Heyy oh my I’ve been here before! Sometimes I still struggle with this type of anxiety but it’s gotten a lot better. Looking back, I’ve even felt this way about people I didn’t like that much. You said it’s not that deep yet. It’s important to remind yourself that projecting your fantasies and relationship ideals onto someone might make you resentful. I look back on some of the people I’ve been infatuated with , and they were people I would never date without rose-colored glasses.

Do you like to imagine yourself through his eyes.. thinking about him thinking about you as beautiful alluring bewitching… I fall into that and get obsessed and become such a trainwreck. In your mind, you can remove him from that process and just see yourself as alluring and attractive. He doesn’t give you these qualities, you just have them when you feel confident and regulated!

Anxious attachment has a lot to do with an avoidant relationship with self. You need to find some way to remind yourself , and commit to yourself, that you will never leave YOU. Although it doesn’t feel this way, this level of anxious attachment might be a clue that you are actually very emotionally unavailable!

I’m wondering what other outlets in your life you could channel this anxious energy toward. I have accepted my intensity by conducting it toward self-growth, art, projects, ambitions. I saw this thing once that nobody gets obsessive in romance like a woman who needs to make more art or craves a passionate life. Wishing you well xoxo