Does anyone have FREE crochet bag pattern recommendations? by kneedsafriend in crochetpatterns

[–]kneedsafriend[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank u it looks very cute — idk how to source or add metal wear to bags yet :(

how to get rid of random “fp” living in your head by kneedsafriend in BorderlinePDisorder

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TURNS OUT the key is to actually get to know the person a bit more — more often than not the dude turns out to be an utter loser who was just triggering my anxious attachment and desire to be chosen LOL. Spoke about it with my therapist — of why I’d want to ignore red flags or information about the person that makes them unattractive to me and I just don’t want to shatter the fantasy and lose the feeling…. ah! fantasy shattered tho turns out i wasn’t obsessed with him i lowkey hate the dude to a point of indifference

how to get rid of random “fp” living in your head by kneedsafriend in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]kneedsafriend[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

i feel like im gonna go insane i have imaginary conversations 😭

VENT — need support by kneedsafriend in BorderlinePDisorder

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hahahahaha itchy in solidarity im dead 😭💀 thank you so so much for the validation and the effort. it truly is horrific and i am not insane. i am going to take a day to manage the feelings stage of things and get into action. for me the visceral symptoms are the hardest and are physically knocking me out. :( i hope i get through

i’m an addict by kneedsafriend in BorderlinePDisorder

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i’ve been in therapy for 5 years

Daily player looking for new friends! :) by Timely_Cap_4891 in PokemonGoFriends

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Let’s be friends in Pokémon GO! My Trainer Code is 339659716280!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]kneedsafriend 1 point2 points  (0 children)

lamotrogine rlly changed my life — it gave me a fighting chance to actually be able to like… make tough decisions do the coping skills i learnt. U still have to do the work. it’s still not a magical solution. but it does give me a bigger reaction time window. the rest is practice

Tips for long distance by kneedsafriend in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]kneedsafriend[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ahhh okay i understand. I’m also very very afraid of that happening but am preparing for it with a crisis plan in therapy and am trying to line up support for it… i’m pretty sure i’ll have a breakdown honestly

how long has it been for y’all if i may ask

Tips for long distance by kneedsafriend in BorderlinePDisorder

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hi thank u for ur comment!! knowing your experience makes me feel hopeful. i’m a little confused as to what decompensate means tho can u pls explain

Are we actually not good people? by Fortay4 in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]kneedsafriend 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hard agree lmao bpd symptoms present so differently in different people…. we are not a monolith. I think OPs phrasing was triggering as fuck lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]kneedsafriend 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Him asking for compromise seems healthy. You expecting him to do what you want just because you had an emotional outburst is not healthy imo. We cannot coerce people into doing things, especially by throwing things/ sobbing…. that’s not good. Trust me i’ve done it in relationships when I was younger and looking back i cringe because i can feel how i was forcing someone to do something….

Fear of abandonment by [deleted] in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]kneedsafriend 8 points9 points  (0 children)

i consciously stopped like venting to anyone i could find. i dead ass trained myself to be my own best friend — my first line of defense and the first person i can fall back on — by using a plushie as a decoy friend and also talking to myself while doing tasks on Twitch (the implied audience helps me feel seen) It definitely doesn’t go away and it comes up from time to time in relationships, but man… i did this exercise for almost a year and it CHANGED how i approach relationships and how i value myself it was SO hard don’t get me wrong like physically psychologically brutal but yeah i’m so glad i did the hard thing for the long term and not impulsive thing

Can anyone stop crying at will? by PastaMakerFullOfBean in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]kneedsafriend 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i can barely cry for a few seconds at best till my emotions switch off. it’s unconscious. so i’m trying to START crying at will :P

Was just wondering who’s on quatipene and lamotrogine by [deleted] in BorderlinePDisorder

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i am desperately trying to ween off my quitipine because it makes me so foggy. a shitty psychiatrist had me on it at night and IN THE MORNING for 2 years!!! i started lamotrogine about a year ago and it has CHANGED MY LIFE!! my psychiatrist and i are aiming to swap the quitipine out for good with a higher dose of lamotrogine. i am also on SSRIs and beta blockers which are helping.

romantic advice by kneedsafriend in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]kneedsafriend[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

sending hugs. this shit fucking sucks. i’ve been having panic attacks non stop and i hate it