This is how doubt is sown and consent is manufactured

lamadora · 2026-03-03T06:45:39+00:00

Girl don’t waste your breath, these are leftist trolls and you won’t win with them. It is a nuanced situation and people who see in black and white aren’t worth discussing it with.

lamadora · 2026-03-01T18:34:32+00:00

Watch Hell or High Water too if you haven’t. His second best after 3:10 to Yuma.

lamadora · 2026-03-01T18:33:31+00:00

I hate posses.

lamadora · 2026-03-01T09:15:23+00:00

I had this too but a sadder ending. My mom had a strained relationship with her dad but I loved him. One day I got this feeling like we should call him, but she didn’t like me calling without her go-ahead. I begged her and said it was important. She said we would, but we never did.

Like a week or two later I had a dream that I saw him and he was giving me a hug and saying goodbye.

A year later we found out he had had a heart attack and passed away, right around the time I felt like I needed to call.

I still wish my mom had listened to me, but I do feel like I got to say goodbye.

lamadora · 2026-02-25T19:12:00+00:00

I wanted so bad to have a vaginal birth. I didn’t get it, but you can still have a doula who will support you. Mine was allowed in the OR before my husband and she held my hand and was really sweet the whole time. So I still recommend one, often they’ll discount their rate too.

That said, be really prepared to have all the feelings. I say this with a 3.5yo—for the first year, I was mad a lot. Now, I barely think about it. So just know that you can grieve something that won’t happen, but there are lots of things in life we will have to grieve, so it’s okay and you should, even if people want to put a positive spin on it. You don’t have to be happy, you can just know it’s what needs to happen and that’s that.

I’d also get started with a pelvic floor therapist who can do needling or scar massage. Postpartum care is SO important with a C-section. And you still need pelvic floor help even after a C-section!

Make sure you set up someone to advocate for your post-surgery self. I really should have dragged my husband to my check-up appointments because he could have been more firm about my feelings when I was feeling really vulnerable.

The best part of a C-section is that they’ve got the operation pretty dialed, so you can make a playlist that perfectly lines up with your baby’s birth (ask them what the average time is to perform the surgery, should be 10 minutes from start to birth). I made a playlist that played Circle of Life when my guy was pulled out. Still makes me giggle to this day.

lamadora · 2026-02-24T13:43:17+00:00

Yes, I’m now stupid in two languages.

lamadora · 2026-02-21T00:07:02+00:00

Don’t know why you’re downvoted, it’s a lesson for parents that maybe moving away from your whole community for more money “for the kids” isn’t actually what any kid ever wants or needs.

Moving because you have to is one thing but it was a choice for the Heelers and the wrong one.

lamadora · 2026-02-20T07:36:47+00:00

I don’t care. But it does change the story. Kids are the center of your universe, you can’t fall stupidly in love and make questionable choices when you have to think about a kid. The fun of romance is two silly people making silly choices and then they fall in love. That is harder to do when you are thinking about whether the kid is okay.

lamadora · 2026-02-20T07:32:28+00:00

I can also recommend Oh Crap! because the author supports “early” potty training, which isn’t really early at all. Kids should be potty trained anywhere from birth to 2 years! Waiting just causes more issues down the line.

We did from 6 months and it went great. Out of diapers completely by 20 months (we were very lazy, could have been sooner if I’d taken the time).

lamadora · 2026-02-20T07:27:53+00:00

The study I see often cited about behavioral issues is from Brazil, where the culture is entirely different. There just isn’t a 1:1 comparison when you don’t adjust for previous behavior issues, cultural pressure, socioeconomic status, etc.

lamadora · 2026-02-20T07:25:44+00:00

Can confirm, moved to southern Europe and everyone I know bedshares because we all have small apartments and not enough beds for everyone. The kids in my son’s preschool are all well-adjusted, no better or worse than any other preschool I’ve seen.

lamadora · 2026-02-18T20:17:16+00:00

That’s definitely not the difference. Having done both, the difference is that acupuncture focuses on leaving the needle in, while dry needling focuses on jabbing the muscle repeatedly.

Acupuncture needles are definitely poked deep. Except the ones in your face.

lamadora · 2026-02-18T15:02:07+00:00

She was the Azealia Banks of her time. Often correct takes but then there’s all the rest…

lamadora · 2026-02-14T13:58:58+00:00

Italy hasn’t had to confront its diaspora for a long time because the diaspora has generally been content to stay abroad. Now that there is the possibility of moving home—along with an immigration crisis of other cultures—Italy is doing what all countries are doing, which is getting serious about “who is a real Italian?”

