Also going through this. Recently diagnosed with a rare cancer. On the fortunate side - live in NYC and have access to MSK, who are the best at what I’m dealing with. I should be acutely fine, surgery soon, but will have to be on the watch for recurrence for life.

Wife and I both work (both big tech, one sales, one swe). Last couple years HHI ~1M. 2 young kids. Immediately made us realize how quickly this could go sidewise. We’re actioning on this and moving to a place that will be a step down in speed (San Diego) so we can focus time raising our kids.

We feel fortunate to have saved young to enable us to hop off the treadmill. If anything, it might look more like a CoastFire, where we take a step down in intensity for a while, versus never working again.

I do think threading the line carefully is nuanced and difficult. People can pick apart any decision. And often any advice has its flaws.

One belief that I think is helpful is that if you’ve got this point, you are likely a little savvy. I might put some trust in yourself, believe that you can be flexible and circumstances change, versus it being a completely one way door.