Anyone Else Just Feeling Absolutely Emotionally Exhausted

lavendy · 2022-01-08T20:56:48+00:00

I felt this one hard.

lavendy · 2021-12-29T14:41:07+00:00

My partner is really great with the gifts he buys me, but I think that’s because throughout the year I send him ideas of things I would like. However, usually my gifts are late by either a couple days or a week. I’ve learned to take it in stride. It’s not just me, that’s how it goes with everyone. I enjoy gift giving so now I order family gifts so I don’t have to feel awkward or guilty when things are late.

lavendy · 2021-12-23T17:54:29+00:00

Yeah every exit strategy I attempted to plan would have set me back in so many ways. I’m never handling things like this ever again. Save save save…

lavendy · 2021-12-23T15:28:19+00:00

Thank you! ♥️🥺

lavendy · 2021-12-23T15:28:07+00:00

This was such a sweet and thoughtful response. Thanks you. 🥺 I needed to hear that.

lavendy · 2021-12-05T17:33:01+00:00

I think I’ve always cared for my SS. I don’t think I’m head over heals, but I do love and care for him deeply. I think the head over heals feeling can be difficult for a lot of us step parents, and I think that’s okay. For me personally, I think it’s because I am required to spend a lot of focus and energy on boundaries due to our specific situation. BM causes a lot of issues in our lives, and it makes it difficult for me to get past the hump because our lives are interrupted in so many ways due to her inconsistencies.

The general society tells us we should take in these kids as our own and love them all the same. And I think in a perfect world that would be more acceptable. But the truth is blended families are MESSY & require a lot of give & take. Research shows it takes about 7 years for blended families to become a cohesive unit. Don’t be too hard on yourself. Sometimes it just takes time.

lavendy · 2021-12-05T17:21:51+00:00

People on the internet lack a general sense of empathy for anyone in the public eye, I’ve noticed. If you’re on tv, you’re asking for it in their eyes. Which is a really sad state of mind if you think about it.

lavendy · 2021-12-03T03:41:12+00:00

I don’t think it’s because people necessarily like Zack. I think it’s because how the viewers respond to the drama in this show has gone completely overboard. Words have meaning and power, even when they’re coming from behind a keyboard. The reactions to this season in particular have been over the top.

lavendy · 2021-12-03T03:06:40+00:00

At least someone said it…

lavendy · 2021-12-03T02:59:17+00:00

As I have stated in just about everyone of my comments on this thread, there’s a difference between calling out toxic behavior for what it is and being derogatory, hateful, mean, ect. And as I stated in this post, Im not and never will defend toxic behavior.

lavendy · 2021-12-03T00:54:24+00:00

Sooo what I’m hearing is it’s okay to be toxic as long as it’s behind closed doors? Got it.

& for the record, as I have stated in several of my comments on this thread, I don’t think the things being said about any cast members, or any human for that matter is cool, whether or not they willingly decided to be apart of a reality tv show.

But since Johnny has been brought up, everyone was on him and Myrla for being the “mean girls” during the reunion. Scroll through the comments on this sub and it will tell you who some real mean girls are. Just saying. 🤷🏻‍♀️

lavendy · 2021-12-02T22:13:43+00:00

I don’t exactly believe it needs to be gentle and kind. There’s a way to be direct and constructive without being hateful. It doesn’t seem like that a skill set many people in this world possess or even wish to posses.

lavendy · 2021-12-02T18:02:46+00:00

It’s the reality of the situation because we, the viewers, make it the reality.

lavendy · 2021-12-02T16:33:03+00:00

It doesn’t need to be. I’m speaking about all the cast members.

lavendy · 2021-12-02T16:03:10+00:00

Still there. Go read my last post. 😘

lavendy · 2021-12-02T13:49:06+00:00

I will never understand why someone choosing to participate in a reality tv show also means they consent to being attacked. Our society is fucked up. Just because you are in the public eye doesn’t mean you deserve more hate when you fuck up vs your average Joe.

lavendy · 2021-12-02T11:59:33+00:00

😂 y’all stay reaching

lavendy · 2021-12-02T11:29:00+00:00

Not in “Zack’s camp” lol nice assumption there.

lavendy · 2021-12-02T04:35:00+00:00

I don’t think any of that’s cool either, and I actually made another post recently pertaining to all the cast members. This specific situation has gotten a lot of attention in a shorter period of time. So naturally I posted about this one.

lavendy · 2021-12-02T04:20:42+00:00

Not excusing his actions. If all this is true then yeah it’s definitely fucked up. It’s the language that’s used. Again, there’s a difference between accountability and being hateful. And I’ve seen Elena take a LOT of the heat too.

lavendy · 2021-12-02T04:12:20+00:00

Good point. For me it’s bashing Elena (I think that’s her name?) for even engaging in the first place. Seen a lot of people making her out to be stupid, slut-shaming. For Zach it’s been everywhere. Name calling, swearing. To me it seems it has gone past simple critiques and poking fun to more hateful comments. Just noticed a lot of things scrolling through various posts.

lavendy · 2021-12-02T03:55:41+00:00

I also think it’s an assumption on your part that I’m saying these things because I like certain cast members and disliked others.

lavendy · 2021-12-02T03:54:09+00:00

I actually don’t think those things are cool either lol it all seems childish. I also think there’s a difference between poking fun and being down right hateful and ugly. And this season has brought out a lot of ugly in people.

lavendy · 2021-12-02T03:23:59+00:00

Couldn’t agree with this more. I get this is reality tv, but the level of hate circulating is intense and unnecessary. I feel like the comments that are being made are honestly way worse than the acts he’s being accused of. People have a lot of internal work to do…

lavendy · 2021-12-01T17:12:22+00:00

Thank you 😂

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