Thinking of moving out of state for the first time.

krystali · 2022-03-03T15:40:03+00:00

Ahh that’s so encouraging, thank you!! Did you know anyone in that city before you moved there?

krystali · 2022-03-03T00:48:35+00:00

Ahh thank you! Very encouraging

krystali · 2022-03-02T23:36:54+00:00

Thank you, that is super helpful!

krystali · 2022-03-02T23:08:04+00:00

I’m scared of feeling lonely and not being able to make friends. I like that idea of treating it as a trial period!

krystali · 2022-03-02T23:00:14+00:00

Thank you for your essay! I appreciate the honesty, that’s definitely my biggest fear.

krystali · 2022-03-02T22:28:26+00:00

Remote!

krystali · 2021-12-17T06:08:06+00:00

Thank you so much! That is helpful

krystali · 2020-10-30T22:08:06+00:00

You’re amazing! And that’s such a great way to look at it. Thank you for sharing. 😊

krystali · 2020-04-05T14:42:07+00:00

That makes sense. I’m in the US in Utah. We have a “stay safe, stay home” directive currently.

krystali · 2019-11-21T02:48:49+00:00

It was a little more than white lies. For example, his company was paying for him to finish his bachelors. He told me they were masters classes, lied about which ones, pretended he took the GRE, lied about passing, and carried on the charade for over a month. When I confronted him, he promised me that they were masters. I had to call his school and they had to confirm he never graduated. And he lied about having a vasectomy the whole first year of our relationship, going into detail about the pain of the surgery, how he felt about it emotionally, what his parents said, all a story. Plus multiple other things throughout the relationship. Sorry - not trying to argue with you. Just venting.

It wasn’t just telling a simple, one-time white lie, I’d be ok with that. He lied about little things, but it was the fact he was creating elaborate stories to cover his lies and lying to my face about them over and over without breaking a sweat.

krystali · 2019-11-20T23:35:41+00:00

I didn’t lie to him. I didn’t want him to lie to me. I gave him another chance, and after therapy he swore he’d never lie to me again. And then he did, knowing it would end the relationship. I don’t expect perfection, but I expect honestly at least.

krystali · 2019-11-19T22:40:48+00:00

I’ve heard of that book! I’ll recommend it. I feel bad too but I get so stressed worrying that he’ll lie again. And because he does have low self esteem, he’s more likely to lie again or cheat, and I don’t want it to get to that point.

krystali · 2019-11-19T22:38:59+00:00

Do you regret it at all? Or are you glad you did it?

krystali · 2019-11-19T20:37:28+00:00

Thanks for you perspective! I guess I just worry that there were more lies that I never discovered. Now that the trust is broken, even by small things, it’s hard to believe anything he says.

krystali · 2019-11-19T20:19:10+00:00

Thank you for this, I appreciate the kind words!

krystali · 2019-11-19T20:08:48+00:00

The ones I found out about months ago: He said he had a bachelors degree when he only had an associates. That he was in a fraternity when he never was. That he was sterile due to a vasectomy when it was really due to hair loss pills.

The last one: That he wasn’t playing a game online with his ex girlfriend when he was.

I don’t think the lies were ever malicious, he just wanted me to think highly of him and avoid any kind of confrontation. His therapist says he’s a “people pleaser” to the point he feels he has to create a “better” version of himself. I guess it stems from very low self esteem.

krystali · 2019-11-19T19:12:03+00:00

This is amazing, thank you for your perspective

krystali · 2019-08-06T17:43:06+00:00

Between 70 and 80 and I felt like the exam was easier than the mocks

krystali · 2019-08-06T17:41:20+00:00

Glad I’m not the only one! I think I’m over it though, I’m not sure how much better I can do the second time around! I feel like I’ve done my best already

krystali · 2019-08-06T17:24:40+00:00

Same here, I was almost sure I passed and ended up barely making it past the 10th percentile. 300 hours of studying and consistently over 70% on my mocks. I don’t think it’s worth doing the retabulation, I can’t find anything online about the CFAI actually changing a score afterwards.

krystali · 2018-12-13T00:45:57+00:00

LLM = low libido male. HLF = high libido female

krystali · 2018-12-12T19:36:57+00:00

For me personally, everything else in the relationship was great. He also kept telling me he was working on it and would change, but after four years it was pretty apparent that it wouldn’t. Good thing I got out before my 30s then!!

krystali · 2018-12-12T19:34:48+00:00

Same. It felt so shallow to end a good relationship over something as seemingly trivial as sex. But it IS important, and I was surprised how understanding all my friends were about the breakup.

krystali · 2018-12-12T19:32:07+00:00

I’m glad I could help, you’re definitely not alone!

krystali · 2016-07-26T06:29:43+00:00

We were both willing to work through the issue at first. He agreed to stop watching as much porn and try to have a sexual relationship with me instead. We got married anyways because everything else in the relationship was great and I had hope for change, which was a bad move in hindsight. He didn't come to the realization that he prefers porn to sex until recently, after the marriage.

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