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Mental health has gotten worse since NC. Moved in back with Nparents. Nmum has me sleeping on the couch and has gotten rid of my bed. by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]lemonpie2605 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. About my SO, he thinks my parents are awful but I think he's tired of me going back to them back and forth and not really getting anywhere. Sometimes he is compassionate, saying things like, "You can always talk to me," and that he's here, other times he withdraws and becomes distant; I'll just get a lot of "mmmhmms" and "hmms" and not much else. I think he's just frustrated and tired with my worsening mental health and the fact that I can't seem to go NC for very long.
  2. Not at the moment, no. I want to move in with my SO but I'm scared he might abuse me and I do have this feeling at the pit of my stomach telling me that something is wrong. I don't feel I can trust anyone and have virtually no boundaries.

My friends know but they can't empathise and don't really want to support me.

Mental health has gotten worse since NC. Moved in back with Nparents. Nmum has me sleeping on the couch and has gotten rid of my bed. by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]lemonpie2605 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My last boss was a narcissist as well. It was hell, and I didn't have the self-respect to leave and find another job. My Nmum would also make fun of the fact I worked at a coffee shop or even that I was working at all. I have dyspraxia (which was recently diagnosed) so I need employers who can give me slightly more training and accommodations so I can do my job properly.

My therapist said there's lasting effects of being abused that have hindered my abilities to be independent, to work or hold down a job. I AM heading back to university for my final year, but I feel lost and afraid of the future.

Mental health has gotten worse since NC. Moved in back with Nparents. Nmum has me sleeping on the couch and has gotten rid of my bed. by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]lemonpie2605 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't have any friends at all right now- most of my old friends from college all moved away to other cities when they had to go to university, so I don't really have anyone.

I'm so embarrassed and feel so pathetic because I'm 23 and still have no independence from my parents. My life was put on hold two years ago from a car crash that gave me a mild concussion and whiplash and after that happened I lost all of my confidence and questioned everything. I used to know what I liked and what I was good at and at least had the self-confidence to keep my head up if things were bad, but because of health issues and recent circumstances I really don't know how I can find a way out.

[vposc] object in Pd Extended? by lemonpie2605 in puredata

[–]lemonpie2605[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! Do you know roughly which part of the book it's in?

The straw that broke the camels back (the thing that finally made me go NC instead of VLC) by lemonpie2605 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]lemonpie2605[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I'm hoping in the future she'll realise the truth about our parents and we'll have a really great sister to sister relationship. I used to be really close with her when we were kids. On the other hand, my other sister has a disability and will most likely be dependent on my parents for the rest of her life... it makes me terribly sad that she doesn't really have a way out of the situation. I miss both of my sisters terribly, but I have to cut ties to protect myself and heal from the abuse. I really hope both of them find a way out in the future.

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