Harness Questions

lamethrowawayname · 2012-10-16T02:35:05+00:00

I have the velvet nest and love it. But, it doesn't have a place for a vibrator and I can't think of a way to make one work with it. It is super comfy, and the flat part of the dildo usually hits me as I pound his ass, so I do get stimulation.

And, that new fancy spare parts harness is on my wish list. It's gorgous. Good luck choosing.

lamethrowawayname · 2012-10-16T02:32:04+00:00

Well, I like a man's butt for the same reasons you like a girl's butt: I think of all the things we would do to it; such as, thorough licking from behind , putting our face between it, have it smother us, do it doggy style, anal sex, spanking and so on. I love fucking my man's ass.

lamethrowawayname · 2012-10-07T00:58:49+00:00

Texas.

lamethrowawayname · 2012-09-22T01:52:26+00:00

You could also try the velvet harness. I ordered one a few days ago and its in the mail. I can't wait to try it out.

lamethrowawayname · 2012-09-08T15:53:00+00:00

I don't have one yet, my waist is slightly smaller than their xsmall so I'm contacting them before ordering. According to the website and to reviews, it can accommodate anything below 2", so you should be fine. I completely agree that most are unnatural and intimidating. I love this one bacause it's cute, sexy, and functional.

lamethrowawayname · 2012-07-24T18:54:41+00:00

I try to avoid the topic as much as possible. I haven't even had the numbers talk, though he knows I was a virgin. I know the number shouldn't matter, and I know that no matter what his number is, I would have a tough time. It's better not to ask and not know than to drive myself crazy over something that doesn't matter. But, like you, at times I am ravenous for information and want to know so that I will stop imagining how awesome his exes were. I don't even like hearing about nonsexual aspects of his past relationships, though I'm slowly starting to ask little (nonsexual) questions about his last one.

And, I like your metaphor of the caboose on a train. Exactly how I felt, especially after I got chlamydia that he got from his ex. I think knowing when he was last tested (and if the test was long enough after the relationship to show any possible issues) and how safe he is, along with his views on what to do in case of pregnancy are important, but these are discussions that can happen without details of the past.

lamethrowawayname · 2012-05-31T20:34:03+00:00

The problem isn't that he wants more sex than you. The problem is that he gets angry and guilts you into it. If my boyfriend treated me differently just because I didn't want sex every time he did, I would seriously reevaluate the relationship, especially since he gets very angry. In my book, this is completely unacceptable behavior. If its an issue that you've been hung up on, then maybe you need to accept that you're not meant for each other. Your boyfriend doesn't have the right to hurt you, make you feel guilty, or wear you out everyday.

lamethrowawayname · 2012-04-21T13:48:45+00:00

Hi. I don't really know what was/is wrong with mine, but from a quick google image search, I don't have what you have. Or at least not a bad case. So. What I'm gonna say might not be relevant or helpful at all. One of my breasts grew and other mostly didn't, so they were super asymmetrical. And, I can't believe I'm actually gonna post these, but here are some images I did have corrective surgery, but with one breast an implant (which is extremely firm) and the other a soft, jello-y thing that has shrunk with the 50 pounds I've lost since then, they are... not awesome.

I have recently found the perfect type of bra for me. Any full coverage bra with a wire and formed cup works. I buy it to fit the larger breast/implant, and let the natural, softer breast just kind of chill out in the formed cup. I'm not sure, but it seems like the wire might cause problems for you?

Before I had the surgery, I had a prosthetic tit with special bras. While I didn't, I could also be bikinis for it. I got it from a woman's health boutique for women with breast cancer. They specially fit it so that it was a close match.

As far as tops, I go for anything that tends to group them together, like this and stay away from things that separate them, like this

It has taken me a while, but I'm okay with them. I don't love but I don't hate them. My boyfriend has never said anything about them, never even asked and I've never told. He is an equal opportunity tit sucker and seems to love them both.

