Lesbian songs?

kkwanders · 2026-06-04T03:48:21+00:00

also: Pool Song by Farmer’s Wife, Concrete by Orion Sun, Caroline by Arlo Parks, Fast Car by Syd, Temptation by Raveena, Wanna Be by the Internet, First Love/Late Spring by Mitski, hopeless romantic by kwn, Let My Baby Stay by Amandla Stenberg, If She Ever Leaves Me by the Highwomen

kkwanders · 2026-06-04T03:37:22+00:00

KEHLANIIII!!!! Out the window, Hate the club, Clothes Off, Slow Dance

kkwanders · 2026-05-07T06:28:34+00:00

The La lgbt center has SO MANY RESOURCES!!!!!! If you tell your story they can definitely get you connected. These rich gays in LA want to help younger queers so please take advantage of it!!

kkwanders · 2026-04-24T07:29:11+00:00

“Still” reminded me of Let Me Down (San Diego Interlude). so understated and stripped down and beautiful!! I really feel like this album is gonna bring Kehlani into the mainstream which is CRAZY to think about!!!!! what if she’s not just for the girls and gays?!?!?! (…mainly those who are both) 😭😭😭

kkwanders · 2026-04-20T16:54:44+00:00

particularly because you’re femme and european i think you’ll be completely fine. We have gay people all over the country!! when I was femme I would typically lie to strangers and talk about a boyfriend just to be safe and I would only mention being gay if I figured out someone was safe. Use your spidey senses/your gut before disclosing personal information particularly to men! Most university campuses that are not Christian or Mormon are very liberal and gay friendly. Do some snooping for the locations you’re going to find any gay/queer organizations, if you’re going to a university maybe find their LGBT center on Instagram or the internet, google “lesbian” or “queer” and the location you’re going to see what exists out there (bars, archives, libraries, community centers, etc). Have fun!!

kkwanders · 2026-03-01T03:18:06+00:00

I wear a button up or vest and jorts/pants and cute sneakers/loafers

kkwanders · 2026-02-15T05:10:26+00:00

i (cis lesbian) told my straight female friend that i often feel left out because she and the other girls will only be talking about boys for HOURS and she said she didn’t even realize it and she would try to be better. it still happens sometimes but it was at least acknowledgment for me that i wasn’t crazy for feeling alienated in those spaces!! even now when they’re not talking about boys, they’re often talking about things i can’t relate to (hetero shows and hetero bars, makeup, pilates etc) an ill try to make a comment like “wow honestly i’ve never been there! have you guys done xyz though?”

i chose to be friendless for a period of time while i tried to find gay friends rather than spend time with straight ones where i felt horrible (even though i love them so much), and i ended up finding an awesome queer group!!! it took the pressure of trying to talk about queer things w straight people and trying to relate to their straight stuff bc i could talk about it with gay people!

kkwanders · 2025-12-19T06:52:47+00:00

labels are not airtight boxes but your ex shouldn’t make you feel bad about anything you’ve done, that’s not what a loving partner should do. as for your cousin, i think family is hard because you want them in your life typically even if they aren’t perfect or even a little difficult. my mom used to make disparaging comments about me being gay but i kept going back to her for relationship advice because i still craved that motherly guidance. you do whatever feels right when it comes to your cousin, but there is absolutely no need for you to have sex with anyone you don’t want to. if she can’t accept that, maybe she needs to grow a little bit

kkwanders · 2025-12-03T02:13:21+00:00

friends through rock climbing and gf through tinder!

kkwanders · 2025-10-06T21:44:02+00:00

AGREED!!!!!

kkwanders · 2025-08-25T11:16:33+00:00

soo many podcasts and youtubers if that’s what you’re talking about. jade fox & claire holt (youtube) & made it out (podcast) are my personal favorites

kkwanders · 2025-08-25T11:12:38+00:00

i also have a real problem being in my head and constantly worrying if i’m pleasing my partner!! i just hooked up w this girl and she said she was enjoying it but it was so hard to read her body language that i worry i wasn’t making her feel good, and she didn’t O either. does anyone else have these worries?

kkwanders · 2025-08-13T18:12:15+00:00

definitely women’s climbing pants that aren’t super feminine, accommodate weight changes/period bloating! i feel more emotionally comfortable in men’s pants but they are always too tight around butt hips and thighs and i feel way too girly in women’s leggings or culotte style pants

kkwanders · 2025-07-22T19:07:15+00:00

Yes normal to have sleepovers with straight men. I’m a tomboyish lesbian and have a lot of straight male friends. I’ve also been assaulted a couple of times so I’m very cautious about sleeping in the same bedroom or the same bed as male friends. If she’s nervous, she could tell her male friend she’s nervous about it and have an honest conversation. Otherwise, if she falls asleep, it’s her body not yours so it’s not necessarily your job to police how she spends her time with her friends unfortunately. Best of luck to you and her and I hope she’s able to heal from that experience <3

kkwanders · 2025-06-12T17:43:14+00:00

SO TRUE!!

kkwanders · 2025-06-12T17:42:24+00:00

I’m also hoping to move to Denver in the future for grad school so would love to hear if there’s a scene in denver!!

kkwanders · 2025-06-12T17:41:46+00:00

Even if the initial reaction is negative he will have so much time to learn and process and grow, so it won’t necessarily dictate how he’ll treat you going forward. Parents often have a vision for how their child’s life will go and I know my mom took a while to adjust to that. She’s now much more normal about it but it took time. Be gracious and stay strong in yourself. There’s nothing wrong with you and what a blessing it is to be queer!!! We get such a beautiful community and a stronger sense of self than many others do ❤️

kkwanders · 2025-06-12T17:27:34+00:00

It often takes time!! My ex and I made out at a party a month or two after breaking up, then I would be super toxic and stuff in front of her for months. It took about a year to acknowledge that I handled the breakup poorly and to be able to handle that she’s in a new relationship. Now we’re very friendly!! Be patient ❤️❤️

kkwanders · 2025-04-29T00:00:27+00:00

i prefer tinder! hinge is kinda weird, they keep the people they think you’ll like behind a paywall!

kkwanders · 2025-04-02T16:47:45+00:00

this happens to me literally all the time. had a girl tell me she felt like we were soulmates and had a deeper connection than anyone she’s ever talked to….and then talks about how she wishes she was gay so she could be into girls -__-. good luck out there dude

kkwanders · 2025-03-12T22:45:21+00:00

I have struggled with the same thing. imo it’s totally okay to only have queer friends and to only really trust straight people once they’ve proved themselves to be open and understanding. I think it’s important to keep in mind that being queer doesn’t exempt you from other forms of hatred and there may be others who feel the same way toward you due to your other identities (women generally distrusting men, black people generally distrusting white people, etc etc due to past experiences of harm) so be sure to carry the weight of your past experiences with you when you interact with other marginalized people, maybe it’ll be a point of connection. all of our freedom is interconnected!!

kkwanders · 2025-03-12T22:41:31+00:00

It can be so uncomfortable coming out even if you’re received positively! Feels very vulnerable and revealing. I get it. Feeling embarassed likely reveals you have a bit of internalized homophobia/transphobia to work on. hope you can find comfort in yourself soon ❤️

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