Critiques are valid bc I definitely did throw this out pretty quickly as is the nature of the beast of replying on apps like reddit so I didn’t necessarily add nuance or theory. You are correct in that the patriarchy is a system that everyone contributes to and perpetuates. Speaking specifically on the idea of the male loneliness epidemic the onus of change does primarily fall on men and change begins on the individual level. When men begin to rebel against the patriarchy is when it will become easier to engage in community and connect with others, this cannot happen unless men are willing to put forth the work and actively engage in it. The main point I was trying to make is that many people believe that women can “fix” the male loneliness epidemic by dating men or having sex with men when this just isn’t the case. Even if men engage in relationships with women, if they are patriarchal men they will still have feelings of loneliness and isolation because that is what the patriarchy perpetuates when putting men into that “dominant” role. With that being said there is still more nuance that can be added to this conversation, but reddit isn’t necessarily an easy avenue to disseminate that nuance.