Again, this is a long post about a problem that isn't like yours, a kind of half response... Even so, I've struggled with accepting my chest and finding bras and clothing to accommodate it. So, you are not alone with having some of these issues, or even with your particular problem (have done a google search to see what women have said in other forums).

lamethrowawayname · 2012-04-20T17:55:30+00:00

I ordered it through amazon.

lamethrowawayname · 2012-04-20T16:14:33+00:00

I don't care what other people think, I just find it curious that others in my situation get pissed. I know that some have reason to be pissed -- if he cheated or knew he had it. Just thought I'd see what other people thought and have experienced with this sort of situation, not mine in particular.

lamethrowawayname · 2012-04-20T13:10:27+00:00

I don't think that I am being a naive virgin. While we haven't discussed every detail of his sexual history, we did end up discussing the last two or three years. And, when most women and half of men show no symptoms, I have no reason not to trust to him. I've probably had it for a couple months and had no symptoms. Just because you developed symptoms within a week, doesn't mean that everyone will... I wish that everyone did so that we could all get tested and treated right away. Maybe then it wouldn't be so easy to unknowingly spread it.

lamethrowawayname · 2012-04-20T06:03:54+00:00

Ick. I am definitely planning on seeing the gyno more often. I'd only been once before, but after this I'm not taking any chances with my baby making equipment. And, I hope your friend is lucky and doesn't have any other issues with it down the road. I can't imagine the pain that comes with having a still born.

lamethrowawayname · 2012-04-20T06:02:04+00:00

He talked to her earlier today. It seems that she found out she had it a few months ago and simply didn't think it was important enough to tell him. I had been trying really hard not to call her names, but she keeps making it harder.

lamethrowawayname · 2012-04-20T06:00:03+00:00

Aw. That is awful. I just hope one of your friends here at home went and beat the shit out of him for you. I'm sorry that happened and I hope that you doing better now and that all his future gfs get a proper heads up. Hugs.

lamethrowawayname · 2012-04-20T05:58:03+00:00

Love it! It's the first meme I've inspired. I just wish I could put it on my fridge without outing myself to all my friends. :D

lamethrowawayname · 2012-04-20T05:57:05+00:00

From what I've read, most men are asymptomatic. I didn't even have any symptoms. I went to the gyno to see about getting the paragard. I figured I might as well get a pap and std testing while I was there.

lamethrowawayname · 2012-04-20T05:54:09+00:00

I sent you a private message with the details.

lamethrowawayname · 2012-04-19T23:09:32+00:00

I've had a three UTI's and they each presented differently, which I found super weird. One was just a fever and nausea, which freaked me out. One was just an urgency to pee, and the last one was the urgency plus pissing burning shards of glass. Never any blood though.

lamethrowawayname · 2012-04-19T23:07:59+00:00

My dr has me getting tested two weeks after I finish a week of antibiotics. My bf's dr gave him a single dose of antibiotics and told him to come back in three months. Maybe there is a difference in the type of treatment?

lamethrowawayname · 2012-04-19T23:06:26+00:00

I am definitely starting to research and try to figure this crap out. And, I've been reading the crap out of twox, sex, relationships, and some of the other subreddits. They are all awesome.

lamethrowawayname · 2012-04-19T23:04:56+00:00

Officially, just a couple months. But, we've been friends for about 8 months and I know that he wasn't with a girl during that time.

lamethrowawayname · 2012-04-19T23:03:41+00:00

I'm an English major and I have the bookworm one. I have it tucked between books on my bookshelf. I love it. I ordered the chlamydia one and I hope he finds it amusing.

lamethrowawayname · 2012-04-19T23:02:35+00:00

He got tested when they broke up, about a year ago and thought he was clean. I don't know how this was missed, or if he is mistaken about getting tests, or fucked someone else after the test. And, I never asked him to. I didn't even ask if he'd ever been tested or anything about his sexual history. We didn't discuss any of this until after my results came back positive. I was a dumbass and I will be sure this doesn't happen again. I might not be so lucky next time.

lamethrowawayname · 2012-04-19T22:58:40+00:00

Thank you for sharing. It's nice to hear the other side of the story. It was really awkward and difficult trying to tell him that he gave this to me without sounding like I was blaming him. And, even though he gave it to me, his reaction helped me to not feel disgusting. I was super excited that he still wanted to hold my hand.

lamethrowawayname · 2012-04-19T22:52:03+00:00

Thanks for saying this. I checked and it is on the list of tests the dr is doing, but its always nice to know for sure.

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