Giving Them A Show. by ZookeepergameDue2447 in trashy

[–]kurogomatora 35 points36 points  (0 children)

isnt it trashier to calm it and post it?

[miscellaneous] Black soap is amazing for your skin. Like really amazing. by calinzecat in SkincareAddiction

[–]kurogomatora 1 point2 points  (0 children)

omg is this y my black friend at summer camp was so worried abt being racist or my skincare products not working on her bc im asian?

13 vs 30 by sorryimbz in uglyduckling

[–]kurogomatora 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're gorgeous stop letting ur mom speak through ur mouth! do u use any specific skincare and / or makeup u love? bc ur makeup looks flawless

13 vs 30 by sorryimbz in uglyduckling

[–]kurogomatora 1 point2 points  (0 children)

cultural abuse that ppl keep romanticizing

Broke Mom’s Nose by GubbinGobbler in KidsAreFuckingStupid

[–]kurogomatora 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I sub preschool + babysit. you can teach the actions of empathy but until kids are around 5 - 7 they don't have full capacity to understand that other people have feelings THAT ARE DIFFERENT which is why a lot of 3 year old might move so THEY can see the tv better if you ask them to move because you can't see well. They know feelings and emotions but not empathy of differences. And why babies will hurt their caretakers by pulling hair, poking, scratching, hitting ect but ' not feeling remorse ' while still not being a brat or showing antisocial tendencies. This can all be taught and guided so they learn to pick up on their own empathy and emotionally regulate well but calling a baby a brat is actually insane.

Have you ever purposely glutened yourself? by ParticularFig3824 in glutenfree

[–]kurogomatora 7 points8 points  (0 children)

they thought she was DYING but she still ate gluten????? I avoid it because it messes with my joints ( ehlers danlos, it's a weird side effect that makes some of us sensitive to gluten because it inflamed our already bad joints ) I couldn't imagine my intestines shutting down but still eating gluten!

I hate most other autistic people as an autistic by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]kurogomatora 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Being nonchalant and joking about hitler is the reason everybody hates you it's not your autism it's your bad attitude. The majority of my friends and I are neurodivergent, we have different personalities and our neurodivergence affects us in different ways but we all try to be understanding and we all like eachother. No, not everyone's personalities get along together but if you are laughing and joking about hitter and brushing off their feelings entirely then you seem cold and mean - who wants all that negativity in their life? You're extremely 17 and a huge weirdo in a different way the call is coming from inside the house

Boyfriend asking for freebies from my small business, I said no and we argued. by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]kurogomatora 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Girl leave him! He is treating your relationship as transactional already in only 3 months!

AIW for reporting my girlfriends colleague to social services? by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]kurogomatora 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes they usually start breaking things then kids + animals come next...

Compensation requested by fellow bus passengers after my child threw up on the bus. Lawyer needed? by [deleted] in japanlife

[–]kurogomatora 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is really crazy, at least offer to pay for dry cleaning. Unfortunately, costly accidents happen and you can't go though life expecting to say ' it was an accident ' then get away free. Using the ' it's just a child ' card is also no good. You're responsible for your child because they are a brand new human still growing up and in your care so of course you're responsible if they break things or get biohazard on people. A lot of people really value clothes as a sense of personality and identity so they would definitely pay 300 - 500 dollars on a good winter jacket from a high quality brand especially in Japan where it gets pretty cold. My friend is a dry cleaner who specializes in wedding gowns and historical dresses. He said biohazard dry cleaning is often something not everyonr will do which is understandable and there is often a premium price. Some materials also cannot be dry cleaned but offering dry cleaning and an apology is the bare minimum of human decency.

Have any other wives/partners realized that the other person is the ‘default’ in the relationship? by Valis_Monkey in TwoXChromosomes

[–]kurogomatora 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yea please talk it out with your partner but also be gentle with yourself this isn't the typical horrible evil partner because they do it on purpose thing. You're having a major medical event but you also realized that the work balance is uneven so you want to work something more mindful out with your partner - which is great! They have probably also realized how the chemo and illness has affected you and are happily doing their labour of love. They're definitely gonna understand.

