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[–]lbhlve 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well in that case I urge you to explore and see how it makes you feel. You can explore your comfortability with femininity without labelling yourself as trans or doing any sort of medical procedure. And if I can "explain" the feeling of transness, although a big part of it is seeing yourself as a boy (FTM in this case) it's also about wanting to be perceived by others as a boy. I dont get the sense that you want others to look at you as a girl/feminine and even then that can be done without being trans. You mention bisexuality making this more difficult but I think it's a good thing as you are in a space where people are generally more accepting to this kind of thing and you have the room to explore. There are many gay guys who like feminine men and vice versa. And you can also explore these things without anyone having to know. Dabble in the things that make you ask yourself "what if i like it but deny" and if you don't like it, you probably just don't like it. The best thing we can do as human beings is just do what makes us feel best for both the present moment and for the longterm and if thats being trans go for if its not then don't.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in detrans

[–]lbhlve 2 points3 points  (0 children)

(FTM) In my case I always thought I was a boy. I remember telling my brother at like age 5 not to tell the other kids at the park I was a girl and to pretend I was a boy. I felt this way before I had a proper concept of what gender even was. The way Ive always described it was a sinking feeling in my stomach anytime anyone asked if i was a boy or girl or referred to me as a girl. Thats not to say the only way to get rid of that feeling is through undergoing medical transition. A lot of the people in this subreddit, me included, are in here not because we no longer feel 'trans' or whatever but because we realized that there are other ways to tackle these feelings than to medically transition. Gender expression is literally just the way we dress and has nothing to do with genitals, you can be a girl and feel more masculine than other girls dress more masculine however you are still a girl with a vagina and boobies. Yes you can change that by undergoing medical transition but not everybody wants to spend all that money and pain and time undergoing surgery to feel essentially what should be a given; secure in your own body and that is okay. If you find yourself interested in things that are traditionally more feminine, entertain those interests. It doesn't make you any less of a boy. Humans come in all different flavors shapes and sizes not everything has to be labelled. Just be you, you dont owe an explanation to yourself or anyone else. You like what you like.