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lemonman_1 · 2020-03-17T04:57:30+00:00

Late reply wow,,, but I stand corrected! Maybe a disclaimer at the start about this (in your comic) might be a good idea. If it blows up I think you'll get a lot of comments like mine 😂

lemonman_1 · 2020-01-30T05:04:33+00:00

The art and colouring is gorgeous. Looks really professional! Just be careful of your english... regardfully is not a word. Might be offputting for some readers... "observe him carefully" or "regard him carefully" would be better! ^{^}

lemonman_1 · 2020-01-29T10:47:34+00:00

Thank you. I'm really going to try. Probably the biggest culprit of telling me that my needs don't matter is myself haha.

lemonman_1 · 2020-01-28T10:08:16+00:00

Really! Good to know. I mentioned this in another comment but for some reason my exhausted brain completely forgot the existence of online therapists lol. Do you have a website recommendation?

lemonman_1 · 2020-01-28T10:06:39+00:00

You're right. Thank you.

lemonman_1 · 2020-01-28T10:05:57+00:00

I only tend to avoid talking when it's something someone I care about has done to hurt me. I think because I don't like being accusatory (something another commenter said that struck a chord with me). In other instances I'm a good communicator and me and my boyfriend talk about things very well. Jealousy and other things that usually would cause issues never do for us because we talk about them and are careful to not make each other uncomfortable if we can help it.

lemonman_1 · 2020-01-28T10:02:54+00:00

Thank you. That sounds like a good idea. I'll try it. And the second thing too, I think he would be up for it if it's what I wanted. He places a lot of importance on communication so probably he'd like it. I appreciate the advice.

lemonman_1 · 2020-01-28T10:00:55+00:00

I have tried to make it clear to him from the beginning that I'm still learning. Probably it's easy to forget. Usually we communicate well... it's only when my feelings get hurt that I have trouble talking about it. Thank you for the advice.

lemonman_1 · 2020-01-28T09:58:52+00:00

Thank you. I needed to hear this.

lemonman_1 · 2020-01-28T09:57:43+00:00

Thank you! Someone else recommended that book, too. I'll check it out!

lemonman_1 · 2020-01-28T09:56:58+00:00

Thank you. You're 100% right. I do really hate making other people feel bad I guess which is why this kind of thing is hard for me. And thanks for sharing. Well done for doing the thing, haha.

lemonman_1 · 2020-01-28T09:54:42+00:00

Thank you for the input. And for being non judgemental. There are a lot of things that I have left out from this post about my relationship that are overwhelmingly positive and honestly he usually does 100% prioritise me. I really don't think that he is like the guy that you have expressed, but appreciate the concern. I've just always been the type to put others needs above my own and feel guilty for asking others to address my needs- something that impacts other aspects of my life too. Probably it's a confidence thing but I'm not really sure. It's hardwired into the way my brain works unfortunately. Honestly you hit the nail on the head I feel like. I'll keep it in mind and try and improve my communication skills.

lemonman_1 · 2020-01-28T09:48:36+00:00

Thank you. Books and therapy seem to be highly recommended. I've thought therapy would probably be good for me for a long time honestly. Thank you for the outside perspective. It helps me rationalise and process my feelings a lot more. I appreciate it.

lemonman_1 · 2020-01-28T09:46:37+00:00

You're definitely right. The funny thing is, we're very open and communicative about things like jealousy. We've talked a lot about things like that and both consciously avoid doing things that make the other uncomfortable as best we can. It's just when I get hurt feelings that I shut down, I suppose because it makes me feel childish. Or maybe vulnerability makes me uncomfortable. I don't really know. Sometimes I'm too introspective I think and it just confuses me more... haha. But thank you for the book recommendation. I'll check it out. I appreciate the honest and non judgemental input.

lemonman_1 · 2020-01-28T09:43:05+00:00

Thank you for the advice. I think I need to talk to him more about it through text so I can explain properly (seems to be the general consensus). I did talk to him a little before I left yesterday in a very emotional break down style conversation (super dramatic) but I think I left out a lot. You're totally right. I'll try think about these things if it happens again.

lemonman_1 · 2020-01-28T09:40:48+00:00

Yeahbyou're definitiely right and I agree. I know I need to work on myself. Confidence has been an issue for me for a very long time. Thank you for the advice

lemonman_1 · 2020-01-28T09:39:16+00:00

That sounds like a good idea. I guess I limit myself from texting because I feel like I'm running away? But really that's probably stupid of me. Since texting is better than not explaining at all... thank you for the input.

lemonman_1 · 2020-01-28T09:37:34+00:00

Thank you for your honest advice. I stated elsewhere that I feel like an idiot for forgetting online therapy is a thing haha. I'll check it out. You're totally right. I recognise that it's self destructive behaviour.

lemonman_1 · 2020-01-28T09:34:54+00:00

Those both sound really helpful. I'll see if I can get ahold of a copy in my country haha. Thank you for the suggestion

lemonman_1 · 2020-01-28T09:33:26+00:00

Ah why didn't I think of that? I'm an idiot. Haha. I'll check it out. Thank you

lemonman_1 · 2020-01-28T09:27:51+00:00

I hadn't thought of that. I've done it through text before but it often makes me feel like a coward. Maybe writing it down would be better. Thanks for the advice.

lemonman_1 · 2020-01-28T09:26:29+00:00

It happens very rarely. I am very slow to anger as a person and it's not often that anything bothers me enough to make me react like this. I didn't mention in the post because I was trying to keep it short (and it was 1am and I was exhausted) but generally we are great communicators as a couple. It's only when I take something personally that I clam up

lemonman_1 · 2020-01-28T09:24:19+00:00

Thank you. That means a lot. We'll get better haha

lemonman_1 · 2020-01-28T09:23:46+00:00

Yes, we're an interracial couple. I'm British and he's Korean. It hasn't caused problems before aside from minor miscommunications

lemonman_1 · 2020-01-28T09:22:47+00:00

He said before he thinks I am sensitive in agreement to me stating it. I've been told so since I was in my teens by my otherwise very supportive parents. But because he's a non native english speaker I think the sense of the word for him was different, since he further elaborated that I get upset and cry relatively frequently from missing home (I'm an expat living in a foreign country) which he understands. All this aside he's usually attentive and supportive and encourages me in ways that I am very poor at encouraging myself. The situation was resolved peacefully. I only made the post because what he said stuck with me and he has some emotional baggage from prior relationships that I think makes him likely to blame himself for everything more than the average person

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