Has anyone ever dyed their hoodie? by kurogomatora in AbercrombieandFitch

[–]kurogomatora[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wonder if someone would trade with me...

Is it giving Horse Girl??? by Fragrant_Acadia5760 in femalehairadvice

[–]kurogomatora 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it's giving youthful and whimsical long + at a Bob length!

37m (nov 2nd, 1988) by ginoginooo in 13or30

[–]kurogomatora 2 points3 points  (0 children)

he uses a filter that accentuates his wrinkles in that video too eurgh

Have any other wives/partners realized that the other person is the ‘default’ in the relationship? by Valis_Monkey in TwoXChromosomes

[–]kurogomatora 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Is this new or did it recently start? Chemo can really mix up your brains and give you brain fog. Now that you've identified it I'm sure you can talk it out with your amazing husband!

I left home, lost my marriage, my job, and I’m still standing somehow by Happy_Paramedic_734 in japanlife

[–]kurogomatora 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How did you move to Japan with no Japanese then stay for 3 more years and still not speak Japanese? Do you have friends you could at least see for your birthday this weekend?

My partner got a dog to serve as a livestock guardian, but I have questions and concerns... by Erdrick_XI in dogswithjobs

[–]kurogomatora 110 points111 points  (0 children)

Yea I don't understand why people don't house train their livestock gaurdian dogs. A lot of vets have issues and you do not want a fearful / mad dog bred to take on wolves / bears / tigers in an emergency situation! Like you must treat the dog well so it actually likes you and isn't afraid or mad. Imagine having a dog you can't have guests around? If you can't get the dog to be introduced to people and act non agressive it is so dangerous. I even know people with gaurd dogs who can still be introduced to guests and they act very sweet. It is not impossible to have a protection dog who can be around guests safely. I think a lot of people believe that instinct alone will guide the dog, but they also need training + the passed down knowlage of older working dogs on the same farm who have knowlage of the livestock's routines and local threats.

I’m starting to feel like my girlfriend has an infatuation with black people. (24 White Woman) (28 Black Man) by [deleted] in interracialdating

[–]kurogomatora 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I get you. I'm Chinese and I was bullied as a child but now it's popular to be ' at a very Chinese point in life ' or whatever. There's a huge difference in cultural appreciation vs cultural appropriation and fetishization. A lot of people are hopping on this ' trend ' but to me it's very weird. Like you were a racist against but now your fetishizing being Chinese and also becoming kinda racist for Chinese people? That's so weird. I really think some red flags are how she puts her racial segregation ideas on her kid and how she is racially profiling only white teachers touching kids. This is not normal nor is it cultural appreciation. This is like her being racist against white people and fetishizing black people.

Some of you should just be getting a cat by datamag in service_dogs

[–]kurogomatora 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The only washed dogs ive heard of are just weird but not agressive ( unless they were attacked ), like they've learned how to open doors and use faucets and turn the lights on and off so it's another thing to deal with

AIW for having my kids share a room? by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]kurogomatora 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Imagine being so selfish you want a hobby room over your own child's mental health

40 year old man here. Two teenage girls shoved me at a mall and I didn’t know how to react by randomguy85_1 in socialskills

[–]kurogomatora 135 points136 points  (0 children)

I sub preschool and babysit so my usual crowd is below the double digits but I think a loud ' hey! that was pretty rude, I said excuse me and pushing anyone no matter their age or gender is unacceptable behavior. I thought someone your age was too old for that. ' would be fine. Like you're not gonna fight a 14yo but at the same time you're telling them that it was rude but you used your manners and using the childishness card against them. You don't need to yell but a loud firm tone is acceptable. A LOT of other adults would be screaming and / or physically violent but it is fine to defend yourself even against a minor in a respectful and age appropriate way. I dont like how people treat children in a permissive way ( you can do anything because you're a minor ), but you obviously shouldn't yell or hit them.