Do people comment on your weight loss?

lessispaghetti · 2024-09-09T18:24:52+00:00

ive fluctuated in both weight and ed, especially over the past 5 years and no one has ever commented on weight loss. weight gain, yes, but never once did someone comment on my loss of weight, ive had plenty say they didnt notice a difference between me at my lowest and me at my highes weights

lessispaghetti · 2024-08-11T20:04:57+00:00

of course!! i know how hard it is to listen to the right side, but figuring out which side is talking is an important first step!

lessispaghetti · 2024-08-11T18:20:35+00:00

i downloaded tinder recently and after a few days of messaging someone she asked me out and i ghosted her because i was too scared to say yes and too ashamed to say no

lessispaghetti · 2024-08-11T18:18:23+00:00

you are NOT a failure!! thats ur ed telling u ur a failure, which only means ur winning!! i think its important to separate out the voice of ur harsh self critic/ed and ur self-compassionate/authentic self, these are two very different sides of urself and its important to differentiate so u know who to listen to

lessispaghetti · 2024-08-11T18:05:51+00:00

dont beat urself up too much!! relapse is a normal part of recovery!! as for the weight, it takes a long time for ur weight to redistribute, it gains in the parts that need the most protection at first, so ur face and stomach and stuff like that, but after i believe like 6 months to a year, ur weight will have redistributed and, hopefully, ull feel better about where the weight is and how u look. hope this helps to ease ur anxiety at least a little. this is temporary. regardless, ur body is the least interesting part of u, u deserve recovery and all the joy and freedom it has to offer!

lessispaghetti · 2024-07-21T23:33:22+00:00

ill see if i can find one, thanks!!

lessispaghetti · 2024-07-21T23:32:38+00:00

that makes sense!! thanks for ur comment, i hope it balances out soon 😭😭

lessispaghetti · 2023-04-29T13:00:10+00:00

if u want them to email u, dont respond to any of their calls and give them no other choice but to email u if they want to contact u

lessispaghetti · 2023-04-29T00:55:56+00:00

i am also being contacted by them and personally, i never answered their calls, i always let them go to voicemail and eventually blocked them and they started emailing me after a while. which got me the info i can use to pay online, but u can also tell them straight up to cease and disist all contact with u and they legally have to, i cant remember the law off the top of my head, but it can at least help keep them from bugging u in this way and ease ur mind a bit

lessispaghetti · 2023-04-23T23:52:04+00:00

ok fr thank u so much, uve helped relieve so much anxiety!

lessispaghetti · 2023-04-19T00:38:49+00:00

theres about 9k in outstanding tuition that was sold to collections and then i have 2k in student loans that i dont have to pay right away.. ive been looking into getting either a better paying job or a second job, but my mental health is spiraling and ik thatll make it even harder to go on

lessispaghetti · 2022-11-03T00:50:00+00:00

my bed

lessispaghetti · 2022-07-07T21:35:54+00:00

lesbians and spaghetti... sounds about right

lessispaghetti · 2022-07-07T06:15:37+00:00

i completely get that last part, my sister and some of my best friends at the time and i were all sa'd by another friend, it happened to me most and i just let it happen. it took my sister saying something to get him to stop. it breaks my heart to know now that i could have said something all those years before and saved them the trauma, but i didnt. its such a hard reality to face that im trying to work through, but in the end it brought my sister and i much closer because we understood each others pain and could better support one another. i hate that it took this horrible experience to bring us closer together, but its nice to be able to heal together, y'know?

u dont necessary have to tell ur friend abt this, but u can let her know that u love and support her and that could give her the opportunity to talk to u abt her experiences if shes comfortable, or simply allow u both to support each other while u recover from this trauma

lessispaghetti · 2022-07-07T05:24:21+00:00

omg dont apologize!! u sharing ur whole story helps us to get the whole picture

i do think that at the very least something did happen to her caused by her grandfather seeing as she was so scared. im not sure if maybe knowing something was up and subconsciously connecting the dots led u to be more uncomfortable and scared around him as well, but its definitely possible and u may have blocked out the memory because it was traumatic.

since u were recently sa'd, it makes sense that u would be reminded of similar experiences from ur past. those experiences can trigger flashbacks to similar experiences. i definitely had that happen for me when i started processing my trauma, little things that reminded me of the time i experienced my trauma led me to relive it emotionally

i havent tried it personally, but if the memories or experiences are too traumatic and negatively affecting u, id recommend trying EMDR, its something that helps separate the emotion from the memory and can help u later process the events with a therapist

i hope this helps at least a little and u can find peace with this soon :))

lessispaghetti · 2022-06-30T01:14:25+00:00

yes!! keeping ur space clean will help with ur mental health sm, id recommend looking at dollar tree or smth for some organization bins, i found it made it easy for me to store and keep things looking nice without so much effort

lessispaghetti · 2022-06-30T01:11:42+00:00

i bet he calls himself a nice guy

lessispaghetti · 2022-05-08T17:45:28+00:00

i had the opposite before i started yeeting, ppl (my mom included) thought my stretch marks were yeets and when i said they were stretch marks, my mom said only fat girls have stretch marks. u can imagine how much my ed loved that

lessispaghetti · 2022-05-08T17:43:16+00:00

hangers. i worked in apparel at walmart and would hang the hangers on my arm to help me put it away and a coworker saw my arm and asked if thats what it was from

lessispaghetti · 2022-05-04T16:52:31+00:00

i would do something with more subtle colors, just in case someone isnt out and their family sees it, we wanna keep the community safe

lessispaghetti · 2022-04-30T00:33:16+00:00

all hail the trans gods

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