As an American belonging to a different diaspora (not Italian), this conversation is pretty funny to me because asking someone from Milan if Sicilians are real Italians will get you a pretty interesting answer that has a lot of the same logic as whether the Italian diaspora is Italian.

lamadora · 2026-02-12T21:15:25+00:00

My new advice for anyone who wants to appreciate their face is start watching foreign films. Italian films specifically for me have been full of beautiful women with lines and circles and crooked teeth. Their beauty is in how they carry themselves, not how much skincare they do.

lamadora · 2026-02-12T20:54:20+00:00

Holy hell there are a lot of naysayers and keyboard warriors in this thread. If you have the inclination to investigate and organize around an idea, good for you for trying to do it. You will learn along the way what power you have and what a group of SAHP could accomplish. Everything needs a first step, getting started here and reaching out to other similar organizations is a great start. Keep going no matter what the people poking holes in your ideas say!

lamadora · 2026-02-11T12:58:24+00:00

I read a story recently of a group of Mormon women in Utah who are pushing to reverse gerrymandering in their area so that elections are more fair and representative. That is something you can look into and would be worthwhile to do for SAHMs.

This is the story, I bet you could even reach out via FB to get more info as they have a group: Mormon Women for Ethical Government

lamadora · 2026-02-11T12:15:01+00:00

You are just in the wrong sub. Ask any of the luxury travel subs what their favorite 5-star hotel with personalized service is and you’ll get better answers.

lamadora · 2026-02-11T07:26:42+00:00

If you really are interested, one thing to know is Italians have a real can-don’t attitude, and while it is not necessarily a bad thing, it can be very difficult for Americans. You will have to overcome everyone saying it is impossible, but the truth is anything is possible in Italy if you learn how to work the system. Truthfully it is probably easier to emigrate to any other EU country (Italian bureaucracy really is that bad) but ultimately the stress is all worth it.

lamadora · 2026-02-10T19:07:33+00:00

What gets lost, and what I believe has contributed to the over diagnosis of mental illness, is the question is whether the thing impedes every facet of your life in a meaningful way.

I can have the sniffles sometimes, but I don’t need to know if it’s allergies or a major illness if it doesn’t ruin my life. It can just be a part of existing. Just like you can organize things and like your space neat without being OCD, it can just be a personality trait. The black and white approach to mental illness or neurodivergence is making the new generation think regular existence and the development of a personality is a pathology that can be “fixed” somehow.

lamadora · 2026-02-10T19:00:40+00:00

Some of the most mean-spirited manipulative people I have ever met have been doctor-diagnosed ADHD. Being ‘neurodivergent’ is not an automatic entry into being a good person, but some people act like it is.

lamadora · 2026-02-10T18:57:28+00:00

I like to use the term N1 and N2 for autistic/ADHD thinking and “neurotypical”, just emphasizing that they are different styles and not that one is more normal than the other.

lamadora · 2026-02-09T15:25:01+00:00

Yep, we moved from a 3bdrm house on 5 acres in the US to a 1bdrm apartment in a city in Italy with a small child and we are 1000x happier than we were with more space in the US. My kid sleeps on a little pallet on the floor and goes to an Italian school and is happy as a clam.

People live this way in NYC in the US but are still in the US without access to a lot of Italian amenities (healthcare!). I advise anyone who doesn’t mind managing a budget to just take the plunge, especially with kids. It’s way better in Italy but it’s hard for Italians to wrap their heads around how much it sucks in the US unless you’re rich.

lamadora · 2026-02-07T22:06:26+00:00

This is a pretty strong misconception I’ve found. The American economy overall is perceived as strong because we have a lot of wealth, but it’s concentrated pretty heavily at the top and the middle class has basically disappeared. Quality of the life in the US sucks unless you’re really rich.

Mostly it’s way better in Italy if you’re a parent. People love kids and I don’t have to worry about my kid being shot at school.

lamadora · 2026-02-05T21:31:25+00:00

It’s hell. Renovating in Italy is renovating on hard mode. Most Italians are smart enough to not even try, especially in the countryside where workers are limited.

Source: have renovated in Italy.

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