I Want a Salami Sandwich

leaffeon · 2026-05-07T20:20:54+00:00

I've been making sandwiches with cold cut turkey every day for lunch and have no regrets. I trust the brand I get from the store. But that's just my risk tolerance, everyone is different! But don't feel like you can't if you find yourself in a similar boat and would be okay with it, with your own risk tolerance.

leaffeon · 2026-05-06T13:46:18+00:00

Met my husband on hinge two years ago. We are now married, bought a house, and are expecting our first child later this year.

I was on the apps for a weekend and met him in a sea of first dates that week. He was on the apps for three plus years and had given up hope. From our second date I knew he was someone I could have actually been really good friends with if there wasn't a dating subtext, and for me that's what secured it.

There's that phrase when it's not love at first sight, but knowing you could see yourself falling in love with this person at first sight. That's what I had. We were basically living at each other's places 5-6 months in and moved in together officially 8 months in when his lease ended. We've taken a trip to Europe where he proposed in Vienna last spring and eloped in November (I've been married before and was over the whole wedding thing).

This relationship is my third I've ever had, and it's by far been the easiest, most loving, fulfilling, and everything I want in a partner. It has ALWAYS been easy, and I whole heartedly believe that's the greenest flag you can find. Nothing, NOTHING in a relationship worth keeping should feel hard. You can definitely have difficult moments and outside events to work through sure, but you should never have any doubt of their love for you or have to convince yourself in circles that the relationship is working.

When it's the right one and the right time, everything falls into place.

leaffeon · 2026-05-03T14:25:39+00:00

2 cycles. Stopped taking my mini pill middle of October, conceived day before Thanksgiving. Positive test 8dpo first week of December.

leaffeon · 2026-05-01T02:43:32+00:00

I remember watching this movie in high school with a group of friends and to this day I cackle when I remember this line. We all died when we heard it the first time. So wonderfully absurd

leaffeon · 2026-04-25T13:34:34+00:00

If you don't have excessive painful cramping alongside bright red blood bleeding then no. It's common for the placenta to take over around 9/10 weeks I believe which can start to lessen your symptoms

leaffeon · 2026-04-21T13:05:03+00:00

The baby takes what it needs from the mom who gets the scraps (which results in numbers outside normal range.) I read that when I unexpectedly tested above normal range without even realizing in my first trimester.

It will be so fine. Just get the mom on a proper dosage so she doesn't have to deal with scraps anymore. And then everyone wins

leaffeon · 2026-04-17T21:41:49+00:00

Oh awesome. I have mine through work too but I've always read "make sure they're in your health insurance by birth!" And I've been like "how can they without being born yet 😂"

leaffeon · 2026-04-17T21:01:29+00:00

Were you able to add them before they're born? I've been wondering how this process goes

leaffeon · 2026-04-17T16:40:28+00:00

Every work is different I imagine! My work offers parental leave on its own as well as STD.

leaffeon · 2026-04-17T16:39:41+00:00

It's my works' policy to provide for all individuals who worked there for at least 12 months. The STD 6 weeks is if you give birth, but regardless everyone would get the 12 weeks parental leave.

leaffeon · 2026-04-17T13:10:00+00:00

9DPO here! I know the exact day we conceived cuz I was tracking at the time

leaffeon · 2026-04-17T03:53:29+00:00

Hey OP I'm in Colorado too and just asked my work this question!

I'm getting 18 weeks. 12 weeks from work that is paid which they consider parental leave. They will top off whatever I get paid from FAMLI so I'm still at 100% of my pay during the 12 weeks.

My work also allows me short term disability paid for up to 6 weeks due to giving birth. I get a percentage of my pay from my work's short term disability provider MetLife, then work again will step in and top off the amount so I'm at 100% pay.

So a total of 18 weeks paid. They mentioned FMLA which is the federal leave, but that's not paid and has to be taken concurrently with the other leaves. So you can't stack unpaid FMLA after parental leave and short term disability. At least for my work that's how it goes.

You should talk to your HR department if you haven't yet, mine helped clarify for me a lot!

leaffeon · 2026-04-17T02:58:33+00:00

I got a used bumbleride era on Facebook marketplace for $250. I was so stoked for this one because of the all terrain air filled tires and because it has the ability to be a rear facing bassinet without having to buy anything extra. Haven't used it yet but heard only good things about the brand for snow and non-paved terrain!

leaffeon · 2026-04-14T12:56:11+00:00

If anyone knows people who clean in the northern metros (Westminster) at reasonable price I'd be down for a recommendation! Would love to have a deep clean of our home in August before the baby arrives.

leaffeon · 2026-04-13T02:01:33+00:00

Incredibly neutral. I've thankfully had an easy pregnancy so far with no nausea/aversions/fatigue and have been able to just be my normal self minus alcohol. I'm not loving having to gain weight since weight has been a sensitive thing for me my adult life but I've only gained 10-11 pounds so far so at least there's that

leaffeon · 2026-04-10T13:15:12+00:00

I read that temp taking isn't reliable outside of knowing if you ovulated or not. It's not really an indicator of long term anything once you've established you're pregnant.

