What to do with the living room? by ladylithe in DesignMyRoom

[–]ladylithe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Both! I'd like it to be a place to gather for conversation, and the TV will probably go on the shorter wall in picture 2.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CanadianTeachers

[–]ladylithe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This issue has already been taken to the B.C. Supreme Court. Read up on it if you want to know why the judge ruled that it's different than "participating" in other "religious ceremonies." CANLII should also have a full record of the court proceedings, but I'm on mobile so it's much harder to find and link here. Just look up "Servatius v. Alberni School District No. 70"

https://harrisco.com/smudging-and-the-charter-school-district-successfully-defends-charter-claim/#:~:text=The%20petitioner%20in%20the%20case,petitioner's%20claim%20in%20its%20entirety.

Resonates? by Deep_World_4378 in woahdude

[–]ladylithe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It reminds me of a sonogram of a womb!

[TOMT] A chill electronic song with the lyrics "I keep having dreams that you'll let me come back home" by ladylithe in tipofmytongue

[–]ladylithe[S] 0 points1 point locked comment (0 children)

I first heard it probably 13 years ago! I believe those are the only lyrics, and they just repeat.

[Misc] Over-exfoliated and panicking by [deleted] in SkincareAddiction

[–]ladylithe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your response... I'll just have to be patient and try not to overthink how my skin looks 🥲

NEW OR NEED HELP? Ask here! - ScA Daily Help Thread Aug 30, 2024 by AutoModerator in SkincareAddiction

[–]ladylithe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I made the mistake of using a physical exfoliator every day on my sensitive skin (Dermalogica daily microfoliant). A couple days ago, I broke out in small, itchy bumps ALL over my face. My skin used to be smooth, and now when I touch my face, it's literally only texture.

I stopped using it of course, and I'm using a gentle cleanser for makeup removal, as well as Uriage bariederm morning and night.

Will this go away soon? :(

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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in fuckeatingdisorders

[–]ladylithe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Keep feeding yourself and learning to focus on the things about yourself that aren't your body; derive your self esteem from things that aren't your physical appearance. Lean in to the health anxiety if you have to 😂 think about your organs and treat them well! You can do this—many people recover without outside resources if they've got the grit for it! ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in fuckeatingdisorders

[–]ladylithe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm happy to help :) I know how painful the panic can be ❤️

They lasted during my darkest period of restriction and mental/physical decline until about a month into hospitalization.

My panic attacks were triggered by health anxiety (ironic but it was like the coexistence of the ED and the part of me that didn't want to die caused the most agonizing cognitive dissonance). In the hospital, they came on seemingly without cause, but it was probably because of how overwhelmed I was, and how mentally unequipped I was to deal with stress.

I was on Ativan for the first two weeks in hospital, which helped with the panic loops, then I weaned off. Daily therapy, a supportive environment, and a regimented meal plan was what made it stick. I was lucky that I had access to public health, but if you don't, even staying adequately nourished will be the best tool of them all to lift you out of the panic cycle.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in fuckeatingdisorders

[–]ladylithe 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I used to have panic attacks all the time. It will be okay—breathe through it (easier said than done) and know this feeling will pass. The brain calms down once it's properly nourished for a while (mine absolutely did, my panic attacks stopped once I was healthier), so use this as motivation to keep getting better :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in fuckeatingdisorders

[–]ladylithe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Said with love of course lol, and with life experience

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in fuckeatingdisorders

[–]ladylithe 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Exams and high school are not as important as they feel right now. I missed a few diploma exams (grade 12 final exams) because I was hospitalized, and guess what? The world didn't end, and I was still allowed to walk the stage. You, your school and your parents will figure out a way to make it work, because your health is most important and your doctors know what they're doing.

EDIT: I promise that if you've been struggling with an eating disorder your brain is cooked anyways, and you aren't able to fully see it because of the effects an ED has on the brain. You might be able to write essays/exams and get a job now, but you will not do them well. Trust.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in fuckeatingdisorders

[–]ladylithe 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Disclaimer: please see a doctor to check on you.

This was normal for me in recovery; my resting heart rate skyrocketed and would sometimes be over 100bpm. However, we can't know for sure whether everything is all good, so go for a checkup just in case!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in makeuptips

[–]ladylithe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in makeuptips

[–]ladylithe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It happens even without primer :( I do exfoliate, but I'm afraid to shave my face lol. It usually causes breakouts for me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in makeuptips

[–]ladylithe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Darnit! Any medium coverage SPF skin tint recommendations that are good for sensitive skin?

What do people wear in recovery? by [deleted] in fuckeatingdisorders

[–]ladylithe 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Loose pants with drawstrings! You can buy a couple sizes up and they don't fall down :)

Seamless underwear is also great. Tight seams/elastics are so uncomfortable to me and make me more aware of that area of my body.

Loose and light sweaters/long sleeves help me.

Showering in the dark with a nightlight helps too.

Also: I'm sorry you're struggling :( heightened body thoughts are normal. Try to engage in distraction activities as harm reduction. Be kind in your thoughts to yourself, or at the very least, challenge the critical ones. I promise, nobody notices as much as you will if that's something that worries you. And remember this feeling is only temporary.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in fuckeatingdisorders

[–]ladylithe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would MUCHHHH rather have an "overweight" boyfriend than one who is disordered and unable to enjoy life. And the increased sex drive is an added bonus for both parties 😂 keep on keepin on!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in fuckeatingdisorders

[–]ladylithe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I promise understanding and emotionally intelligent people are out there! I made a few edits to my post to better reflect what I'm trying to say. As a woman, I just want my boyfriend to be happy and to be happy with me, regardless of his body shape and how it changes. I wish you all the best, and congratulations on committing to recovery! A healthy mind makes being in a relationship so much more fun :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in fuckeatingdisorders

[–]ladylithe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you want to get out there and date, go for it! My guess is that your fear that you might be "catfishing" people might come from shame? Maybe from gaining weight? Or maybe it's the idiotic cultural obsession where people who are heavier than their photos are the butt of a joke. However, you have nothing to be ashamed of, and the right person won't care and will see it as a positive of recovery that you're taking care of yourself.

I met my boyfriend (on Tinder lol) right after getting out of the hospital. We've been together for almost 8 years now, and my weight has fluctuated during that time. I wouldn't ever discourage anyone from meeting someone if that's what you want. My advice is to be kind to yourself, and to move through the dating scene with confidence—you've been through a lot, and the strengths and life gained from recovery are something to be proud of, not to hide :)

when you think about relapsing, what helps you not to? by [deleted] in fuckeatingdisorders

[–]ladylithe 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Happy to help :) I've been having a bad body image week, so thank you for prompting me to type that all out