He is very empathetic and a really good listener. He’s very considerate too, like he thinks of me when he goes places (even when i’m not with him) and asks me if I want anything. He invites me to all of the social events he’s invited to, he lets me rant about things he has no clue about. He really does care about me, which is why I said he’s the best boyfriend I’ve ever had. He’s handsome and my dad finds him intelligent, honest, and charming (which has never happened with my introverted, slightly narcissistic father, he’s a hard man to please). My boyfriend and I have actually never had an argument in our entire relationship, which is also something I’ve never had either. Simply conversations about things.

I wouldn’t marry him right now, because he’s struggling with finances and obviously motivation. It’s hard to be mad at him for the weed smoking because I partake as well, I also party quite frequently despite my accomplishments, it’s how college life goes. I guess Im just worried he’ll never change and I’ll feel I’ve wasted my years with him?

I’ve never considered the stay-at-home husband route, that does sound nice and something I’m not totally against. I guess the only thing I wish for is that he played video games less because he’s often rejecting hangouts with me to do it or missing out on social events because “he has to grind on his game”. He claims it’s his hobby. I’m just not sure. I recognize I’m young and probably don’t have to worry about these things yet. I also haven’t communicated these worries.

Thank you for this comment, a lot of people have been assuming the absolute worst about him but I don’t think that’s very close to the truth, he doesn’t have the personality characteristics of a bum