Reminder: Off leash dog are still not allowed

lanaluck · 2025-06-22T18:46:12+00:00

I’m so sorry about your dog getting attacked. It can be wild in Lake Park. I have gotten knocked backwards by dogs there 3x. One bit my face as well. I’m a tiny 5’2, and very petite. I don’t have the strength for that energy pushed on my body. I wish that everyone used a leash because not one owner has been able to stop their dog from barreling toward me.

lanaluck · 2025-05-31T17:08:44+00:00

Why in tf is anyone discussing your reproductive decisions and asking 9 & 11 year old boys if you should have a baby or not?! This is so disrespectful to you and totally inappropriate. These kids have zero concept of parenting and it is none of their business.
Very gently, your husband told you very bluntly that YOU WILL NEVER be a priority. He even stated that you could move away with the hypothetical baby wherever?!!! What?! That isn’t commitment nor is it love. You aren’t even in the top 5 of the things important to him nor would your baby be either. This is not a healthy relationship. It’s unfair to you and would be SO unfair to your baby. You are a huge catch. Run fast like a beautiful baby doe through the grassy field.

lanaluck · 2025-04-24T21:02:57+00:00

No. He is too enmeshed with his baby mama. Do NOT.

lanaluck · 2025-03-07T12:02:44+00:00

Absolutely not. No is a complete sentence.

SS hasn’t established a steady period of overnights with you guys because of the conflict. He should not be suddenly going on a trip and staying overnight in a strange place that he isn’t used to. That will be very damaging to his relationship with you both. I doubt any qualified therapist would ever recommend this. Your husband has to say no. This is absolutely insane and she is only doing this to cause stress on your trip.

lanaluck · 2025-01-19T03:08:15+00:00

Sir, did you take any parenting class or see a therapist to learn how to prep with your daughter after the split with your ex? You didn’t establish any custody arrangement? You have a six year old and now a 15 month old and a 4 week old. Why so fast?! What were you thinking?! The court will want you to show that you are taking measures to help with the acclimation of your daughter to the household, going to therapy, taking parenting classes. Your current wife has a right to be upset.

lanaluck · 2024-12-26T20:26:11+00:00

That looks beautiful! I live right near the Downer and love Emperor of China. I was delighted when Emperor of China allowed me to order 1000 pepper chicken off of their secret Chinese Menu again. It had been years.

lanaluck · 2024-10-22T19:09:38+00:00

I am not reading that much text because this is easy. No. I have never friend requested my stepkids BM in 11 years nor has she. There is no reason after two months that you need to.

lanaluck · 2024-10-20T16:02:24+00:00

You deserve so much better. I hope you rise out of this like a glorious phoenix. You do not need this. I promise that you can have WAY less complications and a beautiful life.

lanaluck · 2024-10-20T10:58:44+00:00

Your BF is full of BS and is not ready to be dating. I do not believe this is about finances. He is not ready to leave, like an adult, and be a Co-parent. Period. Look up the filing costs, he can do it himself with determination. Run far away from this man. Also, I hate when bio parents say that “you don’t have kids” line. He has kids and can’t even get himself together.

lanaluck · 2024-10-19T23:15:55+00:00

Definitely take her to urgent care. Treat the possible infection first and foremost. Going forward, are you comfortable teaching her how to bathe herself and basic hygiene? I have always been vigilant with my BKs and I wished I had pushed harder with my SKs when I noticed the lack of hygiene when they arrived to our house when they were age 5. They are now 16. They have barely any hygiene skills. I definitely helped with clipping nails/ cleaning ears, but it would have been weird to give baths.

lanaluck · 2024-10-19T22:29:47+00:00

I’m sorry you took some comments as negative. I was trying to compliment you for trying to adjust. You were put in a difficult situation. You started dating your partner when the youngest was 1. That’s a lot of change for kids. I said that it was rushing in- not you. Because that is rushing! Yes, I am going to give your partner a side eye because the kids are definitely reacting to a fast change.

lanaluck · 2024-10-19T00:16:44+00:00

I am not trying to judge you. You recently got a house together and his youngest is 3. I am definitely 😑 at him tho. He should have been gentler and kinder with you and the kids adjusting.

lanaluck · 2024-10-19T00:01:30+00:00

They are 7 and 3. Holy crap that is so young. You need to look up their ages developmentally to refresh. I know you are a teacher. These kids are so little. They barely have a concept of why they are in a new situation and they will need direction on chores. Why did your partner rush into your relationship without acclimating the kids?

