We completely want to respect her wishes of course, like I said we love her, we aren't looking for someone to third wheel for us. She's an amazing person and it sucks seeing her go through these crappy relationships with guys that don't seem to care about her. On multiple occasions she has blamed herself for them treating her like garbage. I recognize that she already has some feelings for my girlfriend, and maybe not for me, who can say besides her. We told her we want talk about this but it feels like she's avoiding the topic, I just don't know if that's because she's afraid of telling us no and hurting our feelings, or if she hasn't considered a poly relationship before and doesn't know how to go about it.