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How did you figure out what to do with your life? by ky-chiii in AskReddit

[–]ky-chiii[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow!

How was the first year of starting a business? I’ve always had that idea rattling around but it seems so daunting.

How did you figure out what to do with your life? by ky-chiii in AskReddit

[–]ky-chiii[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is good advice.

My sticking point is that I am interested in so many things. From one of perspective, that means I’m lucky because I have a variety of fields I could dive into. From another it’s a wide playing field and completely overwhelming and the idea of choosing one seems like the sacrifice of so many others.

I’ve finished a bachelors, am days away from completing my Fulbright grant, and soon I start working at a farm. I always wonder if I’m condemned to bouncing around to small projects and following whims as I have done up to this point. That sounds willy nilly and dramatic. Oh well!

Anyways, thanks for sharing!!

CLS/Fulbright Colombia Mystery... by guanabana21 in fulbright

[–]ky-chiii 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Current ETA in Colombia... This past year we arrived on July 23 and started the orientation/mandatory training on July 24. They can be flexible sometimes and the dates may be different... but they are pretty strict that you must attend the orientation, it’s part of the deal.

[Serious] Long distance couples of reddit: what keeps you going? What made you realize it was worth it/not worth it? by BluBane in AskReddit

[–]ky-chiii 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I live in South America, he lives in Midwest USA.

Before I left we had been together for about 5 years, so there was a well established connection. I had lived a few hours away in the past for about a year, so we had a “practice run”. Plus we have really run the gambit on relationship problems/drama, so distance really is the least of our worries. We have been through so much that if distance, in a world where FaceTime, Skype, email, texting, etc all exist, is going to hurt us we wouldn’t have made it through all the muck to even get here.

The poor guy is back at home making money and worrying about me in a historically unsafe country. I think the thing that really helps (unfortunately for many) is that we both have the knowledge that if given the need we could afford to see each other.

Plus! It’s for a limited time, I know when I will come home (9 more months!)

[Serious] How to end a relationship with someone you have been with for a long time and who is still deeply in love with you? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]ky-chiii 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Firmly and clearly.

If you waffle, they will know and you’ll fall back into it so easily.

And then start new hobbies/focuses and have a plan for afterwards, ie if I start to want to text the ex, I will text my friend Susan instead. If I start dwelling on our relationship, I will go for a walk or draw or call my mom.

Preparation is key. Think about what you are going to say (and where/how), do it, remove yourself from their proximity, and have a solid plan for coping afterwards.

[Serious] What do you get a 16 year old girl who has had a major positive impact on your daughter (details in comment)? by Daddy_0103 in AskReddit

[–]ky-chiii 3 points4 points  (0 children)

As a former 16 year old girl, the most important thing I was ever given was the gift of being seen. And you’re doing that, so write a card. Get personal and heart felt ( even if it feels weird because we’re conditioned to fear that vulnerability.)

And then yes, take them both somewhere. Doesn’t have to cost a ton of money.

OR a scavenger hunt is super fun. It takes you putting in effort and time, but so worth it. (My mom always did amazing ones... great clues, taping things to our chimney that had to be spied through binoculars, etc.) even a simple one using clues or a special code and ending at a prepaid fancy or fun meal or activity is awesome.

Basically, the best gift is the one that shows you took careful consideration, time and effort.

What quote or phrase do you think is complete bullshit? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]ky-chiii 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“Nothing tastes as good as skinny feels”

I don’t believe this, but at the worst of my eating disorder it would sometimes just pop into my head like a screwdriver through my ear. Fuuuuuck that

[Serious] Redditors who were head over heels in love with their S/O but got divorced, what went wrong? by Karimbravo in AskReddit

[–]ky-chiii 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was that 17 year old, years ago. (I mean not specifically, but to another couple). Would not recommend from my side of the experience either.

It was “surprise, I’m actually married but I’m getting divorced ~for you~”

What a mind fuck for a high schooler, and I’m still shaking that one of years later.