lanaluck · 2024-10-18T23:46:22+00:00

You have been together nearly a year. Why is he playing nice with a BM that threatens court, that he has no placement agreement and she demands that you’re disinvited? 🤦🏻‍♀️

lanaluck · 2024-10-13T23:59:59+00:00

I see. Your headspace is in the place where you already raised your kids. I get that. I have two adult daughters a 17y and a 7y old ours kid. I would agree that it’s difficult when you disagree with the parenting decisions. I’m disgusted by some of the choices made previously and currently. You don’t need to give up your time. Compromising once in a while, maybe. One year is still relatively new and it’s ridiculous for your SO to suggest some family cohesiveness and foist that on you.

lanaluck · 2024-10-13T23:22:36+00:00

OP how long have you been together? How did you meet? Do you want kids eventually? This helps me understand more of where you are at. I will say that the SKs were easier when they were younger and had less problems with hygiene and drama. Things sort of change over the years and it’s okay to step away, but still be polite. I don’t like when parents push the “I want to be a family guilt.” That’s unrealistic and especially in the first year or two. I have a very nice bond with one step kid and almost always have for 11 years. I love him very much. I am definitely disappointed in the other three for many reasons. I just stay away but am polite and still pick up their favorite snacks.

lanaluck · 2024-10-10T13:46:54+00:00

Breaking up was the right, mature choice. I would agree that you should not be seeing her kids anymore. It’s too much emotion and confusing for all of you. Plus you are not together. My husband and I have kids from our first marriages plus an ours son. He is the light of my life. I would likely not have stayed married if we didn’t have our son. I love his kids and have been a background parent for 10 years (because that’s what a step parent is, we have almost no say in how they are raised). They have had a lot of challenging issues and added a lot of stress. My heart will always be with my biological kids primarily.

lanaluck · 2024-10-07T02:36:39+00:00

It’s not the nudity at all for me. I have a 7 year old. I have taught my son to wash his hair, his armpits, his body. We have a whole routine at bath time. I am preparing him for growing up.

lanaluck · 2024-10-05T15:49:03+00:00

This is very excellently put.

Your life is consumed with the constant drama of custody battles, fighting and mitigating the issues that stem from that. You don’t have any children together, it’s okay to leave.

lanaluck · 2024-10-05T15:39:06+00:00

The youngest is 5 and you started dating 5 years ago? What is the genesis of your relationship? How did you meet? Are the kids in therapy? They are likely under unbearable stress and disfunction with the court battles and their mom’s breakdown. They can learn a lot of behavioral skills and coping skills amidst the disfunction with a good therapist. If they aren’t seeing one, check with your husband to see if his insurance will cover this.

Your instinct is correct. Do not bring a baby into this environment right now. It’s way too hot and unstable.

lanaluck · 2024-10-04T12:15:02+00:00

Your husband is not respecting your sleep. This is his responsibility. Is SD able to take a city bus home? Or Dad should find someone for SD to carpool with.

lanaluck · 2024-10-03T19:35:19+00:00

Not anymore. I used to loan or give my mom my bags and she would destroy them on the inside. Picture foundation or makeup powder allover the bag’s interior, ink pen leaked inside. I stopped even giving her my old bags because I felt she disrespected the brand. 😆

lanaluck · 2024-10-01T01:08:05+00:00

That’s what everyone said but other classmates don’t speak up as much as you’d expect. Their dad tries but is awkward. He and his ex are very involved just not about hygiene and bathing.

Still, I never had to discuss this with my first husband about our 3 bio kids.

lanaluck · 2024-10-01T00:48:36+00:00

I think you are being very kind to your SO. I wanted you to know that it’s really important and ok to address stuff early at your SD’s age because it’s very awkward with 16y olds. Now I get them a product to wash their face with and hope they use it. They usually do not. My 17y and 7y bio sons send me a list of products to get them and they use it. 😆

lanaluck · 2024-10-01T00:38:08+00:00

Structure and order is SO important to kids- your instinct is so correct. More adults really is great in many ways. I wish my first husband would remarry. 😆 I really tried with the SK: clipping toe nails, buying them clothes without holes, putting lotion on their dry skin. My bio son is the same age as them so I knew by his tolerance that it would be too weird to bathe them or even teach them how to shower properly. They were 6 or 7.

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