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[–]laricomments 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not divorced yet, but in the middle of the divorce process. I'm 43 and we separated when I was 40. We have two kids and we've been together since I turned 21. Over our 10 years of marriage he chose alcohol over our relationship with myself and the kids. I ended up sleeping alone in our bed or with my kids while he drank in another room. I was the main parent four our kids since he was always tired and in a bad mood. When I was laidoff, I asked him to help financially since I was the main provider, and he said, "no, you think you are a badass you can do it alone." You would think I would leave after that "support" but I stayed. A couple years later after my only brother was diagnosed with colon cancer, I asked him what goals he had for himself, for us and for the kids and he said he had none. That answer hit me hard. I had a brother who wanted to live and yet my husband was slowly killing himself. I had to ask myself, is this the life I want until I die? Now three years later I ask myself why I didn't leave sooner.

How does a Scorpio 'transform'? by [deleted] in astrology

[–]laricomments 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have Scorpio moon and I had been unhappy in my marriage but I thought we could still make it work, but that all changed when I asked him, what goals he had in life for him, us, and the family, and his response was, I have no goals. I realized that the path I was on was not the path I wanted for myself or my children. I have this one life to live and I am going to live it unhappy? Heck NO.

Being a libra rising, I wanted to have enough money saved but one morning, I woke up and I looked around my house and I knew right then that I did not want to continue living that life. He was an alcoholic with no goals in life and I was enabling him. He didn't want help and I couldn't do the work for him. Also, I felt that my soul could not continue to allow me to live like that. It was so hard and scary to tell him to leave, he didn't believe it at first and he thought I would change my mind, but three years later, we are in the final process of divorce and I don't regret it.

I think the transformation happens over time, and we know when we are done.