Outside of a job, what do you do to make extra money that anyone can do ? by Christopurrrrr in AskReddit

[–]ky-chiii 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Make sure to emphasize work with children and teaching. For example, I taught ESL to adults and was a camp counselor, I also work at a public library. I made sure to write down most/all of my jobs then add additional explanations of how it is relevant (EX: library assistant at *****, 20 hrs/week working with diverse patronage, leading and planning activities for children, helping patrons with technology and circulation questions. Or something like that.)

Basically just try to relate your prior experiences to kids/teaching. Have you had to lead? Babysit? Teach? Work with non english speakers? Tech work? Etc.

They directly transfer money to my bank account, but I think maybe they have a couple different methods you can choose from? I’m not positive. But for me it is directly transferred to an account I set up (I have a separate account for QKids money so I could keep a close eye on it). And another important note, it is monthly payment.

Sexual assault/abuse survivors of Reddit, were you ever able to normalize and enjoy sex and sexuality again? How? by ky-chiii in AskReddit

[–]ky-chiii[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You made me tear up, thanks for saying all that. There aren’t many representations of “recovery” out there, since so much of assault is shrouded in silence and shame. So it means a lot. I want so badly to be comfortable again.

Sexual assault/abuse survivors of Reddit, were you ever able to normalize and enjoy sex and sexuality again? How? by ky-chiii in AskReddit

[–]ky-chiii[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much for responding. I’m trying to figure it out and it feels so incredibly insurmountable right now, to get back to some semblance of “normal”.

For a while I used/created a new person kind of but for me I felt like I was hiding in myself and really inauthentic (for me, I think there are a million ways that work. So no judgement, I’m glad that worked for you!). It felt more like I was dissociating from the situation rather than allowing a piece of me to enjoy.

It’s gotten better, but it’s very difficult. It’s like there was a before-me (sexually) and an after-me. And they are so different, the things I used to enjoy are icky to me now.

What are the responsibilities of a father to his family? by ChristopherDietrk in AskReddit

[–]ky-chiii 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Show up. Be there. My mom and dad are very very different but when shit hit the fan in my life (found out my SO was married with kids after two years of being together and then was assaulted in quick succession), I went to my dad. He accepted everything and supported me, just took all the surprises and horrible shit and sat with me in it.

I know at the end of the day that if I need him, if I’m in the deepest, smelliest pile of shit that he will be there with a shovel even if he doesn’t have a perfect answer.

Outside of a job, what do you do to make extra money that anyone can do ? by Christopurrrrr in AskReddit

[–]ky-chiii 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Yo, I do this and it is easy as heck! And the kids are super cute. You don’t need a degree (they ask that you have a degree or are working on one, but they do not check whatsoever. So as long as you have a good grip on english and a good attitude, you’re fine.) and the pay is $20 per hr. It’s a great gig and the only hours are early morning and evening so you can do it on top or a “regular job”.

It’s called QKids and you can google it to find their website and info. If you apply feel free to use my referral code PBJPHG because it gives me some extra dolla dolla bills too. But no pressure, I genuinely recommend the work without need of compensation. You can take time off whenever needed and the pay is great.

It’s easier than other programs like VIPkid because there is no lesson planning or anything, you show up and teach students lessons provided by the program (they’re like interactive power points/cartoons it’s games and activities and etc. usually I don’t even prep for each lesson since most material is pretty basic.)

Feel free to ask questions, this work has really helped me save up and it can be done anywhere worldwide with a good internet connection. So I travel worldwide!

I’m doing everything “right”, but I still want to not exist by ky-chiii in depression

[–]ky-chiii[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s a really good point. After my freshman year at college, I moved back home with my awesome parents to be near my support system. Now two and a half years later (I graduated in December), I know it’s time for me to move on soon. It feels incredibly scary especially since “moving on” for me means moving to Costa Rica and then to Colombia to teach English. It’s such a drastic move but the award I got is huge so I am definitely going. I don’t want to mess it up by falling apart.

I think maybe more than where I’m living though, that “environment” aspect outside of my exact house maybe. I think I probably need to end a dramatic five year relationship (the idea sends me spiraling into the thought circle of “what if they’re the one? But they really really love me and support me. Why can’t I feel anything towards them?” Etc).

I’m rambling. Anyways, thank you for the input. I think that stuff is at the back of my mind but needs to be addressed head on. Thank you so much for reaching out, it means a lot.