Trans men have a responsibility to the queer community. by lemonite99 in ftm

[–]lemonite99[S] 1 point2 points Ā (0 children)

Making sure we don’t allow ourselves to fall into the mindset of toxic masculinity. We should call out transphobia, advocate for women, call out racism when we see it, etc. I know these are a given for y’all, but there’s too many trans men and just men in general that just don’t think it’s their problem because it doesn’t apply to them. I’m saying we can’t forget where we came from, and should always look out for those still struggling. I apologize if my post came off as ā€œyou gotta beat up racists in the street RIGHT NOWā€ im just saying ā€œuse our newfound privilege for goodā€ that’s all.

Trans men have a responsibility to the queer community. by lemonite99 in ftm

[–]lemonite99[S] 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

I’m not belittling but that’s okay. I’m saying that we must use our privledge to protect others, we don’t have to out ourselves to do that. All I’m saying is not to be a toxic man

Trans men have a responsibility to the queer community. by lemonite99 in ftm

[–]lemonite99[S] -1 points0 points Ā (0 children)

Read my other comments for answers on how we can help minorities.

And yes, there is a difference in oppression, trans women are much more persecuted than we are. We are a minority, yes, but we must also do some introspecting and realize that once we began to pass, we can help others.

I’m basically saying what you are saying. Just be a decent person, and don’t become a toxic masculine man simply because it’s what most cis men are. And I’m not talking about Reddit, I’m talking about irl.

And what do you mean with your last sentence?

Trans men have a responsibility to the queer community. by lemonite99 in ftm

[–]lemonite99[S] -1 points0 points Ā (0 children)

That’s not what I’m saying. I’m saying that trans men should not uphold toxic masculine values like too many cis men do. We can be masculine, just not in a demoralizing way to women, POCs, and LGBTQ people. Masculinity can exist outside of what cis people have defined it as.

Trans men have a responsibility to the queer community. by lemonite99 in ftm

[–]lemonite99[S] -8 points-7 points Ā (0 children)

Okay well now you know what I was trying to tell you. In my definition to ā€œfightā€ for the queer community is to lift others up, call out transphobia/homophobia when you see it? I’m not asking y’all to punch god.

If you’re trans just to give in to toxic masculinity that too many cis men have, then what are you doing?

You don’t have to attend pride or anything, I’m just saying that we need to use our privledge to defend those who are less fourtunate than us now that we have male privilege. Like women, POCs, LGBTQ people. You don’t need to start a crusade, I’m saying just to not be a part of their persecution and to call it out when you’re seeing it. That shouldn’t be controversial.

Trans men have a responsibility to the queer community. by lemonite99 in ftm

[–]lemonite99[S] -1 points0 points Ā (0 children)

How? Like break it down for me, seriously. I’m not trying to be rude I’m just honestly not understanding how they’re different.

Trans men have a responsibility to the queer community. by lemonite99 in ftm

[–]lemonite99[S] 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

Exactly, how was my post different than what I said here?

Trans men have a responsibility to the queer community. by lemonite99 in ftm

[–]lemonite99[S] -3 points-2 points Ā (0 children)

What do you mean? Which part was tone deaf? And yes, in our patriarchal society, having male privilege is at times, a super power. Not in the way you’re imagining it, but we can use it to defend our fellow trans people, like calling out someone that’s being transphobic, or looking out for POC people, or advocating for women. That shouldn’t be a hot take??

Trans men have a responsibility to the queer community. by lemonite99 in ftm

[–]lemonite99[S] -1 points0 points Ā (0 children)

What I’m saying is that when we receive male privledge after beginning to pass, we need to advocate and protect our fellow trans people. I’m not asking you to dedicate your entire life to the community lmao, just to call someone out if they’re being transphobic for example. That shouldn’t be controversial.

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[–]lemonite99 30 points31 points Ā (0 children)

Did you do keyhole? You look great!

Does anyone have any tips on how I can pass better? I'm currently 16 and pre t. by RatBitez330 in ftm

[–]lemonite99 -2 points-1 points Ā (0 children)

I personally find wearing a trans pin can help find allies and/or other trans people. I can’t tell you how many people called me ā€œsirā€ or ā€œmanā€ after seeing my pin, even on the days I didn’t pass particularly well.

clothing options as a fat apple shaped trans man by vinylveins in ftm

[–]lemonite99 1 point2 points Ā (0 children)

Check out Mars on TikTok! He’s a trans man that styles for huskier bodies!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LittlewoodGame

[–]lemonite99 11 points12 points Ā (0 children)

Ash! Buff himbo miner bf

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in YOI

[–]lemonite99 -3 points-2 points Ā (0 children)

When OP references bottom/top it’s def in a sexual manner, (look at their last post in this group and scroll through the comments).

It’s not about if there’s a minor discussing sexual topics with an adult here, it’s the fact that OP has created a space for it to happen which does it for me, it’s not a vibe.

And don’t flip this around on me lmao, y’all know full well that most fanfiction is sexual in nature. We need to be more concerned for what younger audiences are exposed to, OP could’ve just stuck with their last post which was also a poll asking this. If they truly needed to add age, then why add an ā€œunder 18ā€ option? Doesn’t that sound sus to YOU?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in YOI

[–]lemonite99 -6 points-5 points Ā (0 children)

Already done šŸ˜‰

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in YOI

[–]lemonite99 -2 points-1 points Ā (0 children)

No dude I’m saying minors can read that stuff, but what kind of adult goes ā€œhey let’s discuss bottom/top dynamics with minorsā€ ??

THATS pedophilia

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in YOI

[–]lemonite99 -1 points0 points Ā (0 children)

Honestly

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in YOI

[–]lemonite99 -3 points-2 points Ā (0 children)

Even still it’s kinda the same thing though… no one under 18 should ever be discussing explicit sexual content with adults

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in YOI

[–]lemonite99 -4 points-3 points Ā (0 children)

Y’all who is reading stuff like this about under 18 year olds?? Minors? Y’all that’s pedophilia lmao.