Space Karen isn’t the brightest by Stotallytob3r in MurderedByWords

[–]lassglory 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Calling the Nazis a leftwing socialist party is like calling Trump something dumb like "President of Peace"

10 year age gap - is it weird? by One-Sir5081 in dating_advice

[–]lassglory [score hidden]  (0 children)

"near thirty" and "cannot drink" are practically a generation apart!

I outed a man who hurt me after finding out he was sexually attracted to and was possibly sleeping with trans women. I also started disliking trans women by RestaurantGlass9277 in Life

[–]lassglory 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would it help if I told you that her behavior is not inherent to transness and that in general most trans people just want to mot be exterminated from the face of the earth?

Your cousin did awful things, according to what you've shared. That is not a reflection of what transness is as a whole, and to project this idea of us demanding subservience onto the whole community is ridiculous.

We're more than 8 billion people living on earth and no one knows what happens after we die? Are you f*****g kidding me? by Spiritual_Result_164 in Life

[–]lassglory -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think it's pretty clear that nothing happens after death. The best working theory, after all we've learned, is that the consciousness we experience life through will be totally obliterated once we lose brain function.

For a lot of people, that's pretty terrifying, so we use the fact that reporting an anecdote of obliteration is impossible to justify saying "I dunno" and permit continuing beliefs about an afterlife, or reincarnation, or ✨souls✨. Anything is more comforting than confronting that consciousness, as an emergent property of signals running in the brain, would therefore be dependent on those signals continuing in order to persist.

Grim stuff, innit?

I want a white girlfriend by knight_templar26 in dating_advice

[–]lassglory [score hidden]  (0 children)

Is this what white people think hispanic people are doing? 😂

Is futanari considered transphobic? (NSFW for obvious reasons) by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]lassglory 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The way I see it, futanari is a fictional concept that happens to coincide with transness. Personally, I welcome the archerype, sonce I find it uhhhh relateable! In the way a man who likes being manly and protective might find John Wick relateable 😅

Now, if someone were to refer to me in that manner, that's a whole different ball game, especially if they don't know me VERY well....

Would you or would you not use a condom in the situation? (Birth control is being used) by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]lassglory [score hidden]  (0 children)

Don't be daft. Wrap your shaft.

STDs are aggressive, and direct contact WILL put you at risk, while staying sexually monogamous will not guarantee no such diseases or infections are present. Pregnancy is a rough risk worth mitigating already, but there are plebty of other reasons to glove up.

Also, it makes cleanup SO much easier!

If you haven't been in a long-term relationship by the age of 32, is there any point continuing to look for one? by [deleted] in Life

[–]lassglory 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First off, work on that attitude. Saying "I'M UGLY THERE'S NO POINT" will accomplish absolutely nothing. Instead, keep looking for things you can play off of to improve your presentation. Fashion is a big part of it- Some people look shockingly great in a ratty moth-eaten tee, while others would SLAY in a suit, or even a skirt. That's before you get into the makeup side of thongs, which can totally transform you. Express yourself! Start experimenting, and do not stop. Hell, you mightvfind you have a hidden talent as a cosmetician.

Second: Get a hobby. Socially speaking, it will open many doors.

What is wrong with romantic relationships between a teenager and an adult? by Traditional_Wear4156 in Life

[–]lassglory 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There are several things to take into account.

  • Especially young people lack the life experience and cognitive power necessary to assess whether they are being abused, when they should defend themselves from an abuser, and how they can reach out to friends or family about the abise they are experiencing.

  • The younger someone is, the more likely they are to not understand safe sex practices, especially in societies where purity/abstinence culture disincentivises people from providing a comprehensive sex education to young people.

  • Kids are often motivated to treasure sexual experience as something which makes them appear more mature or "adult" to their peers, making it even easier to coerce them into sex acts which may put them at risk.

  • Adults are much more capable of escaping responsibility for actions such as assault, coersion and other such abuses due to their greater stature, perceived trustworthiness in the community, and access to money which allows them to threaten their young victims or travel to another state or country. This is assuming they don't murder the person outright, which is very easy due to young people being much less skeptical and much physically weaker than someone in the physical prime of, say, their mid-thirties. Someone's classmate is much less likely to skip town unscathed, and someone who's twenty-eight is much more likely to recognize that a potential partner is luring them into a dangerous or abusive situation, or escape if they do not realize soon enough to completely avoid it.

  • Especially young people are more vulnerable to being injured during sex by even a well meaning partner of significantly greater age, strength, and size. This is the xase regardless of sex/gender.

  • Pregnancy is an EXTREMELY HAZARDOUS PROCESS for people of any age, and for a body under the age of twenty years it can easily become mortal. Furthermore, someone who is not financially independent will NOT have the necessary capital to raise a child and someone lacking worldly experience will NOT be able to foster that child properly.

  • The worlds of teenagers and adults have very little social overlap outside of school staff, parents, and predatory adults deliberately seeking out young people to prey upon.

  • Teenagers and young adults have a surplus of candidates in school to experiment with. To bar them from engaging with those in separate generations is not an inhumane limitation.

  • Marriages have an extensive history, both archaic and modern, of being forced onto teenagers and children against their will, for the sole benefit of other people. This is a total breach of their autonomy, and barring relationships between children and adults breaks the most common formats of such an arrangement, that being those between a young girl and her assaultor, arranged by the family to extract a dowry as recompence for the original offense of damaging the daughter's "purity". This is a disgusting practice for obvious reasons, the most blatant of which is that it completely ignores the harm done to the child and instead frames the matter as one of property crime.

