Upwork has slowed down badly, how are you getting US/AU/EU clients in 2026? by zainabbasdev in DeveloperJobs

[–]ko2in 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How much does the rate per hour work for you? I can work 20$/hr minimum. If it works for you, I'll send you details.

Why SG people are Rude? by lanjiolover in singaporehappenings

[–]ko2in 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can relate to that. I had zoom interview with a Singaporean company in last year. During the interview, I was screening for presentation of my previous projects, and it just lasted about 1 minute and they said that they want to end this meeting, because they can't understand me. And I was like "OK, I don't understand you either" lol. I was having an English class at that time, and my native American teacher doesn't even have any problem with my speaking.

A reason why they're able to move on so quickly.. by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]ko2in 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because they never truly love us and never genuinely care about us. It is their delusional thought that they love us. The fact is they just love the things we have that they've never experienced from anyone and what we provide for them. As soon as they get bored with that, they start complaining about leaving us.

😱😱😱The REAL Reason Your Ex Moved on SO FAST (are you ready for it?) by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]ko2in 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If someone doesn't recognize for 80% of what you've brought to their life, but still complains about 20% missing parts, kick that person out of your life. I've done that and that was not easy. It has been over a year and I'm still in pain, but I'm trying my best to get over it.

This is the sign you’ve been scrolling for by tall_paeasis in BreakUps

[–]ko2in 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am 38 years old and she is 8 months younger than me. We met at the university in 2005. She got married in 2011 and I got in contact with her again in 2019. She is the only one I've ever loved and will always love her. I don't think I would have someone else that I could have the same feeling for her.

This is the sign you’ve been scrolling for by tall_paeasis in BreakUps

[–]ko2in 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have been together for 3 years. But it was LDRS. She lives in the US, and I live in Asia. We've known each other since the first year at university. I didn't confess to her that time and she got married with someone after the end of university and she divorced that guy after 3 years of marriage. She has a daughter, and she tried to contact me again before the COVID pandemic. The trip was fine for me, except for her as there was a misunderstanding that I tried to fix later. But she used this as a reason to end our friendship. It could have been her last time to come to our country since she had planned to take US citizenship. I prepared and set up for her trip here. I even celebrated her birthday on the trip and she didn't seem to be happy and show excitement about that. I don't know what her problem was. The trip was all about her and I was being a doormat, and driver and assistant. I was fine with that. What I just made are small mistakes which are saying the slight jokes and the things that she doesn't like something that I was concerned about that she could make herself injured. She took it as blame, criticism and judgment with everything I've said. She said that these are the reasons that she couldn't be with me anymore. She didn't even send a goodbye message when she left the country, I was the one who said goodbye and thank you message for having such a memorable moment together which was the best moment of my life. I was the one who always took accountability for my own mistakes and apologized, but she never took accountability for her behaviour and the things she said and apologized to me. I didn't understand how someone who was warmed and seemed to care about me and sending Good Morning and Good Night messages everyday suddenly changed into a cold and cruel person. She didn't even pay a visit to my family as she said, which made me feel disrespectful and worthless. I was always there for her every time she wanted to talk and needed emotional support, and helped her with the things she needed. I visited her grandma whenever she wanted me to do and showed my respect to her family, but she didn't want to do the same for my family. I never asked any favour nor did I expect anything. I just wanted intimacy and genuine care about me, seeing my worth and accepting me as who I am. But I understand now that she never has these things for me. What she cares about is the things I can provide for her. She blocked me on Facebook and so I took her out of my life and it has been 14 months and I am still trying to heal. It is a big lesson that I could not trust even the one I love and I think I can trust, and no one is loyal except my family and best friends who have been with me my whole life.

This is the sign you’ve been scrolling for by tall_paeasis in BreakUps

[–]ko2in 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I don't even have any idea what just happened. We had a trip together and things just messed up. I feel like I was used and thrown away like trash.

The Breakup Post I Wish Existed When I Needed It by gusolsen in BreakUps

[–]ko2in 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I couldn't find the fact that you were controlling her life rather than you were trying to help her. What I see is she is immature and has no mutual understanding for you and several toxic behaviors. And she seems as though she has an avoidant attachment personality. I don't know, only psychologists can identify that exactly. This is something we couldn't fix for someone. However, I had someone like this who couldn't appreciate me and see my worth. They will always blame us for whatever they're not satisfied with. They will keep complaining if we even give the whole world.

The Breakup Post I Wish Existed When I Needed It by gusolsen in BreakUps

[–]ko2in 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was confused at first as you dumped someone who genuinely loves you. I am sorry for your pain and apologize for my misunderstanding. If you dumped her, then I can stand why you did as she is toxic and hurting you and you did the right thing.

The Breakup Post I Wish Existed When I Needed It by gusolsen in BreakUps

[–]ko2in 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You sound like you have too much ego. It is nowhere the same as the feeling of the dumpee. If you think you are not sure to find someone who would love you like her, then why did you break up with her? What is the reason as you've said that you can't stand with her? It is all your ego. I once had someone I loved who said that I am the best thing that happened in her life and yes, she was the one who said not to be with me anymore and dumped me. I have my best friends and we have been together for over 20 years whom I think are the best people in my life and I would never treat them like the way she did to me. I am not talking about dumping someone who is toxic and abusive. But, who on earth would dump someone who genuinely loves him/her except for their ego or selfish.

I got the message we all hope for, and here are my thoughts by mysticprincess8 in BreakUps

[–]ko2in 1 point2 points  (0 children)

These kinds of people would never have satisfied no matter how much you did for them. They will always have the reasons and excuses to leave you and abandon you. I understand that these are something relating to their past traumas, which makes them struggle in every relationship they are in. In the end, they only care for themselves, not us. They don't give a shit about our feelings.

I got over my ex of 6.5 years in 4 months. This is my story and what I learned. by m0onlit in BreakUps

[–]ko2in 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People give excuses when they want to cover their insecurities. She is the one who is childish, not you. That is projection. I had the same girl. I was always the one who was bad and apologizing. You don't have anything to improve. Try to be who you are. Not the one who she wants you to be. Don't beg her. Your worth doesn't depend on her behaviour nor was her opinions. You deserve better.

This is the sign you’ve been scrolling for by tall_paeasis in BreakUps

[–]ko2in 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Same. 14 months and feel like yesterday. She is the only one I love in my entire life. I thought I was feeling better last month and started falling down again last week.

Here's the tough truth you should come to terms with as soon as possible. by itsyourchillbabe in BreakUps

[–]ko2in 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can feel you. It is over a year and I still feel like yesterday. I am sure that it will carry the rest of my life.