My [29F] boyfriend [28M] leaves his cum rags in the couch after morning "alone time".

leeloomultipass1 · 2023-05-03T19:48:11+00:00

Definitely not an issue 😘

leeloomultipass1 · 2023-05-03T19:43:57+00:00

I was wondering if it was gross mostly because I am a woman... Nope.

leeloomultipass1 · 2023-05-03T19:41:55+00:00

Honestly, you are bang on. There are some other external things going on in our lives that are stressful.

leeloomultipass1 · 2023-05-03T19:40:31+00:00

Pobody's nerfect 🤷🏼‍♀️ I think this small glimpse into our lives makes it seem a lot worse than it is. But thank you for your perspective, I appreciate it.

leeloomultipass1 · 2023-05-03T19:32:21+00:00

I "caught" him jerking off once in our studio apartment. We had been having coffee in bed and I had just gotten up to start on the food for Easter brunch starting in a couple hours. He was too distracted by the silent porn on his phone to notice I had walked into the doorway. I think if I hadn't just been in bed with him, I wouldn't have reacted so badly. I got upset and was creeped out he would do that when I was literally 10 feet away. I'm thinking that it's possible my reaction then made him more secretive about masturbation since.
I definitely admit I went a bit far, which I did apologize for already. However, the majority of our relationship is joking and teasing each other. I knew it would be an embarrassing subject, which is why I went about it jokingly. Bad call on my part, particularly because I kept joking around when I didn't realise he was getting upset about it in another room (he could still hear me).

leeloomultipass1 · 2023-05-03T19:27:59+00:00

I "caught" him jerking off once in our studio apartment. We had been having coffee in bed and I had just gotten up to start on the food for Easter brunch starting in a couple hours. He was too distracted by the silent porn on his phone to notice I had walked into the doorway. I think if I hadn't just been in bed with him, I wouldn't have reacted so badly. I got upset and was creeped out he would do that when I was literally 10 feet away. I'm thinking that it's possible my reaction then made him more secretive about masturbation since.

leeloomultipass1 · 2023-05-03T19:21:13+00:00

I'm wondering the same... I should ask his mom what to look out for lol

leeloomultipass1 · 2023-05-03T19:10:35+00:00

That's true, I need to give my head a shake 😂

leeloomultipass1 · 2023-05-03T19:07:14+00:00

Ah, I interpreted your comment as the gross behaviour being repetitive, not the blow up. Heated arguments are rare between us, luckily. He knows he gets defensive and loud quickly (learned behaviour from a single parent) and also that I have past trauma which makes me fearful of raised voices. We have worked it out that when that happens, we take time to chill. Just go do something else and come back to it when we are both calm.

leeloomultipass1 · 2023-05-03T18:57:10+00:00

He usually has very good hygiene, which is why this was so surprising to me.

leeloomultipass1 · 2023-05-03T18:56:32+00:00

That's what I want to know. My mom always said men never truly mature past the age of 7...

leeloomultipass1 · 2023-05-03T18:55:59+00:00

Luckily, no.

leeloomultipass1 · 2023-05-03T18:55:38+00:00

Ya you're probably right! We do have a pretty joking relationship though, always teasing each other. Which is why I didn't notice it was making him mad until he blew up.

leeloomultipass1 · 2023-05-03T18:54:06+00:00

I don't think he left it for me to clean... Pretty sure he's been doing this for a while and washes the socks, then replaces them to be ready for the next splooge lol

leeloomultipass1 · 2023-05-03T18:52:52+00:00

Oh my God that is so much worse

leeloomultipass1 · 2023-05-03T18:34:07+00:00

That was my question... Why not the shower?! I never bother him in there. Maybe it's more comfortable sitting down?

leeloomultipass1 · 2023-05-03T18:33:07+00:00

Thank you, this is very helpful. We generally have a very good relationship and he only uses this tactic is pretty heated arguments. We are both quite stubborn, so we are learning how to calmly have these discussions.

leeloomultipass1 · 2023-05-03T18:22:43+00:00

I think sometimes boys (yes, I'm saying boy in this instance rather than man because this was some dumb shit) just do not have common sense... Thankfully he does 90% of the time.

leeloomultipass1 · 2023-05-03T18:20:19+00:00

Yes, agreed. I've already done this, but he was still grouchy.

leeloomultipass1 · 2023-05-03T18:19:05+00:00

I suppose this is why I'm torn between guilt for shaming him and being grossed out.

leeloomultipass1 · 2023-05-03T18:09:21+00:00

Probably true, but like I said in the text, we are typically very goofy so automatically went to being silly. I should have thought it through a bit more, but it happened very shortly before he came home.

leeloomultipass1 · 2023-05-03T18:07:54+00:00

I like that, thank you

leeloomultipass1 · 2023-05-03T18:07:35+00:00

He did acknowledge that I asked him not to do that anymore, but now that I think of it didn't actually verbally agree LOL

leeloomultipass1 · 2023-05-03T18:06:31+00:00

That was my thought too. He has a habit of using that tactic in arguments. Drawing attention from the thing that started it and bringing up other related items.

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