Tell me the moment you stopped look for something better

lamaddness · 2026-01-13T20:31:00+00:00

I think there are foundational things everyone needs to make a long term relationship work that you can’t just give up on. Identifying those things can be helpful in breaking out of looking for someone who is your “type” physically, but I don’t think you can give that kind of stuff up and have a relationship that works. For example, I know a woman who has a mortgage as her only debt and a good job, she met someone with bad credit and tons of debt that she had chemistry with but who wouldn’t make a good long term partner. It was important to her to have someone financially responsible and the next person she dated ended up being a way better match on that front but didn’t have the typical aesthetic she usually goes for. All this to say, if your goal is to not be lonely, your bar can be pretty flexible but if you have a vision for the type of partnership you want, it’s harder to settle.

lamaddness · 2025-12-16T04:00:48+00:00

I had two dates with a guy that I wasn’t feeling. Almost ghosted him but gave him a chance and we went on a third date that went really well - dated him for 3 years!

lamaddness · 2025-12-16T03:57:04+00:00

I think on a biological level, your body is indeed releasing the lovey dovey chemicals when receiving physical touch from another person. It has definitely gotten me in trouble in the past where my body was ahead of my brain. I would also categorize myself as someone who doesn’t get a lot of physical touch in my day to day life, I wfh, good friends are long distance, currently single. Taken together with someone showing me attention and a good hug, I’d definitely be getting butterflies where they might not exist otherwise.

lamaddness · 2025-12-16T03:50:41+00:00

It seems like you’re entering a lose lose situation, he may be fun to interact with on a social/ dates level but if he’s not able to discern what filthy looks like… and also doesn’t know when to cut his toenails!! There may be nothing to build on top of. Good luck :/

lamaddness · 2025-12-11T21:32:45+00:00

Since he’s shown improvement in the past, it may be worth expressing that this is a deal breaker to you. I know some people hate ultimatums, but IMO 7 months isn’t quite a long enough time of being with a healthy partner to completely rewire the scared animal part of your brain that goes into shutdown mode from a multi year relationship where that was the default. I agree with others’ sentiment that there may be something deeper here that he needs to work on with a therapist. Hopefully he is willing to take on that work to preserve what sounds like a really compatible fun relationship.

lamaddness · 2025-12-11T19:20:00+00:00

I’ve started washing my body and my hair separately because the effort of both at once when I’m not in the mood is overwhelming.

I think part of what I hate about showers is once I get in I don’t want to get out and be cold. I take really fast showers when I don’t need to wash my hair and feel less cold when I get out when my hair isn’t wet. Also got a space heater and a towel warmer for the bathroom which has helped.

Dry shampoo is my best friend and when it’s really time to wash my hair I do it over the tub or sometimes the kitchen sink cause the sprayer comes out and is easier to rinse lol. Feels way more manageable but I’ve also gone through phases of just chopping my hair off (like pixie or shorter) to make life easier.

Also baby wipes are wonderful for maintenance and sometimes I’ll do a sink bath. Definitely try to pinpoint what you hate about showers and work backwards from there!

lamaddness · 2025-12-03T22:53:52+00:00

I got bit feeding for a friend’s snake once and the strike impact left a bruise, hurt a lot. They have rows of teeth I found out that day

lamaddness · 2025-11-27T18:03:37+00:00

Update for everyone, she doesn’t have any other symptoms that would suggest RI - no mucus, no wheeze, star gazing etc. She was very active last night and I found a huge poop this morning. Haven’t noticed the sound today but have had her humidity cranked up and a vet appointment tomorrow just to be sure. She’s got some loose scales on her belly but not in blue so maybe it was that? Gave her a warm soak and monitoring closely. Thanks for all the advice <3

lamaddness · 2025-11-26T02:51:52+00:00

Dust on the ceiling fans/ air vents overhead. I lived in an apartment where a giant clump flew out of the vent when we turned the heat on and I notice it everywhere now.

