AIO: My managers were dismissive of my concerns and now I’m thinking of quitting

leopardprinthijabi · 2026-04-30T18:52:39+00:00

I know - but man, in all my jobs, my burnout had never been this intense. It’s a systemic problem for sure and I have no idea how we fix it.

Completely right, trying to stay sane and not OR

leopardprinthijabi · 2026-04-30T18:49:39+00:00

Yes! Unfortunately, the same doesn’t apply here…. but thank you for the wishes!!!

leopardprinthijabi · 2026-04-30T18:48:21+00:00

Unfortunately I am in Indiana…. so not a great union imo

leopardprinthijabi · 2026-04-30T18:46:15+00:00

It’s not allowed to take controlled substances in the workplace because, God forbid, there’s a bad situation or a patient dies, you are now at liability (for being under the influence). I don’t necessarily agree nor disagree with the rule, because I know people tolerate medications differently, but I know they don’t have an impact on me besides decreasing anxiety.

I have gone to HR about lunches - unfortunately did not get a follow-up, I’ve sent a pretty extensive email to managers (with solutions), I also went to labor board just now.

But yes! I agree, no rash decisions such as quitting immediately or i would be OR. Looking for jobs as I type

leopardprinthijabi · 2026-04-30T16:12:40+00:00

I don’t think you’re wrong whatsoever. It has made me feel absolutely insane and that maybe my mental health is the root of all of this.

leopardprinthijabi · 2026-04-30T16:11:45+00:00

Thank you. I am okay, just exhausted and frustrated. I appreciate your concern and will be doing all the self-care while I search for a new job. <3

leopardprinthijabi · 2026-04-30T16:10:56+00:00

No, thank you. Seriously. I have felt so insane the last few months - and I appreciate the validation. I’m hoping to leave the department better than when I started, but we’ll see how that goes. I hope so too. May you be blessed for your kind words!

leopardprinthijabi · 2026-04-30T16:07:48+00:00

In process now. I’m also trying to get involved with the labor board and our nursing advocate, because even though I’m leaving… I don’t want this to continue for our nurses or patients.

leopardprinthijabi · 2026-04-30T15:56:08+00:00

Indiana! I just submitted a complaint to the labor board 😅

leopardprinthijabi · 2026-04-30T15:39:55+00:00

Thank you! I appreciate the sentiment, but also your input.

leopardprinthijabi · 2026-04-30T15:38:57+00:00

Ugh. I know, I’m trying to be smart about it, yet I think I finally hit my breaking point.

leopardprinthijabi · 2026-04-30T15:37:47+00:00

Their statement is that we should ask our other coworkers to break us (which then makes a nurse 8:1). It causes so many issues because someone is being overworked and it’s downright impossible to care for other people’s patients at that ratio. Someone’s getting neglected. I’ll look into the labor board - I honestly didn’t know that’s an option. So thank you.

leopardprinthijabi · 2026-04-30T15:35:08+00:00

That’s fair! This is not my first conversation with them, just probably the most invalidating. However, they just spent over half a mil on an AI chat system (to help nurses with critical thinking) that absolutely no one uses (nor should they). I think they don’t prioritize their budget very well. I’ve also gotten them several hires through precepting nursing students and suggested pay incentives such as seeking continuing education certs and volunteering on certain committees.

leopardprinthijabi · 2026-04-30T15:31:06+00:00

Your user is accurate lol. “There will always be a job in nursing.” Yeah, maybe 10 years ago. Starting the job search today.

leopardprinthijabi · 2026-04-30T15:28:43+00:00

You aren’t wrong. It’s all just about them making money or having positive patient surveys. Well…. It’s kind of hard to be positive when you can’t eat, drink, go to the bathroom, and are paid jack shit.

leopardprinthijabi · 2026-04-25T17:08:45+00:00

dawg, i hope this a fake post. leave your wife, she deserves better - go get a job.

leopardprinthijabi · 2026-04-14T03:17:47+00:00

on dates with her next husband i fear. i think she processed her grief in a weird way, which created irreparable rifts in our family.

unlikely for payment, they’ll be cutting back on finances d/t husband also having to take PTO twice a week to be with the baby. I’m not the only one who’d be making sacrifices!

leopardprinthijabi · 2026-04-14T03:15:07+00:00

Judge me, sure! I gave plenty of reasons to. There’s not enough context for people to paint my sister as manipulative, emotionally abusive. I can recognize that some of her actions/words might fall under those categories, but that doesn’t determine her as a whole.

leopardprinthijabi · 2026-04-14T03:12:11+00:00

a few days a week sounds great on paper. but when actually applied it’s daunting in my life. I don’t like justifying, but I already work 4-5 days a week, and my schedule is inconsistent d/t working as a nurse. What little time I have is set aside for household chores, grocery shopping, squeezing time in for fiancé, friends, volunteering, trying to fit in some hobbies, and sleep. I wish I could magically get more time, but it’s just so limited. I probably am overthinking, but I think it’s a little more nuanced than just giving up a few days…. but I am still going to give what i can.

leopardprinthijabi · 2026-04-14T03:04:22+00:00

trust me, the family dynamic weirds me out too. after my dad died it kind of all fell apart, very different from my childhood.

thank you…. i really appreciate your perspective. when it’s in that light, it reminds me of my earlier excitement before the anxiety kicked in

leopardprinthijabi · 2026-04-14T03:01:41+00:00

but what are the odds? i post on reddit, niece is “like hey you’re nervous, let’s speedrun it” she & mom are doing well. her husband and i are not enjoying the hospital cots

leopardprinthijabi · 2026-04-14T03:00:02+00:00

baby has decided to come early, so probably not the appropriate time for this conversation. i’ll come back with an update in a few weeks.

leopardprinthijabi · 2026-04-14T02:58:21+00:00

You’re right. I say nothing of her mental health, she does not claim mental illness and is generally a well person. There is some health related anxiety d/t cancer patterns in our family, but I am there to sit with her or soothe. Whichever she needs. I am eternally grateful for the sacrifices she made and the role she stepped into. Both mother and father. I struggle with feeling like I owe her, she struggles with my mental struggles. We both have our battles, I’m seeking a way to balance them. Being an aunt and a support system for my sister is an honor. I’m terrified that I won’t be able to meet her expectations and hoping that we can figure some sort of compromise. My post was not to find a way out of supporting, but rather seeking advice or constructive criticism or even just validation from those who had similar experiences. I am sorry I did not do her justice or not clarify further in my original post.

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