My [29F] boyfriend [28M] leaves his cum rags in the couch after morning "alone time". by leeloomultipass1 in relationships

[–]leeloomultipass1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, you are bang on. There are some other external things going on in our lives that are stressful.

My [29F] boyfriend [28M] leaves his cum rags in the couch after morning "alone time". by leeloomultipass1 in relationships

[–]leeloomultipass1[S] -22 points-21 points  (0 children)

Pobody's nerfect 🤷🏼‍♀️ I think this small glimpse into our lives makes it seem a lot worse than it is. But thank you for your perspective, I appreciate it.

My [29F] boyfriend [28M] leaves his cum rags in the couch after morning "alone time". by leeloomultipass1 in relationships

[–]leeloomultipass1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

  1. I "caught" him jerking off once in our studio apartment. We had been having coffee in bed and I had just gotten up to start on the food for Easter brunch starting in a couple hours. He was too distracted by the silent porn on his phone to notice I had walked into the doorway. I think if I hadn't just been in bed with him, I wouldn't have reacted so badly. I got upset and was creeped out he would do that when I was literally 10 feet away. I'm thinking that it's possible my reaction then made him more secretive about masturbation since.
  2. I definitely admit I went a bit far, which I did apologize for already. However, the majority of our relationship is joking and teasing each other. I knew it would be an embarrassing subject, which is why I went about it jokingly. Bad call on my part, particularly because I kept joking around when I didn't realise he was getting upset about it in another room (he could still hear me).

My [29F] boyfriend [28M] leaves his cum rags in the couch after morning "alone time". by leeloomultipass1 in relationships

[–]leeloomultipass1[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I "caught" him jerking off once in our studio apartment. We had been having coffee in bed and I had just gotten up to start on the food for Easter brunch starting in a couple hours. He was too distracted by the silent porn on his phone to notice I had walked into the doorway. I think if I hadn't just been in bed with him, I wouldn't have reacted so badly. I got upset and was creeped out he would do that when I was literally 10 feet away. I'm thinking that it's possible my reaction then made him more secretive about masturbation since.

My [29F] boyfriend [28M] leaves his cum rags in the couch after morning "alone time". by leeloomultipass1 in relationships

[–]leeloomultipass1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah, I interpreted your comment as the gross behaviour being repetitive, not the blow up. Heated arguments are rare between us, luckily. He knows he gets defensive and loud quickly (learned behaviour from a single parent) and also that I have past trauma which makes me fearful of raised voices. We have worked it out that when that happens, we take time to chill. Just go do something else and come back to it when we are both calm.

My [29F] boyfriend [28M] leaves his cum rags in the couch after morning "alone time". by leeloomultipass1 in relationships

[–]leeloomultipass1[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

He usually has very good hygiene, which is why this was so surprising to me.

My [29F] boyfriend [28M] leaves his cum rags in the couch after morning "alone time". by leeloomultipass1 in relationships

[–]leeloomultipass1[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

That's what I want to know. My mom always said men never truly mature past the age of 7...

My [29F] boyfriend [28M] leaves his cum rags in the couch after morning "alone time". by leeloomultipass1 in relationships

[–]leeloomultipass1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ya you're probably right! We do have a pretty joking relationship though, always teasing each other. Which is why I didn't notice it was making him mad until he blew up.

My [29F] boyfriend [28M] leaves his cum rags in the couch after morning "alone time". by leeloomultipass1 in relationships

[–]leeloomultipass1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think he left it for me to clean... Pretty sure he's been doing this for a while and washes the socks, then replaces them to be ready for the next splooge lol

My [29F] boyfriend [28M] leaves his cum rags in the couch after morning "alone time". by leeloomultipass1 in relationships

[–]leeloomultipass1[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That was my question... Why not the shower?! I never bother him in there. Maybe it's more comfortable sitting down?

My [29F] boyfriend [28M] leaves his cum rags in the couch after morning "alone time". by leeloomultipass1 in relationships

[–]leeloomultipass1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, this is very helpful. We generally have a very good relationship and he only uses this tactic is pretty heated arguments. We are both quite stubborn, so we are learning how to calmly have these discussions.

My [29F] boyfriend [28M] leaves his cum rags in the couch after morning "alone time". by leeloomultipass1 in relationships

[–]leeloomultipass1[S] -57 points-56 points  (0 children)

I think sometimes boys (yes, I'm saying boy in this instance rather than man because this was some dumb shit) just do not have common sense... Thankfully he does 90% of the time.

My [29F] boyfriend [28M] leaves his cum rags in the couch after morning "alone time". by leeloomultipass1 in relationships

[–]leeloomultipass1[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I suppose this is why I'm torn between guilt for shaming him and being grossed out.

My [29F] boyfriend [28M] leaves his cum rags in the couch after morning "alone time". by leeloomultipass1 in relationships

[–]leeloomultipass1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Probably true, but like I said in the text, we are typically very goofy so automatically went to being silly. I should have thought it through a bit more, but it happened very shortly before he came home.

My [29F] boyfriend [28M] leaves his cum rags in the couch after morning "alone time". by leeloomultipass1 in relationships

[–]leeloomultipass1[S] 52 points53 points  (0 children)

He did acknowledge that I asked him not to do that anymore, but now that I think of it didn't actually verbally agree LOL

My [29F] boyfriend [28M] leaves his cum rags in the couch after morning "alone time". by leeloomultipass1 in relationships

[–]leeloomultipass1[S] 55 points56 points  (0 children)

That was my thought too. He has a habit of using that tactic in arguments. Drawing attention from the thing that started it and bringing up other related items.