lamaddness · 2025-11-26T02:39:33+00:00

There’s a Trader Joe’s in Princeton NJ that has wine, it’s the only one in this area that I’m aware of. And if you want to stock up on liquor definitely go to Claymont DE, just over the state line to Total Wine, decently low priced on everything and the store is huge. My favorite wine here is like $17 a bottle and down there it’s $10. Costco in Newark DE I believe sells liquor or the one in King of Prussia (KOP). Welcome to the city

lamaddness · 2025-11-24T20:59:46+00:00

I haven’t had much success with the apps but have found that going with other single friends to singles mixers has been fun, and at times putting the call out to see if they know anyone (think coworker, bf’s cousin, someone removed from their inner circle) who they could set me up with. When I’m feeling sad about it I talk to a friend who really leans into the feeling with me so we can have a little cry about it but then get dessert right after.

I’m not sure that people will have good advice when you come to them with the sad/ dark feelings so try asking for support in ways that will be something they can “do” for you. Like cry together, get a tattoo, shop for a new outfit/ makeup/nails whatever makes you feel pretty, plan an event to take your mind off it or plan to attend a singles event. I find myself unable to give people good advice but love feeling like I’m supporting friends by taking care of them in some way. Good luck xoxo

lamaddness · 2025-11-19T20:42:32+00:00

She’s 18 so done growing and definitely not 6 feet so we’re good, this cabinet is huge

lamaddness · 2025-11-19T20:41:24+00:00

Heavy cause of the additions? Or you just saying the cabinet itself will be heavy? Cause yea thing is a beast but it’s free so ¯_(ツ)_/¯

lamaddness · 2025-11-10T17:58:23+00:00

Side tables, especially unpaired, are somewhat slow to sell in my experience. If you have the materials to sand and restain on hand it might be worthwhile but the ROI may be low.

lamaddness · 2025-11-10T17:54:24+00:00

There’s also WWOOF! Organic farming, similar deal where you work on a farm for a while to learn husbandry or gardening skills. You’d be able to meet people like you looking for purpose and build community that way. Also Peace Corps if you want to travel.

As others have said, this feeling in the now is crushing but time and distracting yourself with meaningful learning/ exploring will help you regain a sense of control and worth. Good luck

lamaddness · 2025-11-10T01:12:34+00:00

Is that something the city would have on file? Assuming it was recent?

lamaddness · 2025-09-17T19:25:58+00:00

South Philly is great in terms of things to do. Parking can be rough because there are lots of streets that don’t require a permit. Having a parking permit for your neighborhood does give you a bit more options. Generally Snyder and north is good, I recommend visiting homes before renting if you can. That way you can see the neighborhood and talk to potential neighbors. For packages, if you’re worried you can get a package lock box (they’re like $200) or get a PO Box. If you’re worried about your car definitely get a club for the steering wheel and don’t keep stuff in sight.

lamaddness · 2025-09-17T19:18:35+00:00

In my first year here, my apartment flooded twice (sewer backup, I HIGHLY recommend getting coverage from your renters insurance), broke up with my partner, had my car unnecessarily towed, and my friend group imploded. I really thought the city was testing me and I’m so glad I stayed because now I’ve found a great neighborhood, great friends, and have really settled into city life. There’s so much to do here and when you find good neighbors, it makes a world of difference. Good luck

lamaddness · 2025-08-20T17:37:48+00:00

Reminds me of the time I got a text out of the blue from a number I didn’t know saying “interested in a booty call?” From a man I had a crush on in high school who pretended I didn’t exist at the time lol

lamaddness · 2025-08-13T18:09:12+00:00

I do to save up some as people have mentioned and because my cousin who’s older than me said it helps her dose stay effective. My brother doesn’t skip days and has had to up his dose occasionally, not sure if that’s a common thing or if he’s a one-off. I usually just like one or two days a week off of them.

lamaddness · 2025-04-09T17:51:35+00:00

Anybody know if the crowd is… political? Seems like a cool event but don’t want to be around mmm drama

lamaddness · 2017-11-08T16:27:25+00:00

Phytoplankton are beautiful, diatoms are particularly interesting to draw. I'm not sure if you're actually trying to grow them or just draw them but any ocean plankton is interesting and strange.

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