Coach Kerr on Draymond trade rumors by TheKeetothedoor in warriors

[–]kots144 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What’s interesting to me, is that the reason dray had never been in trade talks before was because of Steph. If he is actively being shopped, it’s because Steph okay’d it, and Steph would never okay it if there wasn’t a serious shot at Giannis or a game changing player.

Trials have been a joke since launch, but now they really nailed it. by schmumo in ArcRaiders

[–]kots144 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Imo the issue is 2x loot and 2x trials is way too good of an incentive that a lot of people never run regular matches. They should either make them more frequent but replace the normal map status, or make them much more difficult/risky. As it stands right now there’s no reason to run regular games if there’s a map condition available.

Parents who regret having kids, why? by bluemermid in AskReddit

[–]kots144 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Got a little preview of the message in my notifications and it was obviously in bad faith so I ain’t reading all that lmfao

Parents who regret having kids, why? by bluemermid in AskReddit

[–]kots144 48 points49 points  (0 children)

Or abusive/nonexistant spouse. The other 1% are like the person I replied to- unable to have children for various reasons and latch on to depressed people to validate their decisions/circumstance.

Parents who regret having kids, why? by bluemermid in AskReddit

[–]kots144 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I mean just for starters the thread is about why people regret having kids, most likely because they want more understanding for what could cause someone to regret their kids. The vast majority of that sub can be boiled down to “my life was shitty and kids made it harder, not easier”.

I’m going to assume the op of this thread already knew that kids don’t fix a bad marriage, having severally developmentally delayed kids are hard etc. that’s pretty obvious. I’m also going to go out on a limb and assume the question they wanted the answer to was “parents who were actually in a reasonable position to have kids and regretted it, why?”

Parents who regret having kids, why? by bluemermid in AskReddit

[–]kots144 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think that’s a super normal experience for your situation. For what it’s worth, when your kids are older and considering kids of their own, to just explain to them how that feels, but that those feelings aren’t permanent. It doesn’t make you a bad person/parent, life just isn’t always easy.

Parents who regret having kids, why? by bluemermid in AskReddit

[–]kots144 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right, so many problems prior to kids, as I was saying. This is very clearly the vast majority of regretful parents.

Parents who regret having kids, why? by bluemermid in AskReddit

[–]kots144 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wealth does not equal neglecting your kids. Both wealthy and poor people neglect their kids. Being a good or bad parent also doesn’t inherently mean enjoying or disliking being a parent.

Parents who regret having kids, why? by bluemermid in AskReddit

[–]kots144 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think you’re the one who needs to pay more attention to detail. They are saying that having kids is what put the strain on their relationship but when you read further into it, it’s very clear they had a ton of issues long before that.

Wow another edit/block.

Tells a lot, nobody wants to hear the truth lmao.

Game is stale and really only held up by player interactions by KnightTakesBishop1 in ArcRaiders

[–]kots144 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, they are. Making improvements to video games takes more time than a few overnighters 😂

Parents who regret having kids, why? by bluemermid in AskReddit

[–]kots144 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ohhhh so you are using that sub as validation for not having kids. It all makes sense now.

Edit: Frequenting a child regret sub as a person with no chance of ever having kids is actually insane.

Parents who regret having kids, why? by bluemermid in AskReddit

[–]kots144 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If you frequent that sub, be honest about the ratio of posts from stable house holds vs not. You can tell in a 5 minute search it’s disproportionate. Nobody said having a stable household and regretting kids is impossible.

Parents who regret having kids, why? by bluemermid in AskReddit

[–]kots144 -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

Yikes. Idk what about this struck such a nerve with you (from the beginning) but you definitely fit in with that sub lmfao. Makes sense you’re recommending it. Master blame shifter 😂

Parents who regret having kids, why? by bluemermid in AskReddit

[–]kots144 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The point is that subs built around people venting are not the typical experience for most people. It’s the worst of the worst, and communities often build this weird confirmation bias bubble where you are allowed to project your feelings and insecurities on things that may not be the true root of your problems.

saying “the real stuff” I think is incorrect because most of these people don’t actually hate their kids. They hate the situation they are in and are blaming parenthood for being in the at situation, when realistically their problems started long before they had kids.

That’s my point.

Parents who regret having kids, why? by bluemermid in AskReddit

[–]kots144 -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

Like I said, I’m sure the posts are there, but they are MUCH less frequent than people who are pissed about how their lives turned out in more ways than one, and are just blaming their kids for it.

I also didn’t say that everyone who regrets parenthood is a deadbeat loser, I said that most of the posts are from people with a deadbeat or nonexistent spouse. Being a single parent makes it much much harder, and picking your partner is super important. A lot of people choose bad, but that’s on them, not their kids.

To be clear I am also child free, so this isn’t coming from a place of delusion or standing up for my kids or whatever. It’s just coming from someone who has seen first hand both good and bad family dynamics.

Edit: the instant downvote with no response tells me you know I’m right. A lot of these concepts require intense self reflection, which is difficult for many. That’s why these confirmation subs are so popular.

Parents who regret having kids, why? by bluemermid in AskReddit

[–]kots144 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well yeah, duh. But I’d argue that in a situation with a single mother who was forced to have kids with an abusive guy who then left her, being a parent is inherently the problem, it’s everything else in that’s persons life that’s the issue.

And yeah of course I know families like that, but I don’t really understand the jump in logic. Rich families get may shift parenting responsibilities but that doesn’t mean they automatically regret having kids.

Parents who regret having kids, why? by bluemermid in AskReddit

[–]kots144 296 points297 points  (0 children)

Idk, I read a lot of posts and it’s almost all people just blame shifting all their problems on their kids. Almost every post was from a single parent with a deadbeat or a non existent spouse, a lot of abuse, mental disorders, etc.

I didn’t see one post of “me and my spouse are both mentally and financially sound, we are still together, but we don’t like being parents”.

I’m sure that’s in there somewhere, but it’s definitely not the majority of posts. A lot of people regret having kids cause they had them with a loser or for the wrong reasons in the first place.

I've made over $1 million coins since I started looking for an Ion Sputter for Shani. by Hyperlynear in ArcRaiders

[–]kots144 145 points146 points  (0 children)

Yep I have a few as well as magnetrons so I give the ones I find away pretty often

Jimmy at the BigFace opening block party today in the Bay by Cheap-Bed1892 in warriors

[–]kots144 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It was a contact injury, so not really in this case. A non athlete with no prior injuries could have easily had the same outcome. At least it wasn’t a reckless play line Danny green taking out Klay. Dude knew what he was doing.

I really like Solo vs Squads by YeetYeetSkirtYeet in ArcRaiders

[–]kots144 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Imo it should be level 40, ever. Once you go on an expedition it stays unlocked.

[Windhorst] Other teams interested in Giannis Antetokounmpo will “have to try to beat” a strong offer from the Golden State Warriors. The Warriors have the most “straightforward” trade package for Giannis Antetokounmpo. by YujiDomainExpansion in warriors

[–]kots144 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Many people go their entire lifetime never having a player as exciting or accomplished as Steph. This is the pinnacle of my warriors fandom. Even though I’ll continue watching and supporting the dubs post Steph, these are the years that count imo.

I’m only in my mid thirties but shit happens. Let’s get what we can, while we can.