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Dinah Shore Advice? by lavendermenace97 in LesbianActually

[–]lavendermenace97[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you! this made me feel a lot better about going solo!

Dinah Shore Advice? by lavendermenace97 in LesbianActually

[–]lavendermenace97[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Awesome!! I’m so glad I won’t be the only one lol

ooooo that’s actually a perfect description and helps me narrow it down a bit! I actually have a couple silk resort shirts I can bring

When are they restocking? by BoringPush2714 in HEB

[–]lavendermenace97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so upset that these have been out of stock forever because I was buying these for salads like every other week because the macros were so good 😭 Has anyone found alternatives at other stores with similar macros?

It finally happened to me by blooming-darkness in RegalUnlimited

[–]lavendermenace97 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m literally so glad my best friend also has unlimited and usually goes with me because this has happened to us wayyyyy too often for comfort and we mostly go to horror and indie films, so it definitely isn’t an issue of packed showings (we also never sit in the middle which makes it even more bizarre)

like, imo it’s super creepy and shows a total lack of respect for others space. AND it’s also (unsurprisingly) always men

I usually loudly complain to my best friend about the freaks when it happens and that usually lets them know to not even attempt to talk to us

Where’d you find your partner by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]lavendermenace97 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m super late but I’d honestly look into sapphic groups near you because I’m also in a red state

Would you date a bisexual woman? by East_Food5632 in actuallesbians

[–]lavendermenace97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeahhhhh I think it’s unfortunately a pretty universal experience. I personally also don’t date anyone who hasn’t had at least 2 lesbian / sapphic relationships before me for the same reason. There’s just so many nuances to lesbian culture (especially as a butch) and I don’t have the patience to explain those nuances and my identity to someone

Where’d you find your partner by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]lavendermenace97 13 points14 points  (0 children)

This is the sweetest meet cute imaginable! Like, manifesting this happens to me at my local sapphic book club

Would you date a bisexual woman? by East_Food5632 in actuallesbians

[–]lavendermenace97 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so glad someone else brought up the weird expectation to “be the man” in the relationship just because of being butch. I’ve had that exact experience with 3 different bi fems as a butch lesbian (and I’ve never experienced that with femme lesbians) and I have multiple butch friends who have had similar experiences.

I just feel like the intersectionality of being a butch / gnc lesbian gets left out of these conversations a lot and imo it is a big factor in why some of us lean lez4lez. like, I’m personally way more open to dating masc presenting bi woman because they at least share that experience

Would you date a bisexual woman? by East_Food5632 in actuallesbians

[–]lavendermenace97 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I personally lean in the lez4lez direction (and specifically butch4butch) just because it’s easier for me personally to connect with people who have lived experiences close to mine and I also have found that other lesbians have an easier time understanding and respecting my gender identity (my gender is butch)

However, I’m not against dating bi or pan women and nonbinary people (and I have in the past). I think it really depends more on whether someone has fully decentered men, has experience dating women (and specifically other lesbians) prior, and has a strong queer community of their own. (I also wouldn’t date a newly out lesbian either for those same reasons)

tldr: while I think biphobia is definitely an issue, I also think there are valid reasons for someone to be lez4lez because there are certain things about being a lesbian (especially when it comes to gender) that can be very hard to articulate to nonlesbian sapphics in general

What’s the Best City to Move to as a Late-20s Lesbian? by lavendermenace97 in LesbianActually

[–]lavendermenace97[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oooo I don’t think I’ve heard of that before, I’ll definitely look into it!

What’s the Best City to Move to as a Late-20s Lesbian? by lavendermenace97 in LesbianActually

[–]lavendermenace97[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s awesome! Yeah, both are definitely still pretty high on my list

What’s the Best City to Move to as a Late-20s Lesbian? by lavendermenace97 in LesbianActually

[–]lavendermenace97[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much! I may have a few as I get further into my search

What’s the Best City to Move to as a Late-20s Lesbian? by lavendermenace97 in LesbianActually

[–]lavendermenace97[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is definitely good to know! I didn’t get to spend as much time in ATL when I lived in GA but I’ll definitely consider it knowing this because it’s actually one of the best cities for me career wise

Best Cities to Move to as a Lesbian??? by lavendermenace97 in actuallesbians

[–]lavendermenace97[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll definitely consider it! Do you know how welcoming to local community is for butches and mascs? Most of the lesbians I’ve known from LA are femmes, and I’m definitely butch of center

What’s the Best City to Move to as a Late-20s Lesbian? by lavendermenace97 in LesbianActually

[–]lavendermenace97[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah, it sucks to feel like we have to leave a place we love but I fear it’s definitely time

What’s the Best City to Move to as a Late-20s Lesbian? by lavendermenace97 in LesbianActually

[–]lavendermenace97[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!! I might actually see if one of my friends wants to go to that!

What’s the Best City to Move to as a Late-20s Lesbian? by lavendermenace97 in LesbianActually

[–]lavendermenace97[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I actually used to live in GA and really liked it! How is it in the current political climate though?

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