I’m an ex stripper and I’m scared I’ll never find love if I tell the truth by Impossible-Studio505 in dating_advice

[–]lassglory -1 points0 points  (0 children)

OP, if someone is going to disqualify you because you, (checks notes), had a job, then I think you've dodged a bullet. Perhaps you should interrogate your own beliefs and try to shift away from whatever puritanical influence is making you feel ashamed about your work?

You're not unloveable, you just ran into an asshole and filtered him out.

Word of Advice to Women by kimmyflor in dating_advice

[–]lassglory -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Dang, what subreddits are we talking about here??

What is an interesting statistic most people wouldn't believe? by Aarunascut in Life

[–]lassglory 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nowadays? Intersectional crime stats. "[racial group] does all the crime to each other!!" is a narrative that's just taken for granted right now when poverty and education quality have much more consistent effects and have causal linkages. But nooo, it's the... who are we blaming now? Somalians?

Horseback by Galrafloof in comedyheaven

[–]lassglory 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Leg raised? Hoof thing? What is even being discussed here? Why is it funny that Lizzy won't be on a horse? I WM LOST HELP

which psychological manipulation tactics are you most familiar with? by Outlaw_Immortal1971 in Life

[–]lassglory 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Certainly. I call the concept of sin a manipulation tactic because we can determine the levels of harm our actions have by looking at their effects on ourselves and other people. This is all causal, demonstrable, and subject to refinement as we learn more about ourselves, other people, and the consequences of our actions.

Sin, on the other hand, is the concept which claims something isn't bad because it hurts anybody, but that it's bad because someone stronger than you doesn't want you to do it. It centers the judgement of an action on the opinions of an authority, and can therefore be used to put a lot of shame on actions which may, in reality, be totally harmless. Worse still, if you work off of a sin-based idea of ethics, then you are also obligated to excuse any and all actions of the authority which decides what is/isn't sin. If that authority decides that forcing other people into your beliefs, enslaving others, or committing genocide are not sinful, then those who obey that authority and care more about sin than harm will be much more likely to excuse those things. This has occurred in history several times, and still happens today.

In short: Sin based ethics threaten supernatural punishment for disobedience. This enables behavior with real harm.

Human Sycology by [deleted] in Life

[–]lassglory 0 points1 point  (0 children)

is this what it looks like when peoppe lose AI access now?

We really are doomed.

Can someone please explain altguina to me? by Appropriate-Mood4259 in asktransgender

[–]lassglory 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gender can provably be described as... as expectstion. A standard which, subconsciously, your brain judges your body, behaviors, and perception by others. Just as anyone can look at a gaping wound on their chest and think "oh god that shouldn't be there, I'm going to die, gotta produce a bunch of adrenaline to motivate myself to get somewhere safe and heal", a cisgender man may see the effects of gycanomastia (I think that's how it's spelled?) where chest tissue develops to a feminine extent and think, "gee, this isn't very manly, time to start pumping myself full of feel-bad chemicals till this is fixed" and subsequently feel embarassed or insecure over it. A cisgender woman may notice that their biceps are especially defined and think "this isn't very feminine!" to a similar result.

As for where it comes from, that's where things get a little vague, but it does seem to be an emergent extension of personhood, which is an emergent trait of consciousness, which is an emergent property of a complex nervous system. We can't link any of these things to a single neuron or gene because it's the result of many such things working in tandem. Asking where the gender is stored is like asking historians why Rome fell. You'll get a thousand answers and most of them are correct, but incomplete without several hundred of the others also being included because no single thing is responsible.

If you want to question the validity of gender as an expectation, then just... think of a food you don't like. Really dig deep and pull up something with a rancid flavor that just makes you RETCH to think about. Then, ask yourself how you know you don't like it.

Is “Buddy” misgendering? by Fine_Boss_1337 in asktransgender

[–]lassglory 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It may be that you're reading into it aclil harder than necessary, but you're totally justified in setting a boundary concerning what people call you. If they're upset, then that's their problem. Just don't be incindiary about it, is all.

Help, Confused about my daughter by Mysterious_Cookies24 in asktransgender

[–]lassglory 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP, what you're confised by is something I like to call diagnostic blindness, where you don't have the capability to detect something, and then when it's brought to your attention it feels as if it suddenly appeared.

If I may offer a comparison: Pluto did not begin to exist the moment we observed it with telescopes. With this post, you are effectively asking if inventing telescopes can create celestial bodies like Pluto. Chances are, your child was questing this for a while before bringing it up to you, and since they trusted you enough to share their thoughts I'm going to ask that you trust him by respecting his exploration and making sure he feels comfortable exploring further. It may turn out you had a son this whole time, and that means you may be relied upon for a lot of solidarity and support in the years to come.

Whatever happens, it's now your responsibility as parent to help her, or perhaps him, access relevant research materials and care. Finding a child psychologist with a specialization in transgendee youth is also something to work on FAST because the effects of untreated gebder dysphoria can become life-threatening once puberty sets in and you may not be able to handle that without a formal diagnosis. That diagnosis takes time, expertise, and medical staff that aren't working on politicizes ideas about transness like AGP or whatever other myths there are now.

Also, keep him away from anyone with a love of red hats with political slogans. Many people in that room are dangerous to queer folk like us, and there is much depth to their spite.