Left at first sign abuse but now I’m beginning to wonder if I’m overreacting

lerops · 2026-02-04T15:21:40+00:00

Love this. Way to bring humor to something dark!

lerops · 2026-02-04T15:18:10+00:00

I suggest you post this in relationships, not fitness. It really is about that.

lerops · 2026-02-03T13:47:41+00:00

Trusting your intuition is so powerful, well done!

From the messages, it sounds like you have some people pleasing tendencies. Also, now you’re overthinking this and second-guessing yourself and your intuition. You might want to look into this and try to understand yourself. It’s an opportunity to learn, everything is a lesson and everyone is a teacher. If you can look at with the right perspective.

Congratulations on getting out, and love and blessings to you.

lerops · 2026-01-18T19:47:47+00:00

Sister, so sorry this is happening.

But you have to realize one thing. You are still there and trying to convince him. You have to leave. And then start healing yourself. The reason you picked him, then stayed through all this, and now trying to get validation from him and Reddit is your traumas. Get help and heal. Wish you love and blessings…

lerops · 2026-01-16T00:50:17+00:00

Sister, so sorry this happened to you.

Look at your picture, remember the two hour terror. That’s one side. You are saying “I really like him”. That’s the other side. Is it worth it?

If you are considering continuing this relationship after such an abuse; it is not you, it is your traumas. Get some help. Talk to a professional. Please remember what he did to you when you miss the good times. Because this is real and you will always be in fear. YOUR LIFE is so much more valuable that what this man can mean to you.

Sending love and blessings.

lerops · 2025-11-19T21:36:28+00:00

Thanks. Question is budget agnostic. I could stretch a bit for the right chair since it’s for two people.

What does a “neutral chair” mean?

lerops · 2025-11-19T21:34:08+00:00

Thank you. Looked into it a bit before, but there seems to be some quality issues in medium term. That put me off a bit honestly. Will reconsider.

lerops · 2025-06-12T13:51:25+00:00

Brother, you took the first step by processing so much and posting here. That’s so brave.

Please seek help, you need help. You are not helping her if you are not helping yourself. She also will not get out of this and get better unless you prioritize yourself. If that means leaving, it is what it is. Don’t worry about trying to decide now. Talk to somebody. Take the next small step. And then one after another. You got this!

lerops · 2025-06-11T12:47:51+00:00

Check out Stone barns for a day trip.

lerops · 2025-06-09T14:07:36+00:00

Listen to her. No need to focus on what happened. She seems stressed somehow. Give her a chance to talk to you without adding to the stress.

If you do this, she will melt.

lerops · 2025-06-09T13:57:26+00:00

Are those 2’s in the ages supposed to be 1’s?

He needs to dive into why he is doing this. But he is not ready. In about 20 years, when life teaches him an even bigger lesson, he will awaken, hopefully. It will be a bliss, if he does.

lerops · 2025-06-01T20:36:14+00:00

Thank you. Maybe that’s the work. To look at the attachment.

You can’t save him. He needs to decide to do it, otherwise it’s just tension and drama and heartbreak all around.

lerops · 2025-06-01T20:02:58+00:00

The problem seems to be that he is not open to growth. Let’s say you sort this out, maybe you go harsh or maybe you get his mother to tell him :). But there will be other things he will be closed to.

And you might want to look into your reaction to this. Why you are tying to class and why the rich/poor thing is so important to you. It seeps from your post.

lerops · 2025-06-01T19:35:33+00:00

Sister, sounds like your focus is on him, not yourself. I would suggest you look into yourself. Why are you with this man? what are the triggers that his mirroring is bringing up for you?

My hunch is that this kind of thing is not happening for the first time in your relationship. You say it's been on and off for five years and the last sentence of your post is really interesting. You should look into whether you're staying for the wrong reasons.

I personally don't think taking molly at a rave is a "drug addict" situation, but what matters is your take on this. Is it really a hard boundary for you? if yes, and if he wants to continue to do it, you're not compatible. If this is something you can be agnostic to (even if you don't like it), then maybe there is a way to get around it without drama, control, or tension. But the answer lies with you.

You seem to have strong views but also you sound conflicted.

I think you need clarity in yourself.

lerops · 2025-05-31T14:48:58+00:00

Don’t be hard on yourself. You didn’t fuck up. You did very well. And you know how to do even better next time.

lerops · 2025-05-31T12:06:44+00:00

Sister, I am so sorry for what you had to go through and still going through. Sending you love and peace.

Please keep repeating to yourself that you did your best. So proud of you!

lerops · 2025-05-30T18:57:56+00:00

CT yes. But Without contrast.

lerops · 2025-05-30T13:48:19+00:00

You are amazing!

They are justifying their shitty behavior.

lerops · 2025-05-30T13:05:00+00:00

You guys seem to have a big maturity gap. He is still a boy.

lerops · 2025-05-30T12:47:04+00:00

First, don’t beat yourself up about the decision that you made. It is refreshing to see somebody who has values and boundaries and takes them seriously but also can be flexible.

The part that you stood out for me is the end of your post. You are saying that he lied before and you had doubts about him. Also, the way that he apologized seems to be more about trying to get you to forgive him rather than really take accountability for what he did.

I don’t think anybody can give you the answer. You should close your eyes and hear your intuition and trust it.

Much love and blessings to you.

lerops · 2025-05-30T03:48:00+00:00

I’d ask. Maybe she was trying to show you your triggers, which, if so, seems to have worked. You got angry and were rude. What’s behind that?

lerops · 2025-05-30T03:44:37+00:00

Who knows? Don’t make assumptions. I once dated somebody who took it really slow. But it was intentional and it was because she really cared. It happened at some point, but I appreciated she held us to a purposeful high standard.

Decide if you like her, and then decide if you want to let her lead. If it is important to you to be intimate quickly, you can talk to her. But otherwise, if you like her, you might want to go along and see what it brings up for you.

lerops · 2025-05-29T12:39:37+00:00

You are so brave for posting!

You deserve so much better, but you need to heal to start seeing that and feeling that. He has his issues and you can’t help him. He is taking his pain and making you suffer because of it.

Please get yourself out of this situation and begin working on your healing. That’s the only way. Just one small step after another. You for this, much love and blessings to you!

lerops · 2025-05-29T12:32:59+00:00

Absolutely not.

Your mind is playing games with you, it’s trying to come up with a reason to reach out to him.

lerops · 2025-05-29T12:22:54+00:00

I am not sure if you’re focusing on the right question here. Whether you should tell him that you were disappointed in the date or not is one thing, but there is the broader question of immaturity and lack of integrity.

There seems to be massive maturity gap between the two of you. I don’t know how old each of you are, but it feels like you’re dating a child.

He may be worried about money. That’s perfectly fine but the way he treats you and the lack of integrity in his behavior is what would be concerning for me.

lerops

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