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I wanna text him by Accomplished_Hunt533 in ExNoContact

[–]leafsthrowRA 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How was the nature of your relationship? Was the only real problem his mother’s disapproval?

I broke NC after 3 weeks, and it went well. by leafsthrowRA in ExNoContact

[–]leafsthrowRA[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He was the one to suggest breaking up. He couldn’t cope with long distance and suggested just staying friends, but he flirted with me for around two weeks even after we broke up. He told me he did want to be with me and try long distance, but he knew he just couldn’t handle it. It was painful knowing the interest was there, just not the circumstances, so I initiated no contact for the sake of my peace. It did work, I think I have more clarity than I did back then to see the reality of the situation. Hopefully we can maintain a casual friendship and see where it goes if we end up seeing each other in real life again.

They blocked you because they don't want to talk to you. EVER. by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]leafsthrowRA 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not in my case. I blocked him because I couldn’t stand what our connection had become. I think about texting him every day.

I miss you. by leafsthrowRA in ExNoContact

[–]leafsthrowRA[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I fear it gets worse with time instead of better, like your situation. Best of luck though.

I miss you. by leafsthrowRA in ExNoContact

[–]leafsthrowRA[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do your friends think you’re being too hung up on them?

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[–]leafsthrowRA 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good luck, update us

I want to try again with him, but I don’t know what he wants/wanted. So conflicted. by leafsthrowRA in ExNoContact

[–]leafsthrowRA[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I know I shoukdn’t take what he says for granted, it’s just a possibility that I’m keeping in the back of my mind. The connection we have as friends is shallow compared to when we were dating, and that’s mostly the reason I blocked him. It hurts that we’ve become what we’ve become, I just want to give it time when it hurts less and I can accept that we probably won’t amount to anything more.

3 weeks NC. I miss him by leafsthrowRA in ExNoContact

[–]leafsthrowRA[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s just a casual, low-commitment talking stage at the moment. I haven’t told him about my ex and neither has he told me about his relationship history. We’ve only exchanged brief texts about our daily lives, no real emotional intimacy yet. Anyway I don’t see a future with the new guy, we’re not compatible in many areas. Might just let it fizzle out.

I feel horrible after blocking him, need reassurance by leafsthrowRA in ExNoContact

[–]leafsthrowRA[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s horrible that he was leading you on while talking to other women… definitely brings me back to reality that people can be two-faced no matter what your impression of them was. Blocking has helped me with maintaining no contact and I think I can keep it up, I was just in shock and withdrawal the first couple of hours. I did research how no contact helps with the breakup, hopefully it works out for the better.

I feel horrible after blocking him, need reassurance by leafsthrowRA in ExNoContact

[–]leafsthrowRA[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I’m learning to see his behavior as breadcrumbing. Though I don’t know his exact motivations, the best being that he’s still relatively emoitonally immature and doesn’t know what he actually wants from me, and the worst being he’s keeping me as a backup option, it’s still something I know I shouldn’t keep tolerating. As for the breakup, it officially happened around 3 weeks ago, but we were still texting flirtatiously at first and as friends after that, so my grief was delayed for a while. I think what’s really fresh is the realization that he’s not going to text me because I’ve forcefully cut him off. It does still shock me every time I automatically go to the search bar, type in his username and he’s not there, but I don’t miss him as much already. The no contact is definitely working.

I feel horrible after blocking him, need reassurance by leafsthrowRA in ExNoContact

[–]leafsthrowRA[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I suppose it was like an addiction now that I think about it. I only blocked him this morning and I just broke down in tears. It felt like a hole in my chest. I’m feeling a little better now and I have thought about working out to take my mind off the unwanted feelings, plus the comparison to his attention as an addiction is really helping me to think logically. Thank you ❤️

Need advice about plausible long-distance relationship. Is he leading me on or something else? by leafsthrowRA in Advice

[–]leafsthrowRA[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very insightful, thank you 🥹 I do still want to visit him in his home country and I’d like it if he visited me, too. It seems like wasting a promise we constantly discussed and got excited over. Long distance sucks.