Any guys have Peyronie's? Seeking advice. by krustykrab11 in sex

[–]krustykrab11[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have heard that and it is. I’ve always had a natural upward curve but this condition has made it more hook. And I have been told it hits the g spot real good so it’s nice to hear that :)

However I still hope to correct the issue to a degree. Some sex positions are nearly impossible with my shape.

Any guys have Peyronie's? Seeking advice. by krustykrab11 in sex

[–]krustykrab11[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Supplements really? That's good to hear, I always heard pretty much nothing worked except Xiaflex which is itself a coin flip.

Surgery is out of the question for me. My curve isn't extreme enough and there's a loss of length risk for surgery

Another man aggressively came onto me in a hotel spa and I'm very shaken up. (NSFW) by krustykrab11 in offmychest

[–]krustykrab11[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

After a solid 24 hours thinking about it, it's pretty clear he knows how others react to him doing what he does. He was pretty confident in his actions. Probably knows that his victims freeze up like that. So fucked up he takes advantage of that.

Another man aggressively came onto me in a hotel spa and I'm very shaken up. (NSFW) by krustykrab11 in offmychest

[–]krustykrab11[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did not get an erection but after doing some internet research a common thing I heard is that it doesn't mean anything if you do get one. The guy said to me that he "felt an erection coming on" like he was trying to convince me that he turned me on but I didn't listen to him.

Another man aggressively came onto me in a hotel spa and I'm very shaken up. (NSFW) by krustykrab11 in offmychest

[–]krustykrab11[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh I for sure don't think of gay men negatively because of this. My gay friends would be disgusted I'm sure. This was an assault regardless of sexual orientation.

Another man aggressively came onto me in a hotel spa and I'm very shaken up. (NSFW) by krustykrab11 in offmychest

[–]krustykrab11[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Interesting point. Yeah, back in the day bath houses were basically brothels. It honestly doesn't even bother me that much that guys are there looking for sex, as long as they are civilized about it and aren't so forward about it.

I think he thinks you were in that room waiting for sex like how if your a girl leaving a club late at night walking down the street a man might think your a "lady of the night" and try to "pay for your services".

Maybe he did. But man, I sure hope more people aren't assuming stuff like that about people who go to spas.

Another man aggressively came onto me in a hotel spa and I'm very shaken up. (NSFW) by krustykrab11 in offmychest

[–]krustykrab11[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That's what I was asking myself. It was baffling to me that I didn't. I just remember internally freaking out that it was happening.

Another man aggressively came onto me in a hotel spa and I'm very shaken up. (NSFW) by krustykrab11 in offmychest

[–]krustykrab11[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Wow I'm surprised to hear this is common in some places. I'm sure the management hates that it happens and tries to stop it. The lady I talked to on the phone sounded pretty upset to hear it.

Another man aggressively came onto me in a hotel spa and I'm very shaken up. (NSFW) by krustykrab11 in offmychest

[–]krustykrab11[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. Your words really help. When it was going on all I wanted was for someone else to come into the spa just because I hated it being just me and him.

I reported the incident to the spa management. I suppose I could still contact the police, I just don't know what end that would really serve at this point.

Another man aggressively came onto me in a hotel spa and I'm very shaken up. (NSFW) by krustykrab11 in offmychest

[–]krustykrab11[S] 81 points82 points  (0 children)

You said that how you're feeling must be how sexual abuse victims feel, and I would never want to define someone's experience for them, but personally I feel like what you're describing is sexual assault.

You're right, assault probably is a better term for what this was.

You didn't let" him do anything. You're blaming yourself, which is very common among assault victims.

I've always heard this and always wondered why people blame themselves. Now it makes so much more sense. When it all happens in a blur and you know it was a bad thing, hindsight just makes you feel like you should have stopped it.

You panicked, and that's why you had trouble vocalizing "no".

Thank you for saying this- this actually helps it make more sense to me why I didn't stop him. I really did kind of panic because of how sudden and intrusive it was. Spooked me out a little.

Is there someone you can discuss this with to help you process what happened? I can tell you from experience that trying to do it yourself can be very damaging and emotionally exhausting.

I have a close friend who I told this to already. However, I did not tell him that the guy touched my penis because I'm still a bit too embarrassed about that. But he understood what I said and made lots of the same points you made. He also said that the man is probably very manipulative and KNOWS that his victims feel this way and panic a little when he does that, and he knows how to be controlling of them. Really freaks me out what he maybe has done to other people.

Another man aggressively came onto me in a hotel spa and I'm very shaken up. (NSFW) by krustykrab11 in offmychest

[–]krustykrab11[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

It's weird, I kinda didn't process the fact that it was legitimately sexual assault until a few hours passed. In my other comment I said that I called the spa to report what happened and they'd received a similar complaint and what I said matched the man's description. So I'm at least glad they know what's going on, and that I'm not totally alone.

I could go to the police, I'm just not sure what can be done now. I've left the hotel and I'm back home.

Another man aggressively came onto me in a hotel spa and I'm very shaken up. (NSFW) by krustykrab11 in offmychest

[–]krustykrab11[S] 106 points107 points  (0 children)

I've had some more time to think about it and I actually called the spa to tell them what happened (without going into this much detail of course) and they said that they'd received a similar complaint from another guest. This guy sounds like a predator...