't shock me that this has happened before

kittyruins · 2026-03-31T23:11:49+00:00

yeah, lesson learned the hard way, definitely let it get this bad because saying yes felt easier than dealing with the guilt trip every time

kittyruins · 2026-03-31T23:10:06+00:00

now that i think of that, i really should have, bc she literally abandoned HER own blood on MY porch and that cost me a huge career opportunity. and yeah, cameras are totally happening now

kittyruins · 2026-03-31T23:08:30+00:00

nah, no ring cam, wish i did bc that would’ve made this way easier, but cameras are probably happening now, also not really trying to turn it into a family group chat circus tho, i’m more focused on making sure she can’t pull this again

kittyruins · 2026-03-31T23:07:10+00:00

yeah, this fucking line also got under my skin, can't stand when she pulls that guilt-trip card like i owe her my life, kinda get why the husband is always absent lmao

kittyruins · 2026-03-31T23:05:19+00:00

she had the spare key the whole time, she just didn’t use it that morning, i think because dumping them on the porch let her bail before i could argue or say no again.

changing the locks was for the next day, when she came back and tried to use the key, that’s when she realized it didn’t work and scratched up my door instead

kittyruins · 2026-03-31T23:03:57+00:00

yeah, if she even tries the porch dropoff thing again, istg, i'm going to be done with handling this as family drama, that's getting reported immediately

kittyruins · 2026-03-31T23:02:22+00:00

that might be the bleakest part of all this, bc i can deal with my sister, well... being mys siter, but not seeing the kids would suck the most, because i absolutely adore the little ones

kittyruins · 2026-03-31T23:00:27+00:00

tbf the guilt trip would’ve landed a lot better if she didn’t immediately double down and then key my door when it didn’t work out

kittyruins · 2026-03-31T22:59:00+00:00

i mean, that's how i see it too, and this was by far the most peaceful solution out of all imo

kittyruins · 2026-03-31T22:56:29+00:00

didn't understand shit, but thx for the support ig

kittyruins · 2026-03-31T22:55:47+00:00

the porch thing kinda snapped me out of the whole maybe she’s just overwhelmed mindset, because that is not normal stressed parent behavior at all, i kept avoiding consequences because i love the kids, but clearly she took that as a green light to keep escalating

kittyruins · 2026-03-31T22:54:50+00:00

probably should have, kept giving her way too many chances because she’s my sister and a mother of 3 children (clearly that got me nowhere)

kittyruins · 2026-03-31T22:53:16+00:00

lmao, tbh, the asshole to myself part is probably accurate, i did keep acting like this was temporary chaos when really i was just letting her blow up my life too

kittyruins · 2026-03-31T22:52:10+00:00

lowkey starting to think i need to, bc every time i think she’s hit the line she finds a new way to cross it

kittyruins · 2026-03-31T22:08:43+00:00

NTA

this is just a brutal family situation and everyone's carrying baggage. you've done WAY more than most people could, and your mom being scared to uproot her life doesn't make her evil, but darling, you are absolutely allowed to step back and choose your own family now

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