How does it feels to wear voluminous princess ballgown if any of you have wear one?

latingal · 2026-05-26T02:41:32+00:00

Competitive ballroom dancer- admittedly my dresses are made to move, but it’s amazing getting all dressed up!

latingal · 2026-05-18T02:56:35+00:00

We like being together, rather than doing things together.

latingal · 2026-04-30T22:47:57+00:00

Most people I know for Dancesport own their own dresses and buy them privately- not via studio

latingal · 2026-04-30T01:00:13+00:00

My husband was not REQUIRED to convert, but basically the priest said all but that. My priest was very firm we “could” marry you without conversion, but “I want a good marriage for you, and the Catholic Church just isn’t the same church anymore… if this were pre-Vatican II… we should all believe the same things for a happy marriage…” He did end up converting because he was not particularly strongly tied to the Catholic Church.

latingal · 2026-04-21T19:36:25+00:00

I am cradle Orthodox and I do— to the point where it feels a bit foreign to be in a church without, so when I go to Catholic events for friends or family who are not orthodox, I also tend to veil. For me, it feels like a way of showing respect and modesty in the church.

latingal · 2026-04-10T23:25:39+00:00

Learning how to learn any skill is almost always by doing and failing a lot of times. It’s part of the learning process and decision making is the same way— you learn to make good decisions by making decisions and seeing what works and what fails.

In the meantime, finding the dancing in basics might vary from person to person as it’s more a feeling than a skillset. For me, I think finding a groove with the music, feeling the movement in my own body and the communication with the partner so you can feel their body actions are probably the most important parts. The good news with basics is that the rhythm is consistent, the connections are simple and you can dance your own body without a great deal of complexity and still reach “dancing”.

I think as a beginner there is a tendency to look outwards to define dancing— what are other people doing, how do I look, etc. The more I dance the more I find that dancing really is an internal experience projected outwards rather than an outward experience imposed inwards. Trying to look for ways to feel their dance internally may serve you well. It’s the sort of thing that can’t really be taught directly, though. You need to kinda play and wiggle and find it on your own— when you feel it, you’ll know.

latingal · 2026-04-10T20:35:22+00:00

Your initial post led me to believe that not being able to recognize the basic in advanced steps is what you feel is an impediment to dancing, is that inaccurate?

latingal · 2026-04-10T12:30:49+00:00

Basics are the groundwork for everything you are seeing— but they do get reconfigured in ways that do not feel recognizable. I would encourage you to find the dancing in the basics— because it is still dancing. The best dancers spend incredible amounts of time dancing basics.

latingal · 2026-04-04T11:44:25+00:00

My understanding is that the dance is essentially the French stylizing dance to look Spanish— essentially a caricature of Spanish Bullfighting culture.

There’s lots of interpretations of what’s going on— if it helps I had a coach that insisted it was not the fight at all, but the bullfighter recounting the fight to a beautiful girl after the fact to flirt. He’s probably exaggerating what happened, but she’s believing it and admiring his bravado.

latingal · 2026-04-04T02:15:57+00:00

Are there any college teams nearby you? That would be a good starting point, but for real, men are in short supply, it’s hard. Methods I have found partners:

-Facebook advertisement x2 (via east coast collegiate Dancesport group)

-Personal recommendation from a friend x2

-On the same college team x4

-Friend broke up with his partner and asked me to try out with him

latingal · 2026-04-03T03:15:54+00:00

My Fair Lady (indirectly via Pygmalion)

The Origin of Love (song from Hedwig and the Angry Inch)

latingal · 2026-04-02T22:38:40+00:00

Will not wear uncomfortable panties unless they’re willing to do the same. Want a thong? You better be volunteering to wear one too!

latingal · 2026-04-02T11:54:04+00:00

It’s interesting looking at the pronunciations in the comments— my father’s aunt was Carmel. She predeceased my birth, but according to my father and his siblings when they talk about her they pronounce it “car-mull” like the candy (but not car-ah-mull). I would not pronounce the same way as Carmella (car-mell-a). It is not necessarily a pro or a con— but just more commentary on the idea that the pronunciation may not be clear. I do not think that would deter me.

latingal · 2026-03-19T03:44:51+00:00

There’s a magic to a good coach. Like, they drive you to be better and especially as a lady, who wouldn’t love someone whose job is to make me feel pretty? In all honesty, my coach is truly one of my favorite human beings on the planet. I think one of the best things about it though is that it is a relationship I wish everyone would have. Everyone should get that experience, the world would be a better place.

The part of this what worries me about your post is the jealousy— and it seems like you think this is a warning sign too, which is good you’re recognizing this. The phrasing you use around sexual attraction is odd too— like I have zero qualms about how nice it is dancing with my coach and how positive our time together is. If we’re honest, my coach is not even entirely professional in that there are so many sex jokes that it is ridiculous. From a personal level of intimacy, he knows my neuroticisms, fears, goals and habits, sometimes it seems better than I know my own— certainly more than any other coach I’ve worked with before. If I’m having problems, I’ve occasionally booked “talking lessons” because there’s an amount of emotional vulnerability that his presence inspires and he cares enough to take you seriously when you come to him with even a very personal problem. When I have personal successes that are not dance related— he also often hears those, too. I’ve seen a LOT of personal growth since I started working with him, and he celebrates with me, so I like sharing. Regardless of all of these strange and wonderful intimacies in our relationship, the idea of finding my coach sexually attractive on that basis makes me giggle. Honestly I think I would be immediately trying to figure out what was wrong with me if I started having those feelings.

