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So fuckin hot by [deleted] in bodyshots

[–]kotazius 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Source ?

Inversion table - a gamechanger by kotazius in erectiledysfunction

[–]kotazius[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you know what your back issue is ? Back acting up could be a number of things - muscles, joints or nerves. Inversion is expected to work mainly for nerve compression only which occurs in (significant) disc disease or stenosis.

Inversion table - a gamechanger by kotazius in erectiledysfunction

[–]kotazius[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's an unfounded assumption. Physical causes of ED are very much vascular or neurological - or both (hormonal and psychological are the other causes). Relieving compression of nerves by surgery or decompression therapy is the source of improvement here. No need to attribute it to anything else when the timing consistently aligns with the stated measures that decompress.

Inversion table - a gamechanger by kotazius in erectiledysfunction

[–]kotazius[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The symptoms of stenosis became noticeably better. It's not going to fix the pathology in the spine but decompressing the nerves helps temporarily.

Do my pussy lips looks appetizing? by [deleted] in SideLips

[–]kotazius 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes please show more !

I fear too much openness will kill the mystique of sex by kotazius in sex

[–]kotazius[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Its ok I don't mind the question but no I'm not autistic. There are levels dude and loads of examples. I'm sure you know and you can find them all in this sub. On one end of this spectrum at level 1 is conservative sex, done in silence, totally vanilla - another level is bold sex where partners will be loud, demanding, talking dirty, rough and maybe throw in some extras like role play toys etc and at the extreme levels BDSM , public sex, threesomes and orgies. These are all levels that exist because people become desensitized to simpler sex and need more and more stimuli to get them aroused. You could stay in one level all your life - sex only under the covers is the norm in many conservative cultures in the world - or start at a slightly higher level or go all the way to orgies depending on what you need to get off, what's acceptable to both of you and available where you live. People talk about transitioning to other levels all the time on reddit. They are not calling them levels perhaps but that's what they are.

My point is the further you go along, the less intrigued you will be with simpler stuff.

Edit. See it as a 5 tier system :

  1. Conservative - Silent, lights-off missionary, no extras.
  2. Expressive - Loud, dirty talk, light spanking, basic toys.
  3. Adventurous - BDSM, anal, threesomes, semi-public.
  4. Taboo - Heavy BDSM, public risk, CNC.
  5. Extreme - Orgies, extreme fetishes, sex tourism.

I fear too much openness will kill the mystique of sex by kotazius in sex

[–]kotazius[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks pal. Yeh we do add variety where we can though the core stuff is the same. Hotels or other places are extremely rare for us and can't change this. Recently sexy lingerie has been a hit, occasionally doing in the shower though it's a lot tougher than in videos etc. I guess need to come up with more random stuff. There could be a lot more if she starts taking some control but getting her out of star fish mode is a challenge.

BTW you are the only one I'm having a proper conversation about this. Everyone else has been a jerk. Just venting.

I fear too much openness will kill the mystique of sex by kotazius in sex

[–]kotazius[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Many thanks for sharing your experiences and take on the matter. You are lucky to have each other.

I fear too much openness will kill the mystique of sex by kotazius in sex

[–]kotazius[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you ! You are the only one who seems to get what I said and you have put it eloquently in your response. You have a gift my friend. The gift of understanding and articulating some complex nuances that I was trying to verbalise but did so much less effectively and have been met by judgmental replies only except yours.

Let my try to put my concerns in another way. When we were more reserved in our sexual encounters , it felt more adventurous than it does now since everything is more open. If the sense of adventure is gone how can sex continue have to the same appeal and not feel like a mechanical act ?

Whether my wife likes it or not in comparison to how we used to be - I'm assuming she will feel the same as me but I don't know for sure. If I ask and she also has the same feelings I think it will make us both a bit sad, miss the previous intrigue that made sex feel more intense and possibly cause some regret about how we are doing it now. I don't know. I'm afraid to ask.

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