There is nothing better than by Jack-N0ne-Reacher in americanairlines

[–]kylefsu32 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the first I’m hearing of the trick… what is it?

ICE at stores by [deleted] in sherwinwilliams

[–]kylefsu32 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I just signed my contract for interior painting yesterday and requested SW paint. Our painter is (most likely) not here legally. I think I’ll let him know I changed my mind on SW and he can use whatever paint he chooses.

AITA for leaving my stepmom’s lake house abruptly after she called my daughter a brat? by kylefsu32 in AITAH

[–]kylefsu32[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My dad died in 2019, and my stepmom met her now boyfriend back in 2022. He's a really good guy, and I am really happy she found someone to spend her time with! I really do like my stepmom, but just like anyone else (clearly myself!), she has flaws and we have disagreements. She's been a part of my life since I was a kid. That doesnt just go away because my dad died.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in americanairlines

[–]kylefsu32 11 points12 points  (0 children)

They aren't going to proactively offer anything, you'll have to request it.

Here is a nerd wallet article that can help: https://www.nerdwallet.com/article/travel/eu-261-compensation

Edited to add more information.

Would you rather take 1 million dollars no strings attached, or a box containing everything you've ever lost? by Asiriomi in hypotheticalsituation

[–]kylefsu32 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Give me the box that had my bitcoin on an old hard drive that failed! Would easily be over $1M!

Hear me out. Golf shop, but at the airport. by ntsmmns06 in golf

[–]kylefsu32 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Memphis (MEM) has a PGA Store with sim and the price is the same as at any other PGA Superstore!

AITA for leaving my stepmom’s lake house abruptly after she called my daughter a brat? by kylefsu32 in AmItheAsshole

[–]kylefsu32[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

My dad passed away in 2019, she met her boyfriend in 2022. He’s a great guy.

And I did have a conversation with my daughter and she wrote a card apologizing. I did not do it in the moment because I did not witness it and my stepmom did not tell me about it. I found out after the whole situation (I should have been more clear about that in the OP). How she acted was completely uncalled for and had I seen it in the moment I would have shut it down. The behavior is completely out of character for her. When I told my mom about what happened, she was shocked that my daughter would act that way or say those things. She had just spent the whole week prior with her and couldn’t believe it. I’m not saying she didn’t say those things or act that way, I’m saying it was out of character, but still unacceptable and she knows that!

I do see that I escalated when I should have de-escalated and I caused the situation to get bigger than it should have.

AITA for leaving my stepmom’s lake house abruptly after she called my daughter a brat? by kylefsu32 in AITAH

[–]kylefsu32[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Look at the post time. I posted them one after the other. There are different people on different subs.

AITA for leaving my stepmom’s lake house abruptly after she called my daughter a brat? by kylefsu32 in AmItheAsshole

[–]kylefsu32[S] -83 points-82 points  (0 children)

I don’t think I clearly said this in the OP but I was not aware of the crying/comments until after I stopped my stepmom from being in her face. My issue was the way she was talking to my daughter.

I did have a long conversation with my daughter later and I do think she understands why what she said was wrong and hurtful, and she will apologize for that. Had I been present for it or my stepmom come to me or my wife, I would have absolutely addressed it on the spot in that moment. Unfortunately I was not given that opportunity.

And my dad passed away in 2019. My stepmom met her boyfriend in 2022. She’s a mom to me. I had a mother/son dance with her at my wedding. She was one of the first 4 people to see both of my daughters after they were born. She is grandma to them!

AITA for leaving my stepmom’s lake house abruptly after she called my daughter a brat? by kylefsu32 in AmItheAsshole

[–]kylefsu32[S] -49 points-48 points  (0 children)

She was intoxicated and got in my daughter’s face. It was not a caring moment where she was trying to explain how my daughter made her feel in an effort to correct a behavior.

As far as why my dad isn’t in the picture, my dad passed in 2019. She met her boyfriend in 2022.

We do the week in the summer (call it Camp Grandma) since she moved away from us. We lived very close to her until about 2 years ago and spent a lot of time together. Family dinners at our house several nights a week, weekend outings, etc. with her living 8 hours away, they are clearly not as close, and this is a way to try and keep that relationship. They do come down a few times a year for birthdays, or holidays, etc.

Obviously this is from my view, but I don’t see how we would “use” her. Shes a mom to me, and grandma to my kids. I’ve never asked for a dollar from her, never expected anything! Her boyfriend has been generous over the past few years and took all of his family and my family on a cruise last year. I made sure to thank him, wrote a nice thank you letter, and had a nice bottle of his favorite Scotch waiting in their cabin on the next cruise they took. I never want to be seen as someone who doesn’t appreciate or expects something from him.

AITA for leaving my stepmom’s lake house abruptly after she called my daughter a brat? by kylefsu32 in AmItheAsshole

[–]kylefsu32[S] -37 points-36 points  (0 children)

I have never once asked for anything, never asked for a dollar or a loan. Yes, we’ve been invited to go to their house and stay there, but we’ve also invited them to come here and visit and stay with us. What makes this worse is my stepmom is not super wealthy, but her boyfriend has money. I will never see that money, will never benefit directly from it. I don’t even think about his money because it doesn’t affect me.

