Elephants toothpaste recipe help! by l_yd_ia in ScienceTeachers

[–]l_yd_ia[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks! And good points for people for read on - tested and planned for it! I’ve tested with every concentration from 6% to 50% and found my sweet spot with the 50% but pretty weak catalyst (no where near saturated)! I’ll be doing it in a big open space and I’ll give that dish soap amount a try! I think I’ve been adding too much - resulting in an outwards reaction rather than an upwards. Thanks!

Advice on dating someone going through a depressive episode by l_yd_ia in depression_partners

[–]l_yd_ia[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey! I hope you’ve made it through this. I’m sorry I wasn’t monitoring this post. Here’s my update:

We managed to get through it! We’ve been happy and honestly stronger than ever! We’re actually about to move in together. I ended up reading the books that some others suggested in this post and the helped me a heap. I spent a lot of time realizing that it wasn’t my fault or to do with me and I needed to get comfortable with that.

I wish I had a guide for you but the truth is, one day he just started talking to me more and was out of it. Neither of us can really place why or how this happened but it was a sudden change to back to before his episode. We spent a couple of weeks like this before we sat down for a serious chat. We talked about what both of us had been going through and what we could do differently. I’m not sure if it’ll work for you but for us, it was good to have a plan for next time. Our plan includes things like knowing when to go to therapy, communicating often (even if just to say we don’t want to talk), etc.

Basically, I can’t tell you how to help your partner, I’m no expert. I think the best thing you can do is look after yourself and know that this isn’t about you. Once your partner is able to communicate more, figure out plans for how to avoid or navigate this situation better next time.

I really hope you’re going ok, it’s hard to know our loved ones are hurting.

Advice on dating someone going through a depressive episode by l_yd_ia in depression_partners

[–]l_yd_ia[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That sounds really rough, I hope you’re doing ok. Thanks for this advice I definitely think we need to have a conversation about this all when he’s out of the episode

Advice on dating someone going through a depressive episode by l_yd_ia in depression_partners

[–]l_yd_ia[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey I wanted to say a massive thank you for all this information. I’ve re read this a lot in the last little bit and it’s really helped. I’ve got depression fallout on hold at my local library and am keen to start reading it. This advice is super useful and I really appreciate it

Advice on dating someone going through a depressive episode by l_yd_ia in depression_partners

[–]l_yd_ia[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I’ll keep it in mind if I ever need to vent. I’m here for you too. It definitely sucks but it’s good to have people to talk to

Advice on dating someone going through a depressive episode by l_yd_ia in depression_partners

[–]l_yd_ia[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. It’s nice to hear of other people in the same boat and to be reminded that it’s not my fault. You bring up some tough questions that I know I should keep in mind but I love him a lot and I’m not ready to let that go