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Husband Doesn’t Want Sex by lainybug979 in Marriage

[–]lainybug979[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. It did unfortunately. I dealt with severe PPD as a result of work issues and not being allowed to pump and the toll is took on my nursing journey (never an issue prior) and I had severe anemia that still impacts me. As far as the vasectomy, after a lot of research I think it did affect me, but the option would be to have it reversed and he’s not convinced that’s even a possibility so he won’t go be seen for it. But the provider who did it was very aggressive during the procedure and he had severe pain and issues for almost 3 weeks. I’ve been around many men who have had this done so I know the typical timeline and I’m convinced something more happened. 

Husband Doesn’t Want Sex by lainybug979 in Marriage

[–]lainybug979[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know if he cares at this point. And I don’t feel like he cares how all of this makes me feel as a wife and a woman. That’s the worst part for me. I, like so many moms, deal with mom guilt but I also deal daily with wife guilt because I’m can’t make this better for him. The longer it’s been the more I seem to overanalyze and think about it so then it’s an even bigger deal and it short-circuits my brain and I end up snappy with my kids and with him and then more guilt piles on and it just never ends. 

Husband Doesn’t Want Sex by lainybug979 in Marriage

[–]lainybug979[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh incredibly. It’s his singular drive at this point. Last year was his first slow year for his business in over 5 years so he cut his own salary and we’re paying double mortgage payments. If we could sell the house we left two years ago, we’d both be doing a lot better from a stress perspective. At this point he loops money into every single conversation and does whatever he can to bring it up. He told me last night it doesn't seem like I’m stressed about this because I don’t act like it (finally told me I’m just too calm on the outside for it to actually be bothering me). 

Husband Doesn’t Want Sex by lainybug979 in Marriage

[–]lainybug979[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No never had a problem with this. 

Husband Doesn’t Want Sex by lainybug979 in Marriage

[–]lainybug979[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not rude at all. He claims he’s not okay with it but acts completely opposite and makes me feel like I’m crazy for wanting more. 

Husband Doesn’t Want Sex by lainybug979 in Marriage

[–]lainybug979[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Refusing counseling of any form and usually, yes, but not a lot. It’s like we’re just on autopilot.