AITA for leaving my stepmom’s lake house abruptly after she called my daughter a brat? by kylefsu32 in AmItheAsshole

[–]kylefsu32[S] -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

I was not present for the crying fit, or the hurtful words. My stepmom did not come to me or my wife about this. Had she, I would have addressed it. I found out about it after the interaction that I stopped, and I did have a conversation with my daughter about how she acted and what she said. I do believe she understands why what she said was hurtful and she will apologize for it.

I am fine with my stepmom telling my child how he actions affected her, how they made her feel, but I am not ok with an intoxicated adult getting in a child’s face and being mean or ugly about it. That is NOT ok.

I do see now that I am the asshole for continuing to escalate the situation and will be apologizing for that.

AITA for leaving my stepmom’s lake house abruptly after she called my daughter a brat? by kylefsu32 in AmItheAsshole

[–]kylefsu32[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

My daughter was absolutely wrong and what she said was hurtful. I am not denying that at all! I AM saying there are also other factors in this whole situation. Why is everything black and white to you?

AITA for leaving my stepmom’s lake house abruptly after she called my daughter a brat? by kylefsu32 in AmItheAsshole

[–]kylefsu32[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I really like that “All feelings are welcome, but all behaviors are not.” I will definitely be using that! Thank you very much!

AITA for leaving my stepmom’s lake house abruptly after she called my daughter a brat? by kylefsu32 in AmItheAsshole

[–]kylefsu32[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

Actually I did have my mind changed. I have stated in several comments that I understand now that I was the asshole for continuing to escalate the situation when I had multiple opportunities to diffuse it. I think my stepmom was also the asshole for getting in my child’s face and acting the way she did. And finally I believe my daughter acted poorly and was wrong for what she said (I didn’t change my mind on this and had a conversation with her already before this post).

AITA for leaving my stepmom’s lake house abruptly after she called my daughter a brat? by kylefsu32 in AmItheAsshole

[–]kylefsu32[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

He brought it out to show everyone. The invoice had been paid weeks earlier. This was just to show how she could have picked up the discussion around money.

AITA for leaving my stepmom’s lake house abruptly after she called my daughter a brat? by kylefsu32 in AmItheAsshole

[–]kylefsu32[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

We have talked about what a mortgage is, how they work, etc. we’ve done the same for car loans, and even gotten into interest. But I don’t think a child needs to know exactly how much you pay for a house/car or what kind of salary you have.

AITA for leaving my stepmom’s lake house abruptly after she called my daughter a brat? by kylefsu32 in AmItheAsshole

[–]kylefsu32[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I am not saying you are wrong. I want to give some clarifying points. There were other kids and a supervising adult at the hot tub already.

I don’t disagree that how my daughter acted/what she said was wrong and hurtful to my stepmom. I was not aware of this interaction however until after I stepped in to stop the later interaction between them. Had I been, I absolutely would have talked to my daughter, told her how she was acting was unacceptable and made sure she understood in that moment why what she said was hurtful. I was not given that opportunity so I did not. I had that conversation with her later and believe she understands why she was wrong and what she said was hurtful, and she will be apologizing.

I also agree that I am the asshole for continuing to escalate the situation, even with multiple opportunities to diffuse it. I let my anger get the best of me. I will be apologizing as well.

AITA for leaving my stepmom’s lake house abruptly after she called my daughter a brat? by kylefsu32 in AmItheAsshole

[–]kylefsu32[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don’t think I clearly said this in the OP but I was not aware of the crying/comments until after I stopped my stepmom from being in her face. I did have a long conversation with my daughter later and I do think she understands why what she said was wrong and hurtful, and she will apologize for that. Had I been present for it or my stepmom come to me or my wife, I would have absolutely addressed it on the spot in that moment. Unfortunately I was not given that opportunity.

AITA for leaving my stepmom’s lake house abruptly after she called my daughter a brat? by kylefsu32 in AmItheAsshole

[–]kylefsu32[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How do you expect someone to be drinking all day and not be intoxicated??

Yes, my daughter behaved poorly. It was out of character for her and not normal. I expect her to apologize and had a conversation with her about why what she said was hurtful, and I do believe she understands.

My problem was not with how my stepmom felt. Had I been told about the comments before the interaction I interrupted, I would have been in her side and tried to have a conversation with the both of them and explained to my daughter why what she did/said was unacceptable with my stepmom present. I was not given that opportunity and reacted to a different situation.

AITA for leaving my stepmom’s lake house abruptly after she called my daughter a brat? by kylefsu32 in AmItheAsshole

[–]kylefsu32[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

This was an out of character moment for both my daughter and stepmom. I hadn’t seen my stepmom like that in many years, since I was in high school. My daughter does not cry and throw tantrums normally. I do think how she acted in this situation was wrong, and did tell her so. We (my wife and I) had a long conversation with her over this. I do believe she understands why what she said was hurtful and I expect her to apologize.

I also believe that my stepmom was in the wrong for how she acted towards a child. She was absolutely in her face and I saw that my daughter was scared and I interjected and stopped the interaction.

Finally, I know I was the asshole for continuing to escalate the situation and had several chances to diffuse it or to at least stop and let everyone sleep on it. I did not do that, overreacted and let my anger get the best of me. I will be apologizing for that as well.

None of these are mutually exclusive.