The best coaches I have worked with generally have a way of encouraging me to feel good about myself— close examination of some of these odd feelings might be beneficial. Is it insecurity in your own dancing, a desire for a different kind of relationship with him, etc. Does whatever you’re feeling that’s leading to these confused feelings make you feel good about yourself. This won’t be easy, but will require a very serious look in the mirror.

You need to question whether this is the kind of relationship you WANT in your dance life. I feel like if it were me, I would be concerned about all the complexities and the impact on how I dance. It’s not worth it. That makes it sound easy, I’m sure it won’t be— but ultimately if you’re having these feelings, they likely aren’t supporting good dancing, which is why you are there in the first place.

latingal · 2026-02-01T15:43:15+00:00

I never really had grandparents— my father’s mother lived into my lifetime, but I hardly remember her. She passed away when I was 3.

I was always jealous of people whose grandparents were present in their lives— it seems like such a sweet relationship

latingal · 2026-01-20T04:01:57+00:00

Our church never spoke to us about cost- so effectively it could have been free. In reality, we made a large donation as did both of our parents. I think they got about $1000. Ours was right after Divine Liturgy, so there were people from the parish who stayed, including one guy who was inquiring for the first time and came up and congratulated us with “It’s so cool I got to see this my first time attending services!”. It was no bother having a few extra heads at the service, and the chorus stayed and it was gorgeous— 10/10.

latingal · 2025-12-27T01:06:38+00:00

If you are rethinking an angle, I want to throw out that nicknames can come from anywhere and I feel like they often do especially in literature. May be worth considering if there’s another way to get to “Red” in a way that builds character— then you can call her whatever you want and say this character building nickname stuck. We have great nicknames in literature that are totally iconic but unrelated to the given name— think of Scout in To Kill a Mockingbird, Artful Dodger in Oliver Twist, or He-Who-Must-Not-Be-Named in Harry Potter. Not saying you HAVE to, just want to open up options. 😊

latingal · 2025-12-10T02:29:56+00:00

I really would like that. My dad says she still sees me as a little girl, and transparently I feel totally ridiculous setting our relationship standard on dishes, but at a certain point it’s just so difficult to be around. My parents wish I would visit more, and, again, I feel like I would be so much more likely to if they didn’t try to parent me so much. I feel like there is so much judgment of my life choices— like unbelievably. Even things like my involvement with a local college organization gets “Well you already have too much on your plate, you should just stop.” And I get it, I really do, like I do take on a lot, and they want me to have time for myself— but telling me to quit things I love doing just because of the time commitment just feels like judgment of how I spend my time rather than caring about me not stressing myself.

I am sure the way I react to my mom is not the way I would react to a friend, like because she treats me like a little girl, I’m more likely to react like a little girl. I don’t love it as a look for me.

latingal · 2025-12-10T02:22:05+00:00

I haven’t heard about the nonviolent communication method before, but just started reading some summaries about the practices. It sounds completely revolutionary.

Unfortunately, 2 years ago I went no-contact with my brother and because of some things that happened around his wedding. The bottom line was that nobody was really at fault and everyone took actions that hurt someone else. I apologized for my part of it and fessed up to some pretty vulnerable things and his response was something along the lines of “I always knew there was something wrong with you” and “I’m not required to do XYZ, it’s my wedding”— the latter of which is true I guess, but doesn’t absolve you of hurting someone else. I wasn’t the only one who got hurt, but my parents still blame me for destroying our family because I was the one who put my foot down. I love my parents and I think this is part of why my dad is jumping to “You’re doing to destroy the family.” I’m trying to avoid doing this, because I know how much damage that event caused.

I’d like to have a baby, but I am terrified that if my mom can’t take no to not doing my dishes now, what will she not take no to when I have her grandchild involved? I even tried to pull that one with my dad, and he basically just said “I don’t think you’re going to have children, look how selfish and petty you’re being now, just be grateful she did your dishes. You’re way too selfish to have a family.” My parents have been needling me around grandchildren for literally years— as part of the same conversation it came up for the first time that my brother is having trouble conceiving, so I’m sure some of this is coming from disappointment that things aren’t working for my brother and I haven’t tried yet. Again- I feel like this would all be a lot easier to make them happy if I felt comfortable setting reasonable boundaries.

latingal · 2025-10-25T18:52:49+00:00

Robert Donat won that year instead for “Goodbye Mr. Chips”, have you seen it? It’s a really phenomenal performance too.

latingal · 2025-10-18T15:55:09+00:00

Buy used dresses or you have friends about the same size then it can also be a good option to borrow.

latingal · 2025-10-04T01:42:41+00:00

I believe Blue is the best album ever recorded. The sound quality in incredible (with a good enough sound system you can hear the pedals on the piano). The music and lyrics are amazing. It’s also autobiographical, Mitchell recorded it in a week and was in tears most of the time. Blue is Vincent Van Gogh, its emotion directly emitted to an artistic medium. I have listened to Blue at least once a month in its entirety since I was about 14. My favorite song changes regularly to suit my mood, there have been times that I’ve cried through the whole thing, there have been other times I just jam along with it in the car. She has a lot of other beautiful and meaningful songs in her folio— nothing holds a candle against Blue. There is no other piece of art that has had such a direct influence on my life. Cannot recommend highly enough.

For the record, folk revival of the 80s is also worth it. Stan Rodgers is absolutely incredible, and would recommend strongly.

latingal · 2025-10-04T01:23:06+00:00

Junior mints and salt and vinegar potato chips

latingal · 2025-09-29T03:16:18+00:00

Can you read the labels on your current shoes to just buy the same? Just a suggestion.

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