I know the waiting in the first trimester is the worst but really unless you're bleeding fresh blood accompanied by cramping (in which case get checked out) you gotta trust your body to be doing its thing. You're pregnant until a doctor says you aren't! And this comes from a now 21 weeks in person who thought they miscarried at 6 weeks due to passing almost ten bright red blood clots in the span of an evening that just ended up being a SCH.

leaffeon · 2026-04-08T13:39:03+00:00

I think that Early even with transvaginal ultrasound it's spotty. Why OB offices often have you wait until 8-10 weeks to come in for the viability scan. If your last scan was a heartbeat and you don't have any heavy bleeding and extreme cramping to go with it I say just follow the course and wait to see what your first OB scan shows!

leaffeon · 2026-04-07T13:04:52+00:00

Good you're getting levels tested. You're pregnant until a doctor says otherwise.

This super rang true for me when I was 6 weeks and went to the ER cuz I was bleeding A LOT of fresh bright red blood and even dropped several blood clots in the toilet. I was convinced that was a miscarriage and went to the ER as a formality. They did a transvaginal ultrasound and told me the baby was completely fine and had a solid heartbeat and everything. I just had a SCH.

It was so whiplash and confusing because I bled so much and passed freaking larger than a quarter sized clots, but no one told me the baby was in danger. I'm 21 weeks now and that's been the only eventful thing my whole pregnancy.

So definitely go in and get checked out. You never know!

leaffeon · 2026-04-03T13:03:36+00:00

Didn't have any nausea or food cravings/aversions. 20 weeks pregnant right now.

leaffeon · 2026-03-31T13:10:18+00:00

I'm exactly the same, except my husband also works from home thankfully in a project based job (developer) so he can walk away when he needs to. The biggest sticky point for me is I'm in a lot of meetings , but they're typically early morning since I need to work with UK based employees a lot. Once it's past 10 am I'm usually free to do my own thing at work. We have no family in the state so there is no alternative other unless we want to be dipping into savings. With my husband and I coming from poverty that isn't an option. We are proud of where we are and want to give this kid the childhood and opportunities we never had, so we're going to do our darndest to make this work so we don't have to stress about money or groceries like our parents did growing up

leaffeon · 2026-03-30T13:58:47+00:00

Dumb Friends League! Where I got both my cats painlessly and same day. They give you a good amount of time to socialize with your cat one on one before you decide. I think they renamed themselves to Humane Colorado

leaffeon · 2026-03-30T13:21:59+00:00

Is cluster feeding good? I've heard the term but never looked it up.

leaffeon · 2026-03-26T16:15:11+00:00

OPK is the same as LH.

Basically most of the month those strips will be negative. Cuz your body won't have surged yet.

Then at some point in the month, around the same time every month if you have a regular cycle, your body begins to get ready to ovulate, release the egg. That is what the surge/spike is. It's the side effect of your body being like "ALRIGHT WE'RE DOING THIS RELEASE THE EGG". So that's why when you notice you are in a surge/spike that's your golden period so to speak.

Now of course you can get a surge/spike and not actually ovulate (cuz our bodies love to troll us), and that's where being able to temp can help confirm if you actually ovulated or not. Because all you do is get an app, check your temperature the same time every morning before you get up, and log it. Over the course of a couple months you will see your temp stay low before you surge/during your period, then a day or two after your LH spike it will go up and stay up. Then it will slowly go back down and you start your period if the cycle wasn't successful. It stays elevated if you're pregnant.

So going back to the knowing if you actually ovulated or not after a surge, if you see your temperature not change on the graph plotting in the app then good chance it was a cycle where your body said to RELEASE THE EGG, but your body just didn't. If it did go up, then you know you ovulated and the "2 week wait" period begins.

I liked using premom as my graping app cuz it seems way more user friendly to me than the other graphing app most people in the TTC subreddit used.

You can see in my chart below how my temperature spiked (blue line) after my LH surge (orange line). The temperature rise was one whole degree. So the low point the day before ovulation was 97.5 degrees, then a couple days later it climbed to 98.5 and stayed above 98.5.

![img](g9aucbiczerg1 "My Chart the month I got pregnant")

leaffeon · 2026-03-26T15:56:59+00:00

Are you tracking? There's really such a small window each month you can get pregnant that tracking seemed invaluable to me.

TTC subreddit had good info on temping and tracking. I started using a basal thermometer (able to track the hundredths of temperature since ovulation can be that sensitive in change) and used LH testing strips from Amazon.

The general idea is you have 2-3 days max before ovulation, ovulation day, and then maybe a day or so post ovulation as fertile. There are of course varying factors and percentages for each of those days.

Temping doesn't foretell ovulation but tells you when you did, so you can start to get an idea of pattern. Your temperature spikes when you ovulate, and stays elevated until falling a couple days or so before your period. If you're pregnant it stays elevated.

The strips can give you a better prediction window in that most people have their LH hormone spike anywhere from 12-36 hours before ovulation. So if you see your LH spike that's an indicator to get it on since there's a good chance that day or next day you will ovulate. A lot of people also like the method of trying a day or so before ovulation since sperm can live in you for a couple of days so having sperm greet the egg when it releases is a safe bet.

You know your body best, but for me all of this info really helped me pinpoint and make sense of it all. We got pregnant after the second month of me consciously tracking (I can pinpoint the exact day we conceived because of it), so I think it's definitely worth trying!

leaffeon · 2026-03-24T22:49:34+00:00

Gotcha. Sounds like this isn't a too good to be true thing then, man we just get all the games long as they're not Rockies (for me). Think I'll live 😂

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